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The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt
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4 Stars

Reviewing this book in a way that seems appropriate feels like a heavy lift that I'm just not capable of doing right now...and it's been a minute since I've read this, so I just want to get something down before this turns into an "RTC" in perpetuity review. So off we go...I apologize in advance for how crappy I'm sure this will be.

I was excited to read this because - to be blunt - I basically wanted to be able to speak intelligently about something I already believe: that social media is evil.

And before I get slammed for the hypocrisy of posting this here, hold your horses.

I am aware that goodreads is technically a social media site.
But it's not Tik Tok.
It's not Instagram.
It's not YouTube.

Can it be just as destructive as any of those if someone gets overly invested and attached? Sure.

But for the purposes of this review - and much like Haidt did in this book - when I reference social media, I am referring mainly to all the Tik Toks and Instagrams out there.

Cause they are the parasites that are truly contributing to the ever-increasing rotting of our society. And yes, I really believe that. Just like I believed giving everyone a participation trophy was a bad idea back in the early 2000s.

Do I think social media has its upsides? infinitesimally. And definitely not enough to offset the downsides. Cause our brains and minds were not meant to operate this way. It's just that simple.

I thought the way Haidt unpacked the critical milestones and transitions periods of childhood was very well said and well researched. And the way he compared pre-smart phone childhoods to post-smart phone childhoods was very interesting.

I very much enjoyed the earlier and middle portions of this book overall. As I stated above, everything was very well-stated and well-researched. I did think some parts were a bit redundant. And his solution plan...while admirable and logical...I just don't know how it would get it done, sadly.

Regardless, I think this is a must read, especially for parents.

Mental Illness, narcissism, and just an overall failure to launch has because an appropriate norm. And it's scary. Your friends and followers don't need to see every meal you ate on vacation or how many times you breathed in and out today. And they don't need a daily discourse about the status of your mental health. Stop navel-gazing. Seriously. It's ridiculous. We need to all get a grip and get the fuck off our phones.
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Rain Looking forward to your thoughts. I’m #143 on my library hold lol


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Parker So excited for your review. I've heard Haidt on a few podcasts, and he lays out a startling reality of mental health, especially for young girls.


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Sheri M I'm curious about this. I work with college students and the last few freshmen classes have come in traumatized, already on code orange when they wake up every morning.


Val ⚓️ Shameless Handmaiden ⚓️ Rain wrote: "Looking forward to your thoughts. I’m #143 on my library hold lol"
Been busy, but hoping to put together a decent review soon. Thanks Rain! Hope your hold moves quickly! lol


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carol. hmmm...


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A_Ryan Im interested to read what you think of this and his four-step action plan! Intrigued...🤔


Shelby *trains flying monkeys* I've started thinking just like you have. I even spend wayyyy too much time on my phone and I'll ask myself why? and I really have no excuse.


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Cécile Smits I couldn’t agree more,and it’s good to hear i’m not the only one….Great review,Val!💞


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Rachel Hanes Fantastic review! I must say that I agree 100% with you!! I’m very curious to read this book now! Thank you for the great review and for bringing this book to my attention.


message 10: by Rain (new) - rated it 5 stars

Rain Fabulous review Val!!! This book is flying off the shelves, (I’m still on hold at the library), they had to purchase another 100 copies 😳


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Chelsea Knowles I think I’ll give this book a try now after seeing your review. I have similar feelings on social media as you. It’s ridiculous how people prioritise social media over real life.


Val ⚓️ Shameless Handmaiden ⚓️ A_Ryan wrote: "Im interested to read what you think of this and his four-step action plan! Intrigued...🤔"
Yeah, I referenced that in my review. Great in theory…


Val ⚓️ Shameless Handmaiden ⚓️ Shelby *trains flying monkeys* wrote: "I've started thinking just like you have. I even spend wayyyy too much time on my phone and I'll ask myself why? and I really have no excuse."
It’s a joke with my family that I never check my Instagram. Cause it never makes me feel good and it’s such a time suck age lol


Val ⚓️ Shameless Handmaiden ⚓️ Cécile wrote: "I couldn’t agree more,and it’s good to hear i’m not the only one….Great review,Val!💞"
Thanks dear!


Val ⚓️ Shameless Handmaiden ⚓️ Rachel wrote: "Fantastic review! I must say that I agree 100% with you!! I’m very curious to read this book now! Thank you for the great review and for bringing this book to my attention."
I hope you enjoy it if you decide to read it. And thank you, Rachel.


Val ⚓️ Shameless Handmaiden ⚓️ Rain wrote: "Fabulous review Val!!! This book is flying off the shelves, (I’m still on hold at the library), they had to purchase another 100 copies 😳"
Wow, that’s incredible! And thank you.


Val ⚓️ Shameless Handmaiden ⚓️ Chelsea wrote: "I think I’ll give this book a try now after seeing your review. I have similar feelings on social media as you. It’s ridiculous how people prioritise social media over real life."
I totally agree. It’s sad.


message 18: by Leigh (new)

Leigh Great review Val. I completely agree with you when you say social media is evil. There is so much negativity and people unable to scroll past something they don’t like. The need to say nasty things to others drives me crazy and the need to post everything is something I’m not comfortable with. Also, participation trophies are ridiculous. I grew up with winners and losers and I have functioned in life with no issues.


message 19: by Whitney Erwin (new)

Whitney Erwin Sounds interesting, Val! I don't let my 16-year-old have social media because I agree, it can be very evil. I'm going to look into this one. Thanks


message 20: by Jan (new)

Jan Well said, Val!


