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The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Caused an Epidemic of Mental Illness
After more than a decade of stability or improvement, the mental health of adolescents plunged in the early 2010s. Rates of depression, anxiety, self-harm, and suicide rose sharply, more than doubling on many measures. Why?
In The Anxious Generation, social psychologist Jonathan Haidt lays out the facts about the epidemic of teen mental illness that hit many countries at the same time. He then investigates the nature of childhood, including why children need play and independent exploration to mature into competent, thriving adults. Haidt shows how the “play-based childhood” began to decline in the 1980s, and how it was finally wiped out by the arrival of the “phone-based childhood” in the early 2010s. He presents more than a dozen mechanisms by which this “great rewiring of childhood” has interfered with children’s social and neurological development, covering everything from sleep deprivation to attention fragmentation, addiction, loneliness, social contagion, social comparison, and perfectionism. He explains why social media damages girls more than boys and why boys have been withdrawing from the real world into the virtual world, with disastrous consequences for themselves, their families, and their societies.
Most important, Haidt issues a clear call to action. He diagnoses the “collective action problems” that trap us, and then proposes four simple rules that might set us free. He describes steps that parents, teachers, schools, tech companies, and governments can take to end the epidemic of mental illness and restore a more humane childhood.
Haidt has spent his career speaking truth backed by data in the most difficult landscapes—communities polarized by politics and religion, campuses battling culture wars, and now the public health emergency faced by Gen Z. We cannot afford to ignore his findings about protecting our children—and ourselves—from the psychological damage of a phone-based life.
In The Anxious Generation, social psychologist Jonathan Haidt lays out the facts about the epidemic of teen mental illness that hit many countries at the same time. He then investigates the nature of childhood, including why children need play and independent exploration to mature into competent, thriving adults. Haidt shows how the “play-based childhood” began to decline in the 1980s, and how it was finally wiped out by the arrival of the “phone-based childhood” in the early 2010s. He presents more than a dozen mechanisms by which this “great rewiring of childhood” has interfered with children’s social and neurological development, covering everything from sleep deprivation to attention fragmentation, addiction, loneliness, social contagion, social comparison, and perfectionism. He explains why social media damages girls more than boys and why boys have been withdrawing from the real world into the virtual world, with disastrous consequences for themselves, their families, and their societies.
Most important, Haidt issues a clear call to action. He diagnoses the “collective action problems” that trap us, and then proposes four simple rules that might set us free. He describes steps that parents, teachers, schools, tech companies, and governments can take to end the epidemic of mental illness and restore a more humane childhood.
Haidt has spent his career speaking truth backed by data in the most difficult landscapes—communities polarized by politics and religion, campuses battling culture wars, and now the public health emergency faced by Gen Z. We cannot afford to ignore his findings about protecting our children—and ourselves—from the psychological damage of a phone-based life.
385 pages, Hardcover
First published March 26, 2024
About the author
Jonathan Haidt
23 books4,253 followersJonathan Haidt is the Thomas Cooley Professor of Ethical Leadership at New York University’s Stern School of Business. He obtained his PhD in social psychology from the University of Pennsylvania in 1992 and taught at the University of Virginia for sixteen years. His research focuses on moral and political psychology, as described in his book The Righteous Mind. His latest book, The Anxious Generation, is a direct continuation of the themes explored in The Coddling of the American Mind (written with Greg Lukianoff). He writes the After Babel Substack.
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May 31, 2024
4 Stars
Reviewing this book in a way that seems appropriate feels like a heavy lift that I'm just not capable of doing right now...and it's been a minute since I've read this, so I just want to get something down before this turns into an "RTC" in perpetuity review. So off we go...I apologize in advance for how crappy I'm sure this will be.
I was excited to read this because - to be blunt - I basically wanted to be able to speak intelligently about something I already believe: that social media is evil.
And before I get slammed for the hypocrisy of posting this here, hold your horses.
I am aware that goodreads is technically a social media site.
But it's not Tik Tok.
It's not Instagram.
It's not YouTube.
Can it be just as destructive as any of those if someone gets overly invested and attached? Sure.
But for the purposes of this review - and much like Haidt did in this book - when I reference social media, I am referring mainly to all the Tik Toks and Instagrams out there.
Cause they are the parasites that are truly contributing to the ever-increasing rotting of our society. And yes, I really believe that. Just like I believed giving everyone a participation trophy was a bad idea back in the early 2000s.
Do I think social media has its upsides? infinitesimally. And definitely not enough to offset the downsides. Cause our brains and minds were not meant to operate this way. It's just that simple.
I thought the way Haidt unpacked the critical milestones and transitions periods of childhood was very well said and well researched. And the way he compared pre-smart phone childhoods to post-smart phone childhoods was very interesting.
I very much enjoyed the earlier and middle portions of this book overall. As I stated above, everything was very well-stated and well-researched. I did think some parts were a bit redundant. And his solution plan...while admirable and logical...I just don't know how it would get it done, sadly.
Regardless, I think this is a must read, especially for parents.
Mental Illness, narcissism, and just an overall failure to launch has because an appropriate norm. And it's scary. Your friends and followers don't need to see every meal you ate on vacation or how many times you breathed in and out today. And they don't need a daily discourse about the status of your mental health. Stop navel-gazing. Seriously. It's ridiculous. We need to all get a grip and get the fuck off our phones.
Reviewing this book in a way that seems appropriate feels like a heavy lift that I'm just not capable of doing right now...and it's been a minute since I've read this, so I just want to get something down before this turns into an "RTC" in perpetuity review. So off we go...I apologize in advance for how crappy I'm sure this will be.
I was excited to read this because - to be blunt - I basically wanted to be able to speak intelligently about something I already believe: that social media is evil.
And before I get slammed for the hypocrisy of posting this here, hold your horses.
I am aware that goodreads is technically a social media site.
But it's not Tik Tok.
It's not Instagram.
It's not YouTube.
Can it be just as destructive as any of those if someone gets overly invested and attached? Sure.
But for the purposes of this review - and much like Haidt did in this book - when I reference social media, I am referring mainly to all the Tik Toks and Instagrams out there.
Cause they are the parasites that are truly contributing to the ever-increasing rotting of our society. And yes, I really believe that. Just like I believed giving everyone a participation trophy was a bad idea back in the early 2000s.
Do I think social media has its upsides? infinitesimally. And definitely not enough to offset the downsides. Cause our brains and minds were not meant to operate this way. It's just that simple.