Val ⚓️ Shameless Handmaiden ⚓️ Leigh wrote: "Great review Val. I completely agree with you when you say social media is evil. There is so much negativity and people unable to scroll past something they don’t like. The need to say nasty things..."
Yes, exactly!


Val ⚓️ Shameless Handmaiden ⚓️ Whitney Erwin wrote: "Sounds interesting, Val! I don't let my 16-year-old have social media because I agree, it can be very evil. I'm going to look into this one. Thanks"
Good for you, Whitney!


Val ⚓️ Shameless Handmaiden ⚓️ Jan wrote: "Well said, Val!"
Thanks Jan!


Jensbookshelf Great review! I definitely will moving this up the list in my tbr pile.


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Tracy Half way through this book and I totally align with his views and yours. As a therapist I am confronted with the daily and hope this book will help others become more aware of these issues. Good review.


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HMS Agree with you 100% Val! Well stated review. I’ll put this on my TBR!


message 27: by Vintage (new)

Vintage Great review and perspective. My son (26) went down the rabbit hole during COVID with social media, conspiracy theories etc. He fluctuated from being depressed to almost paranoid, and the little I've been on Twitter I feel like Alex in Fatal Attraction...I'm not gonna be ignored!
It should be a tool, not a way of life.


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Rudro Rozario Does it talk about how we can fix this and help the brains of teenagers develop normally like they were supposed to before devices?


Val ⚓️ Shameless Handmaiden ⚓️ Jensbookshelf wrote: "Great review! I definitely will moving this up the list in my tbr pile."
Thanks Jen!


Val ⚓️ Shameless Handmaiden ⚓️ Tracy wrote: "Half way through this book and I totally align with his views and yours. As a therapist I am confronted with the daily and hope this book will help others become more aware of these issues. Good re..."
That's great to hear coming from a therapist's perspective! Thank you, Tracy!


Val ⚓️ Shameless Handmaiden ⚓️ HMS wrote: "Agree with you 100% Val! Well stated review. I’ll put this on my TBR!"
Thanks dear!


Val ⚓️ Shameless Handmaiden ⚓️ Vintage wrote: "Great review and perspective. My son (26) went down the rabbit hole during COVID with social media, conspiracy theories etc. He fluctuated from being depressed to almost paranoid, and the little I'..."
I hope your son is doing better, Vintage.


Val ⚓️ Shameless Handmaiden ⚓️ Rudro wrote: "Does it talk about how we can fix this and help the brains of teenagers develop normally like they were supposed to before devices?"
There is a solution "plan," yes.


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Vintage Val ⚓️ Shameless Handmaiden ⚓️ wrote: "Vintage wrote: "Great review and perspective. My son (26) went down the rabbit hole during COVID with social media, conspiracy theories etc. He fluctuated from being depressed to almost paranoid, a..."

Much better. Thanks!!!


Val ⚓️ Shameless Handmaiden ⚓️ Vintage wrote: "Val ⚓️ Shameless Handmaiden ⚓️ wrote: "Vintage wrote: "Great review and perspective. My son (26) went down the rabbit hole during COVID with social media, conspiracy theories etc. He fluctuated fro..."
Happy to hear that!


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Vintage Val ⚓️ Shameless Handmaiden ⚓️ wrote: "Vintage wrote: "Val ⚓️ Shameless Handmaiden ⚓️ wrote: "Vintage wrote: "Great review and perspective. My son (26) went down the rabbit hole during COVID with social media, conspiracy theories etc. H..."

Thanks.


Inés ~ Reading saved my life LOVE yr review. Thank you. I’m 35. Already battling with anxiety. I deleted all Social Media (FB, Instagram, TikTok, Twitter, Snapchat, Pinterest, Tumblr, Reddit, WhatsApp you name it) in 2020 at 31. I’d already worked out SM made my anxiety a thousand times worse. SM added depression, an eating disorder and body dysmorphia to my already supposedly underwhelming, underachieving, physically ugly and *fat* self. I truly believe the advent of SM is the worst thing to happen to humanity in the 21st century. Ignorance truly is bliss


Val ⚓️ Shameless Handmaiden ⚓️ Inés wrote: "LOVE yr review. Thank you. I’m 35. Already battling with anxiety. I deleted all Social Media (FB, Instagram, TikTok, Twitter, Snapchat, Pinterest, Tumblr, Reddit, WhatsApp you name it) in 2020 at 3..."
Hoping you continue to feel better, Inés!


David Rope Your crappy review is well said . :)


Val ⚓️ Shameless Handmaiden ⚓️ David wrote: "Your crappy review is well said . :)"
lol thank you!


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Marcie Excellent review. Will be my next read


Val ⚓️ Shameless Handmaiden ⚓️ Marcie wrote: "Excellent review. Will be my next read"
Thank you! Enjoy!


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Rachel Val, your description of yourself is priceless.


Val ⚓️ Shameless Handmaiden ⚓️ Rachel wrote: "Val, your description of yourself is priceless."
Not sure if this was meant as a complement or a criticism...so I'll just say thanks for commenting.


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L I N D S Reading this for my work book club right now!


message 46: by Vita (new) - rated it 4 stars

Vita Wish I could just point people to your review


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