I thought the way Haidt unpacked the critical milestones and transitions periods of childhood was very well said and well researched. And the way he compared pre-smart phone childhoods to post-smart phone childhoods was very interesting.
I very much enjoyed the earlier and middle portions of this book overall. As I stated above, everything was very well-stated and well-researched. I did think some parts were a bit redundant. And his solution plan...while admirable and logical...I just don't know how it would get it done, sadly.
Regardless, I think this is a must read, especially for parents.
Mental Illness, narcissism, and just an overall failure to launch has because an appropriate norm. And it's scary. Your friends and followers don't need to see every meal you ate on vacation or how many times you breathed in and out today. And they don't need a daily discourse about the status of your mental health. Stop navel-gazing. Seriously. It's ridiculous. We need to all get a grip and get the fuck off our phones.
July 17, 2024
Children should not have smartphones and social media until they are 16.
As a parent of a young child, I read this book with interest and horror. This book is about the tragic great rewiring that was inflicted on Gen Z between 2010 and 2015 that completely upended them from a normal childhood and caused a generational mental health crisis. The author does a good job of explaining himself with good research and makes a compelling case against a phone-based childhood and praises the virtues of a play-based childhood. I think this book was very good and important but I didn’t agree with everything and think some of his reasoning is actually fallacious when it comes to “helicopter” parenting, which I’ll get into.
Depression, self harm and anxiety are undoubtedly higher in Gen Z and have a sharp rise in boys and girls in 2010 and thereafter. One could speculate that these children grew up after the 9/11 era and after the 2008 financial crisis but, as the author argues, every generation has socio-economic upheaval but doesn't typically result in dramatic drop in mental health. The most likely, and obvious, explanation is that their childhood became steeped in toxic self comparisons on social media (affecting girls more) and video game and pornography addiction (affecting boys more.) Social media is a strategic, asynchronous, disembodied interaction with the aims of fostering and protecting an individual's self brand. Social media platforms are the most efficient conformity machines ever invented where a user can literally gauge approval by numerical likes and views. This is really bad for everyone and basically inhumane to expose a child’s brain to this type of thinking. When a child starts doing this around the age of 10, they chase the dopamine hit of views and likes and sink the enormous opportunity of real-life social interactions and development that prepare them for adulthood. Social media doesn’t just correlate with poor mental health, it is causative. I think the author demonstrates this beyond doubt.
Children have “defend mode” and “discovery mode”, both useful but the former gets engaged more with a phone based childhood. Free and unsupervised play foster the discovery mode where children learn how to navigate not only the three dimensional space but relationships and their own feelings. A phone based childhood constantly puts a child in defend mode which spills over to real life and chronic anxiety. Social media inflicts sleep deprivation and social deprivation along with attention fragmentation and addiction. Again, these things are awful on an already socialized adult, imagine the cost on a child’s mind that has many years to go before adult brain development.
According to the author, there are real gender differences between boys and girls which are almost certainly sociogenic (culturally created) and these differences account for the disparate impact of a phone based childhood on boys and girls. Girls strive for communion and relationship building where boys strive for self autonomy and actualization. These culturally programmed desires I believe are functionally very real. Girl aggression is relational which explains why social media impacts them more than for boys. Take all the self comparison to airbrush models on magazine covers from the 70s and now put that on hyperdrive, socialize it over a screen, adding cyber bullying and dopamine addiction, and you will have a very sad, lonely and anxious girl. For boys, video games can fragment their socialization and silo it off into asynchronous relationships that then addict and hamper their growth. The easy access to pornography, while impacting both boys and girls, seems to hit boys harder who consume it at very early ages.
Here’s where I have a problem with this book: the author creates a false dilemma between a play-based childhood and phone-based childhood. These two things are not mutually exclusive and the author likes to partition them off like they are the only two options. As a parent who is very involved with my child’s life, I take umbrage with the term “helicopter parent” which the author uses. This well intentioned author asserts many times in this book that during the 1980s, parents become overprotective and stopped letting their kids have autonomy. My first response is what!?. This overt generalization is overtly speculative and laughably simplistic. In my opinion, having more parental presence, particularly when it comes to safety, is not hampering children’s socialization and growth. I’m not joking here: the author thinks kids should be able to play in junkyards and with fire, unsupervised. Without presenting much evidence, he talks about the statistic improbability of your child being really harmed or kidnapped. Okay, but what about the stakes? They are enormous. I think it's a parents responsibility to protect them from catastrophe, regardless of how unlikely because the stakes are absolutely enormous. The author creates a false dichotomy that you either must let your children roam the streets unsupervised or put a phone in front of their faces. Of course, this is not true. There is an entire spectrum of parenting, one which could involve letting children roam under freeway overpasses while also sticking a phone in front of their noses for 6 hours a day. I found his take on this bizarre and his assertions that parent’s are hampering their children’s development with over supervision mostly unsupported. “Helicopter parenting” has become a term used by parents who don’t actively engage with their children. Anyway, I digress.
The solutions the author offers are very good: no social media or smart phones before age 16 and phone free schools. He also laments the loss of spirituality and suggests we need to engage more in shared sacredness, self transcendence (the literal opposite of social media), be slow to anger and quick to forgive (never happens on social media) and to find awe in nature. Overall, I think this was a very good book that everyone should read.
As a parent of a young child, I read this book with interest and horror. This book is about the tragic great rewiring that was inflicted on Gen Z between 2010 and 2015 that completely upended them from a normal childhood and caused a generational mental health crisis. The author does a good job of explaining himself with good research and makes a compelling case against a phone-based childhood and praises the virtues of a play-based childhood. I think this book was very good and important but I didn’t agree with everything and think some of his reasoning is actually fallacious when it comes to “helicopter” parenting, which I’ll get into.
Depression, self harm and anxiety are undoubtedly higher in Gen Z and have a sharp rise in boys and girls in 2010 and thereafter. One could speculate that these children grew up after the 9/11 era and after the 2008 financial crisis but, as the author argues, every generation has socio-economic upheaval but doesn't typically result in dramatic drop in mental health. The most likely, and obvious, explanation is that their childhood became steeped in toxic self comparisons on social media (affecting girls more) and video game and pornography addiction (affecting boys more.) Social media is a strategic, asynchronous, disembodied interaction with the aims of fostering and protecting an individual's self brand. Social media platforms are the most efficient conformity machines ever invented where a user can literally gauge approval by numerical likes and views. This is really bad for everyone and basically inhumane to expose a child’s brain to this type of thinking. When a child starts doing this around the age of 10, they chase the dopamine hit of views and likes and sink the enormous opportunity of real-life social interactions and development that prepare them for adulthood. Social media doesn’t just correlate with poor mental health, it is causative. I think the author demonstrates this beyond doubt.
Children have “defend mode” and “discovery mode”, both useful but the former gets engaged more with a phone based childhood. Free and unsupervised play foster the discovery mode where children learn how to navigate not only the three dimensional space but relationships and their own feelings. A phone based childhood constantly puts a child in defend mode which spills over to real life and chronic anxiety. Social media inflicts sleep deprivation and social deprivation along with attention fragmentation and addiction. Again, these things are awful on an already socialized adult, imagine the cost on a child’s mind that has many years to go before adult brain development.
According to the author, there are real gender differences between boys and girls which are almost certainly sociogenic (culturally created) and these differences account for the disparate impact of a phone based childhood on boys and girls. Girls strive for communion and relationship building where boys strive for self autonomy and actualization. These culturally programmed desires I believe are functionally very real. Girl aggression is relational which explains why social media impacts them more than for boys. Take all the self comparison to airbrush models on magazine covers from the 70s and now put that on hyperdrive, socialize it over a screen, adding cyber bullying and dopamine addiction, and you will have a very sad, lonely and anxious girl. For boys, video games can fragment their socialization and silo it off into asynchronous relationships that then addict and hamper their growth. The easy access to pornography, while impacting both boys and girls, seems to hit boys harder who consume it at very early ages.
Here’s where I have a problem with this book: the author creates a false dilemma between a play-based childhood and phone-based childhood. These two things are not mutually exclusive and the author likes to partition them off like they are the only two options. As a parent who is very involved with my child’s life, I take umbrage with the term “helicopter parent” which the author uses. This well intentioned author asserts many times in this book that during the 1980s, parents become overprotective and stopped letting their kids have autonomy. My first response is what!?. This overt generalization is overtly speculative and laughably simplistic. In my opinion, having more parental presence, particularly when it comes to safety, is not hampering children’s socialization and growth. I’m not joking here: the author thinks kids should be able to play in junkyards and with fire, unsupervised. Without presenting much evidence, he talks about the statistic improbability of your child being really harmed or kidnapped. Okay, but what about the stakes? They are enormous. I think it's a parents responsibility to protect them from catastrophe, regardless of how unlikely because the stakes are absolutely enormous. The author creates a false dichotomy that you either must let your children roam the streets unsupervised or put a phone in front of their faces. Of course, this is not true. There is an entire spectrum of parenting, one which could involve letting children roam under freeway overpasses while also sticking a phone in front of their noses for 6 hours a day. I found his take on this bizarre and his assertions that parent’s are hampering their children’s development with over supervision mostly unsupported. “Helicopter parenting” has become a term used by parents who don’t actively engage with their children. Anyway, I digress.
The solutions the author offers are very good: no social media or smart phones before age 16 and phone free schools. He also laments the loss of spirituality and suggests we need to engage more in shared sacredness, self transcendence (the literal opposite of social media), be slow to anger and quick to forgive (never happens on social media) and to find awe in nature. Overall, I think this was a very good book that everyone should read.
March 31, 2024
I'm more eager to recommend this book than a preteen Evangelical after watching God's Not Dead.
It's hard for me to think of a single person that would not benefit from reading this book. Especially parents.
Buy and read!
It's hard for me to think of a single person that would not benefit from reading this book. Especially parents.
Buy and read!
May 23, 2024
In Chapter 6, Haidt casually implies that more young people than ever are identifying as transgender or gender expansive due to "social contagion" theory. This theory posits that if your friends are transgender, you will become transgender. Social contagion is the root of the right-wing transphobic talking point of "rapid onset gender dysphoria," which is the false claim of increasing numbers of children suddenly identifying as trans and then accessing hormones and surgery.
In a 400-page book full of discussion on the gendered differences found among Gen Z users of social media and their mental health, Haidt spends approximately four paragraphs discussing the existence of transgender people. The three main text paragraphs are used to introduce rapid onsent gender dysphoria as legitimate: "...[T]he fact that gender dysphoria now appears in social clusters (such as a group of close friends), the fact that parents and those who transition back to their natal sex identify social media as a major source of information and encouragement, and the fact that gender dysphoria is now being diagnosed among many adolescents who showed no signs of it as children all indicate that social influence and sociogenic transmission may be at work as well." To back up these claims, Haidt cites a widely-discredited and debunked article on the phenomenon of rapid onset gender dysphoria which has been taken up by the right wing to pass anti-trans legislation. Haidt also fails to interview any transgender individuals for the book, despite inclusion of interviews with cisgender individuals throughout.
As of this book's publishing, 24 states have banned gender affirming care for youth. We know access to gender-affirming care is lifesaving and no child is walking into a doctor's office and leaving with hormones in hand. We also know about the disproportionate rate of anxiety, depression, suicide, and substance use disorders among LGBTQ+ youth. This book is lazy journalism at best and outright transphobic propaganda at worst.
In a 400-page book full of discussion on the gendered differences found among Gen Z users of social media and their mental health, Haidt spends approximately four paragraphs discussing the existence of transgender people. The three main text paragraphs are used to introduce rapid onsent gender dysphoria as legitimate: "...[T]he fact that gender dysphoria now appears in social clusters (such as a group of close friends), the fact that parents and those who transition back to their natal sex identify social media as a major source of information and encouragement, and the fact that gender dysphoria is now being diagnosed among many adolescents who showed no signs of it as children all indicate that social influence and sociogenic transmission may be at work as well." To back up these claims, Haidt cites a widely-discredited and debunked article on the phenomenon of rapid onset gender dysphoria which has been taken up by the right wing to pass anti-trans legislation. Haidt also fails to interview any transgender individuals for the book, despite inclusion of interviews with cisgender individuals throughout.
As of this book's publishing, 24 states have banned gender affirming care for youth. We know access to gender-affirming care is lifesaving and no child is walking into a doctor's office and leaving with hormones in hand. We also know about the disproportionate rate of anxiety, depression, suicide, and substance use disorders among LGBTQ+ youth. This book is lazy journalism at best and outright transphobic propaganda at worst.
May 13, 2024
I was so excited about this book and could not feel more let down. The science is presented as misleading evidence for causal inference and the citations for some of the boldest claims are weak - citing Haidt’s own Substack, analyses that Haidt says he ran but never published, work in age groups that aren’t the ones under discussion, and more.
There is also a pervasive unchecked privilege throughout the book - and its recommendations - that is cringe-worthy. These are not recommendations for all families and the work could do way more to acknowledge that. A psychologist should know better.
My most generous interpretation is that Haidt feels strongly about this topic but the book was pushed out before a rigorous scientific platform was really there. The result feels like a work that should be classified as an opinion piece, not as psychological science.
There is also a pervasive unchecked privilege throughout the book - and its recommendations - that is cringe-worthy. These are not recommendations for all families and the work could do way more to acknowledge that. A psychologist should know better.
My most generous interpretation is that Haidt feels strongly about this topic but the book was pushed out before a rigorous scientific platform was really there. The result feels like a work that should be classified as an opinion piece, not as psychological science.
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April 12, 2024I learned that all social media is bad (except goodreads, of course)
October 8, 2024
Dang - I think this is one of those books everyone should read.
March 26, 2024
5 stars. Extremely well researched book about why we should not give our kids smartphones due to indisputable evidence that it causes mental illness, anxiety and depression. Children are just not equipped for social media and the trade offs they will experience with addictive phone based free time. Kids need play time, outside with other children. This book was very enlightening and I will be recommending it to everyone I know.
September 29, 2024
I’m not really sure how relevant the observations and advice in this book will be in a couple of generations. I think our current younger generations (mostly whom will be unaware of the practices outlined) will figure out how to get through life in different ways out of necessity. What we know about child development will change epigenetically. So I’d be interested in testing this book against the world in about 30 years. Until then, what’s provided seems infinitely beneficial. I can already see it play out in my life a little - my older nephew learned to read and write in Korean as a toddler on YouTube, but there’s a distinct and immediately noticeable difference between him and my niece who only knew Elmo through books and only started getting screen time probably at age four or five, and it was one episode of Daniel Tiger a week and a yoga program she did with her dad. My niece is a lot more excited about new experiences and meeting new people. There are many factors that distinguish them, but I’ve kind believed their access to screen times was a big contributor.
September 15, 2024
Where to begin with this? This is a book that has a very specific hypothesis and sticks to it, regardless of whether or not the data employed to advance that argument is accurate or, indeed, based upon robust measures of what is being reported as the problem. This is a shame as the overall argument - that technology has “rewired” childhood for the worse - is one that many parents will want to hear and have their own suspicions confirmed. Well, this book will do that for many a reader despite its flaws.
It opens with a spurious example of kids settling Mars - spoiler: it doesn’t go well as our bodies are not adapted to a different environment, and those future hypothetical settlers of Mars are unlikely to be well adapted to return to Earth. But the drive to achieve something new is often driven by forces which do not have the best intentions for humans at heart. Essentially the thought experiment uses physiognomy as a parallel to social media use, which is dubious at best. The supposed blame being levelled at technology firms for harming children in the opening gambit seems to lack a consideration of any and all forms of regulatory or legal oversights in its rush to make a questionable situation seem far worse than it is.
Does it get much better than this? Not really.
Instead of asking who it was that enabled access to technology, devices and services (surely the domain of parents?), the writer goes straight into the blame game, levelling this square at the door of social media site creators, video game makers, and pornographers. Reading this left me baffled. While there are genuine reasons for not wanting kids to spend time engaging with material that’s inappropriate for them, I was perplexed as to how the age limits imposed on these products by third parties and the lack of parental control were seldom mentioned. It’s as if the kids mentioned were able to gorge themselves unrestrained on all-you-can-eat buffet of uncensored digital content. Parental controls have existed since I was a teenager so how come they aren’t being considered, never mind enforced? Is it because that would make for some uncomfortable shifting in blame? At least the conclusion of the book does encourage parents to get acquainted with these tools… but still, this is left until rather late and fails to engage with the point when it presented itself.
What’s next? Compare social media to tobacco? Lead paint? Yup.
At least he makes some solid claims about displacement activities and sleep deprivation having negative social consequences. These are clearly valid points, and I am broadly sympathetic to the general thesis, but the science of devices and blue-light circadian rhythms’ impact upon sleep are highly disputed when it comes to this line of argumentation (as pointed out by Pete Etchells in his book, Unlocked: The Real Science of Screen Time). Why not look at, say, diet and concentrations of sugar, caffeine and artificial sweeteners alongside this data? Why not consider how access to digital media has enabled young people to see through the shallow promises of neoliberal precariousness?
Nah, it must be the phones.
And then, the book seriously detours. We have a significant section that is reliant upon Johann Hari’s "Stolen Focus" - a writer who is not without controversy with regard to integrity. That the same anecdote about a bored and displaced teen gets dragged up a few times to fill the narrative, when many readers will have serious doubts about Hari’s recollection of such an event given his past record, seems convenient but unconvincing. Remember, this is the same book that took until page 176 (!) to announce “We don’t have any long-term studies tracking changes in people’s ability to focus over time”, rendering much of the work a pure speculation. And this book is cited several times. Please refer to the section in Pete Etchell’s book about studies into attention for more nuance.
At least Haidt is circumspect about the impact of technology on boys in chapter 7. But that doesn’t stop him from blaming video games for social disconnection and rise in nihilistic beliefs, circa a cursory reference to Durkheim’s work, in an effort to explain why suicidal ideation is more impactful in girls over boys - with none of the methodological reflection that this work entailed (ie Durkheim's infamous ecological fallacy debate). Given Durkheim’s work on suicide data in Christian France pointed to the problem in keeping accurate records of self harm due to cultural norms regarding spiritual ascendancy (suicide is a sin; denied a Christian funeral, differences between Catholics and Protestants, etc), we should be alert to what seems like a cherry-picked approach to ideas that fit the author’s thesis while avoiding addressing some of the implications of such an approach. That oversight might be forgiven if the next chapter wasn’t dedicated to the importance of “spirituality”…
What follows is a chapter that is more of a rumination on the decline in social bonds that, obviously, he blames upon technology. Somewhere, I suspect there’s a parallel chain of thought which also points to digital connectedness as the source of this real world fragmentation. It’s possible that what we once thought of as community norms only fit for the vocal in the demos and that a significantly silent proportion of the community didn’t agree with all the norms that supposedly bound us together, yet they went along with them because doing so provided societal benefits. Now, access to alternatives via digitally social connectedness means that similar beliefs can be found outside the geographical community, hence undermining the importance of traditional norms. It seems Haidt likes the argument against modernity though. For him, time and space have become disembodied from the real world, thus meaning dissipates. Structured rituals lose their meaning. I’ll remember that when I have to miss the big game because I have to work this weekend.
And yet… do I think that too much screen media at too soon an age is potentially detrimental to young (and old!) people? I’d issue a hesitant 'yes' here. This book makes for alarmist rhetoric: after all Haidt has something to sell and the stance he takes here is probably part of that process. I’m sure he means well. I’m just not sure I think the evidence base he presents is a solid as he claims. Aaron Brown has done a fair job of calling these claims into question, having pointed out that of the 476 studies Haidt mentions in his book, two third of them were originally published before 2010, and only 22 of them have data on heavy social media use or mental health: none have both.
I’d recommend people check that out via Reason's website:
https://reason.com/video/2024/04/02/t...
There are other issues in the way his data is employed, as others like Ruben Arslan have pointed out re: the 2017 'brain drain' claim.
One thing that Haidt has claimed is that he will update his associated book site with responses to criticism and the errors in his data. At the time of writing, it has received only one correction update… [edit Sept 1t5th] now 2 following Ruben C Arslan's critique (although Haidt misspelled his name!) which either points to the confidence in the claims or that he's not taking many of the criticisms seriously. Hard to say. Anne Scheel has offered an explanatory account of why these erratum sites exist. Readers can draw their own conclusions.
It opens with a spurious example of kids settling Mars - spoiler: it doesn’t go well as our bodies are not adapted to a different environment, and those future hypothetical settlers of Mars are unlikely to be well adapted to return to Earth. But the drive to achieve something new is often driven by forces which do not have the best intentions for humans at heart. Essentially the thought experiment uses physiognomy as a parallel to social media use, which is dubious at best. The supposed blame being levelled at technology firms for harming children in the opening gambit seems to lack a consideration of any and all forms of regulatory or legal oversights in its rush to make a questionable situation seem far worse than it is.
Does it get much better than this? Not really.
Instead of asking who it was that enabled access to technology, devices and services (surely the domain of parents?), the writer goes straight into the blame game, levelling this square at the door of social media site creators, video game makers, and pornographers. Reading this left me baffled. While there are genuine reasons for not wanting kids to spend time engaging with material that’s inappropriate for them, I was perplexed as to how the age limits imposed on these products by third parties and the lack of parental control were seldom mentioned. It’s as if the kids mentioned were able to gorge themselves unrestrained on all-you-can-eat buffet of uncensored digital content. Parental controls have existed since I was a teenager so how come they aren’t being considered, never mind enforced? Is it because that would make for some uncomfortable shifting in blame? At least the conclusion of the book does encourage parents to get acquainted with these tools… but still, this is left until rather late and fails to engage with the point when it presented itself.
What’s next? Compare social media to tobacco? Lead paint? Yup.
At least he makes some solid claims about displacement activities and sleep deprivation having negative social consequences. These are clearly valid points, and I am broadly sympathetic to the general thesis, but the science of devices and blue-light circadian rhythms’ impact upon sleep are highly disputed when it comes to this line of argumentation (as pointed out by Pete Etchells in his book, Unlocked: The Real Science of Screen Time). Why not look at, say, diet and concentrations of sugar, caffeine and artificial sweeteners alongside this data? Why not consider how access to digital media has enabled young people to see through the shallow promises of neoliberal precariousness?
Nah, it must be the phones.
And then, the book seriously detours. We have a significant section that is reliant upon Johann Hari’s "Stolen Focus" - a writer who is not without controversy with regard to integrity. That the same anecdote about a bored and displaced teen gets dragged up a few times to fill the narrative, when many readers will have serious doubts about Hari’s recollection of such an event given his past record, seems convenient but unconvincing. Remember, this is the same book that took until page 176 (!) to announce “We don’t have any long-term studies tracking changes in people’s ability to focus over time”, rendering much of the work a pure speculation. And this book is cited several times. Please refer to the section in Pete Etchell’s book about studies into attention for more nuance.
At least Haidt is circumspect about the impact of technology on boys in chapter 7. But that doesn’t stop him from blaming video games for social disconnection and rise in nihilistic beliefs, circa a cursory reference to Durkheim’s work, in an effort to explain why suicidal ideation is more impactful in girls over boys - with none of the methodological reflection that this work entailed (ie Durkheim's infamous ecological fallacy debate). Given Durkheim’s work on suicide data in Christian France pointed to the problem in keeping accurate records of self harm due to cultural norms regarding spiritual ascendancy (suicide is a sin; denied a Christian funeral, differences between Catholics and Protestants, etc), we should be alert to what seems like a cherry-picked approach to ideas that fit the author’s thesis while avoiding addressing some of the implications of such an approach. That oversight might be forgiven if the next chapter wasn’t dedicated to the importance of “spirituality”…
What follows is a chapter that is more of a rumination on the decline in social bonds that, obviously, he blames upon technology. Somewhere, I suspect there’s a parallel chain of thought which also points to digital connectedness as the source of this real world fragmentation. It’s possible that what we once thought of as community norms only fit for the vocal in the demos and that a significantly silent proportion of the community didn’t agree with all the norms that supposedly bound us together, yet they went along with them because doing so provided societal benefits. Now, access to alternatives via digitally social connectedness means that similar beliefs can be found outside the geographical community, hence undermining the importance of traditional norms. It seems Haidt likes the argument against modernity though. For him, time and space have become disembodied from the real world, thus meaning dissipates. Structured rituals lose their meaning. I’ll remember that when I have to miss the big game because I have to work this weekend.
And yet… do I think that too much screen media at too soon an age is potentially detrimental to young (and old!) people? I’d issue a hesitant 'yes' here. This book makes for alarmist rhetoric: after all Haidt has something to sell and the stance he takes here is probably part of that process. I’m sure he means well. I’m just not sure I think the evidence base he presents is a solid as he claims. Aaron Brown has done a fair job of calling these claims into question, having pointed out that of the 476 studies Haidt mentions in his book, two third of them were originally published before 2010, and only 22 of them have data on heavy social media use or mental health: none have both.
I’d recommend people check that out via Reason's website:
https://reason.com/video/2024/04/02/t...
There are other issues in the way his data is employed, as others like Ruben Arslan have pointed out re: the 2017 'brain drain' claim.
One thing that Haidt has claimed is that he will update his associated book site with responses to criticism and the errors in his data. At the time of writing, it has received only one correction update… [edit Sept 1t5th] now 2 following Ruben C Arslan's critique (although Haidt misspelled his name!) which either points to the confidence in the claims or that he's not taking many of the criticisms seriously. Hard to say. Anne Scheel has offered an explanatory account of why these erratum sites exist. Readers can draw their own conclusions.
May 13, 2024
If you are a parent of a child between the ages of 0 and 18: please do yourself the favor of reading Jonathon Haidt’s book “The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness”. It may save yourself much frustration, fear, and grief down the line.
Haidt’s book is the inevitable endpoint of research and knowledge that started in 2010 with Nicholas Carr’s book “The Shallows: What the Internet is Doing to To Our Brains” and followed, in 2022, by Johann Hari’s book “Stolen Focus: Why You Can’t pay Attention—-and How to Think Deeply Again”.
Haidt’s book provides conclusive (or pretty damned near) evidence of what Carr could only hypothetically predict would happen 14 years later and substantiates, with further studies and statistics, what Hari was saying in his book.
The basic premise is this: Sometime around the years 2010 to 2015, something drastic and worrisome started happening to children born in the late-1990s (a demographic of children often referred to as “Gen Z”). Rates of childhood depression, anxiety, and suicidal ideation began to skyrocket across the country. This was across racial, ethnic, and gender lines, although it seemed to effect girls more.
Haidt and his researchers believe that a combination of factors are the reason for these high rates of mental illness among children.
One factor is a type of parenting called “helicopter parenting” that became prevalent, which essentially involves an extreme overprotection of children, out of an irrational sense of safety, that does not allow—-or over-regulates—-certain childish activities that children of the ‘70s and ‘80s engaged in quite regularly: climbing trees, walking unsupervised to the park or school or store, playing on a playground, skateboarding, staying in a house by him or herself.
Another factor is the prevalence of devices that allowed children a preponderance of “screen time” that far exceeded previous norms in previous generations. Haidt directly links this rise of device usage to the introduction of smartphones (specifically, iPhones, which were brought to market in 2007) and popular social media platforms like Facebook (launched in 2004).
A third factor is an inexplicable “underprotection” of children from the Internet and, specifically, social media sites. So-called helicopter parents were fearful of their children playing on a jungle gym, but they seemed to have a complete lack of worry about their children being vulnerable to cyberbullying or on-line sexual predators. One explanation for this—-given by parents themselves in studies—-is the parents’ own distractedness and addiction to device usage.
Haidt’s solutions—-based on the advice of mental health professionals, educators, and social scientists—-is weirdly simple: Don’t give your kid a smartphone until they are about 16-18; Limit kids in both time and access to the Internet; allow kids to do more activities unsupervised; increase the amount of playtime for kids.
According to almost every scientific study, playtime has been shown to be vitally important to a child’s development. Despite this fact, many schools have limited or eliminated playtime and replaced it with more academics, such as testing, to detrimental results. Thankfully, there is a swing back towards more playtime during school hours, especially more unsupervised playtime.
Even Haidt acknowledges that it goes against every fiber in one’s being to let your kid walk to the grocery store in town by him or herself. On the same token, it’s hard to give up the “babysitter” benefits of the iPad or iPhone.
I’ll be honest: I get a shitload of laundry and house-cleaning done when my daughter is curled up on the couch playing God-knows-what on her iPad, and while I trust that my daughter is playing appropriate games and not browsing Youtube for porn, I realize that it’s not the healthiest thing for her.
Seriously, Haidt’s book is an important resource for parents, teachers, and health care providers. We need to be more aggressive advocates for the health of our children, but if healthier children means loosening the reins and letting our kids engage in more risky activities by themselves while simultaneously limiting—-or forbidding—-access to stupid shit like Snapchat, Instagram, or Facebook, then we need to do some serious soul-searching as parents.
Haidt’s book is the inevitable endpoint of research and knowledge that started in 2010 with Nicholas Carr’s book “The Shallows: What the Internet is Doing to To Our Brains” and followed, in 2022, by Johann Hari’s book “Stolen Focus: Why You Can’t pay Attention—-and How to Think Deeply Again”.
Haidt’s book provides conclusive (or pretty damned near) evidence of what Carr could only hypothetically predict would happen 14 years later and substantiates, with further studies and statistics, what Hari was saying in his book.
The basic premise is this: Sometime around the years 2010 to 2015, something drastic and worrisome started happening to children born in the late-1990s (a demographic of children often referred to as “Gen Z”). Rates of childhood depression, anxiety, and suicidal ideation began to skyrocket across the country. This was across racial, ethnic, and gender lines, although it seemed to effect girls more.
Haidt and his researchers believe that a combination of factors are the reason for these high rates of mental illness among children.
One factor is a type of parenting called “helicopter parenting” that became prevalent, which essentially involves an extreme overprotection of children, out of an irrational sense of safety, that does not allow—-or over-regulates—-certain childish activities that children of the ‘70s and ‘80s engaged in quite regularly: climbing trees, walking unsupervised to the park or school or store, playing on a playground, skateboarding, staying in a house by him or herself.
Another factor is the prevalence of devices that allowed children a preponderance of “screen time” that far exceeded previous norms in previous generations. Haidt directly links this rise of device usage to the introduction of smartphones (specifically, iPhones, which were brought to market in 2007) and popular social media platforms like Facebook (launched in 2004).
A third factor is an inexplicable “underprotection” of children from the Internet and, specifically, social media sites. So-called helicopter parents were fearful of their children playing on a jungle gym, but they seemed to have a complete lack of worry about their children being vulnerable to cyberbullying or on-line sexual predators. One explanation for this—-given by parents themselves in studies—-is the parents’ own distractedness and addiction to device usage.
Haidt’s solutions—-based on the advice of mental health professionals, educators, and social scientists—-is weirdly simple: Don’t give your kid a smartphone until they are about 16-18; Limit kids in both time and access to the Internet; allow kids to do more activities unsupervised; increase the amount of playtime for kids.
According to almost every scientific study, playtime has been shown to be vitally important to a child’s development. Despite this fact, many schools have limited or eliminated playtime and replaced it with more academics, such as testing, to detrimental results. Thankfully, there is a swing back towards more playtime during school hours, especially more unsupervised playtime.
Even Haidt acknowledges that it goes against every fiber in one’s being to let your kid walk to the grocery store in town by him or herself. On the same token, it’s hard to give up the “babysitter” benefits of the iPad or iPhone.
I’ll be honest: I get a shitload of laundry and house-cleaning done when my daughter is curled up on the couch playing God-knows-what on her iPad, and while I trust that my daughter is playing appropriate games and not browsing Youtube for porn, I realize that it’s not the healthiest thing for her.
Seriously, Haidt’s book is an important resource for parents, teachers, and health care providers. We need to be more aggressive advocates for the health of our children, but if healthier children means loosening the reins and letting our kids engage in more risky activities by themselves while simultaneously limiting—-or forbidding—-access to stupid shit like Snapchat, Instagram, or Facebook, then we need to do some serious soul-searching as parents.
April 28, 2024
This book is going to be my new go-to baby shower gift for new parents that I know and love well, wrapped up nicely with a Sophie Giraffe on top. I share Haidt's sense of urgency on the issue of smartphones and adolescents; parents need to figure out their take on screens before the kids are old enough to start asking. Neil Postman's Amusing Ourselves to Death helped me do that in the early 2000's, long before I was a parent myself. But Postman, writing in the mid-1980's and primarily concerned with television, could not have imagined what was coming.
I savored The Anxious Generation, and I'm so grateful to Haidt for writing it. In it, Haidt carefully unpacks with clear and engaging writing what he refers to as The Great Rewiring of Childhood: "...a profound transformation of human consciousness and relationships [that] occurred, for American teens, between 2010 and 2015. This is the birth of the phone-based childhood. It marks the definitive end of the play-based childhood" (34-35).
Haidt argues that as a society we've made two big mistakes that have contributed to an international mental health crisis among adolescents: "overprotecting children in the real world (where they need to learn from vast amounts of direct experience) and underprotecting them online (where they are particularly vulnerable during puberty)" (15). I believe down to my core that Haidt is right on this. Abigail Shrier's excellent book Bad Therapy argues the first point. But I think Haidt is right not to neglect the second point. They clearly go together.
Anyone who has read a few of my Goodreads reviews may have noticed that I have written about smartphones and children before. Out of conviction, my husband and I decided that we will not buy smartphones for our kids. This includes our teenager, who is not aware of even a single other student in her secondary school who, like her, does not own a smartphone. In our experience, many parents at our kids' schools started buying smartphones for their children in Year 5 (The UK equivalent of 4th grade in the USA). This comports with Haidt's findings, and feels absurd to us. Our sense is that, with the exception of a few fellow religious friends, both Christian and Muslim, we are largely standing alone on this issue. As Haidt points out, "an individual acting alone faces high costs, but if people can coordinate and act together, they can more easily choose actions that are better for all in the long run" (12). This book, which already seems to have won a large readership, encourages me that a good change may be on the horizon.
I have only one criticism of The Anxious Generation but it is more personal in nature, and so does not tip the scales much against this book. Unlike Haidt, an atheist, I believe as a Christian that human beings are more than just "highly sociable mammals" (70) who have evolved to thrive under certain social conditions. I want more for my children than to help them grow into "socially functional adults" (54) who will enjoy "success" in the culture I find myself in. I don't believe that videogame addiction and pornography use are harmful and wrong solely because they tamper with our "evolved desires" (196) and prevent us from having "real world exploration and adventure" (193). Unlike Haidt, I believe that the "God-shaped hole" is real, and not something that "natural selection might have carved" (215). At the end of the day, what can Haidt say to the Hikikomori who assures us that he is happy and fulfilled living his confined, nocturnal, socially withdrawn existence? It's not obvious to me that Haidt would have anything much to say to that Hikikomori. Haidt's argument is especially profound and urgent to me because I believe that we are made in God's image, to live in his world and enjoy communion with him and our fellow human beings. Anything that puts a barrier between the chief end for which we are made and my kids is something that I will take pains to avoid.
That said, The Anxious Generation is a book for everyone, not just parents. I sincerely hope that my kids' school administrators will read it. This is where I think this book could have the biggest impact.
I savored The Anxious Generation, and I'm so grateful to Haidt for writing it. In it, Haidt carefully unpacks with clear and engaging writing what he refers to as The Great Rewiring of Childhood: "...a profound transformation of human consciousness and relationships [that] occurred, for American teens, between 2010 and 2015. This is the birth of the phone-based childhood. It marks the definitive end of the play-based childhood" (34-35).
Haidt argues that as a society we've made two big mistakes that have contributed to an international mental health crisis among adolescents: "overprotecting children in the real world (where they need to learn from vast amounts of direct experience) and underprotecting them online (where they are particularly vulnerable during puberty)" (15). I believe down to my core that Haidt is right on this. Abigail Shrier's excellent book Bad Therapy argues the first point. But I think Haidt is right not to neglect the second point. They clearly go together.
Anyone who has read a few of my Goodreads reviews may have noticed that I have written about smartphones and children before. Out of conviction, my husband and I decided that we will not buy smartphones for our kids. This includes our teenager, who is not aware of even a single other student in her secondary school who, like her, does not own a smartphone. In our experience, many parents at our kids' schools started buying smartphones for their children in Year 5 (The UK equivalent of 4th grade in the USA). This comports with Haidt's findings, and feels absurd to us. Our sense is that, with the exception of a few fellow religious friends, both Christian and Muslim, we are largely standing alone on this issue. As Haidt points out, "an individual acting alone faces high costs, but if people can coordinate and act together, they can more easily choose actions that are better for all in the long run" (12). This book, which already seems to have won a large readership, encourages me that a good change may be on the horizon.
I have only one criticism of The Anxious Generation but it is more personal in nature, and so does not tip the scales much against this book. Unlike Haidt, an atheist, I believe as a Christian that human beings are more than just "highly sociable mammals" (70) who have evolved to thrive under certain social conditions. I want more for my children than to help them grow into "socially functional adults" (54) who will enjoy "success" in the culture I find myself in. I don't believe that videogame addiction and pornography use are harmful and wrong solely because they tamper with our "evolved desires" (196) and prevent us from having "real world exploration and adventure" (193). Unlike Haidt, I believe that the "God-shaped hole" is real, and not something that "natural selection might have carved" (215). At the end of the day, what can Haidt say to the Hikikomori who assures us that he is happy and fulfilled living his confined, nocturnal, socially withdrawn existence? It's not obvious to me that Haidt would have anything much to say to that Hikikomori. Haidt's argument is especially profound and urgent to me because I believe that we are made in God's image, to live in his world and enjoy communion with him and our fellow human beings. Anything that puts a barrier between the chief end for which we are made and my kids is something that I will take pains to avoid.
That said, The Anxious Generation is a book for everyone, not just parents. I sincerely hope that my kids' school administrators will read it. This is where I think this book could have the biggest impact.
April 3, 2024
Some people are out here saying that Haidt is fear mongering when it comes to the link between social media and poor mental health outcomes. And to those people I say...you've got to be joking. The link is clear. If you doubted it, you won't after reading this book.
This book is a mixture of science, research, tips for parents, and suggested policy changes. If you are just wanting some guidance on what limits to set with your kid's tech use, I think you'd find this cumbersome. You could get a lot of the main points by looking him up on YouTube and listening to some of his interviews. But if you are interested in psychology, sociology, etc., I think you'll appreciate how thorough he is.
I love liberty, but I am totally in support of Haidt's policy suggestions to limit minors' access to social media and place more accountability in the hands of Big Tech. As smart as we parents may be, we are no match for AI and sophisticated algorithms. Y'all, they could stop this nonsense if they wanted to. But they don't because they're making too much money off exploiting our kids. We as parents must protect our children using every tool available to us. (I am apalled at how many of my peers treat schools with derision when they try to set phone limits during school hours.)
We've got to be in lock step on this.
This book is a mixture of science, research, tips for parents, and suggested policy changes. If you are just wanting some guidance on what limits to set with your kid's tech use, I think you'd find this cumbersome. You could get a lot of the main points by looking him up on YouTube and listening to some of his interviews. But if you are interested in psychology, sociology, etc., I think you'll appreciate how thorough he is.
I love liberty, but I am totally in support of Haidt's policy suggestions to limit minors' access to social media and place more accountability in the hands of Big Tech. As smart as we parents may be, we are no match for AI and sophisticated algorithms. Y'all, they could stop this nonsense if they wanted to. But they don't because they're making too much money off exploiting our kids. We as parents must protect our children using every tool available to us. (I am apalled at how many of my peers treat schools with derision when they try to set phone limits during school hours.)
We've got to be in lock step on this.
June 6, 2024
The most important book I’ll read this year. I wish I could put this into the hands of every parent, every teacher, every caregiver, and every teen. So much data and research, combined with TANGIBLE action steps I actually feel equipped to take.
July 25, 2024
Uniquely bad — Haidt repeatedly notes that what you do is more important than what you say but then also admits he follows none of his advice in practice. Someone needs to tell him that acknowledging a counterargument with one sentence isn’t the same as refuting it (let’s not even get started with his transgender social contagion theory).
Also, this was such a privileged perspective (which he didn’t even acknowledge — not everyone’s 12 year old can just hail a cab when they’re out late without a phone). This was written like an OpEd, but was actually worse since Haidt has never experienced growing up with technology firsthand, so he’s merely speculating about what that feels like and using Wikipedia as a source to back up his claims.
He had some interesting points about tracking your kid that I agree with (i.e. don’t do that), but once again he himself doesn’t even follow this advice (he tracks his kids anyway. Go figure).
Also, this was such a privileged perspective (which he didn’t even acknowledge — not everyone’s 12 year old can just hail a cab when they’re out late without a phone). This was written like an OpEd, but was actually worse since Haidt has never experienced growing up with technology firsthand, so he’s merely speculating about what that feels like and using Wikipedia as a source to back up his claims.
He had some interesting points about tracking your kid that I agree with (i.e. don’t do that), but once again he himself doesn’t even follow this advice (he tracks his kids anyway. Go figure).
June 5, 2024
I finished this a few days ago, but just never got around to writing a review.
I like Haidt a lot, and I believe a lot of his work aims to take on large problems in an earnest and benevolent way, using data when available and common sense where necessary. This book is similar in that vein, but left me somewhat underwhelmed.
To be clear, I do think Haidt is on to something with his larger argument. The declining trends in mental health are undeniable, and they do seem to coincide with the rise of cell phones/social media that Haidt alludes to in this book. I’m somewhat sympathetic to the critics of this book that a lot of what he cites in the book is merely correlational, but YOU go ahead and try to get a randomized study by an IRB in this vein and tell me how far you get. I also give kudos to Haidt for trying to collect a lot of his evidence in a really public way (see the Google docs), and feel like he’s tried to be transparent about conclusions we just can’t be certain about yet.
But my biggest gripe with this book is that the argument just needs a lot of tightening. Haidt cites a lot of other people’s work and his efforts at synthesizing it all fell sort of flat for me. Like is the cause of all this anxiety social media (specifically)? Cell phones (generally)? Parenting styles? All of the above? I feel like the book throws all of these explanations at me, and I feel like each one sounds reasonable enough, but none of them struck me as being individually convincing causal mechanisms for the downstream side effects. Collectively, I didn’t feel like they were weaved together in a coherent enough way either.
As I said before, I think Haidt is certainly on to something here. The trends he identifies are certainly problematic and I’m glad somebody is sounding the alarm bells. The solutions (“new norms”) he proposes all seem like smart ideas, even if they are somewhat wishful thinking. I’m just not sure he’s really nailed down the cause yet. It’s like he’s a doctor who’s identified some troubling symptoms, prescribed some cures that seem promising, but still hasn’t diagnosed the root disease. Maybe I’m being an unfair critic and forcing Haidt into simplifying an inevitably complex topic. But that’s how this thing felt to me.
I like Haidt a lot, and I believe a lot of his work aims to take on large problems in an earnest and benevolent way, using data when available and common sense where necessary. This book is similar in that vein, but left me somewhat underwhelmed.
To be clear, I do think Haidt is on to something with his larger argument. The declining trends in mental health are undeniable, and they do seem to coincide with the rise of cell phones/social media that Haidt alludes to in this book. I’m somewhat sympathetic to the critics of this book that a lot of what he cites in the book is merely correlational, but YOU go ahead and try to get a randomized study by an IRB in this vein and tell me how far you get. I also give kudos to Haidt for trying to collect a lot of his evidence in a really public way (see the Google docs), and feel like he’s tried to be transparent about conclusions we just can’t be certain about yet.
But my biggest gripe with this book is that the argument just needs a lot of tightening. Haidt cites a lot of other people’s work and his efforts at synthesizing it all fell sort of flat for me. Like is the cause of all this anxiety social media (specifically)? Cell phones (generally)? Parenting styles? All of the above? I feel like the book throws all of these explanations at me, and I feel like each one sounds reasonable enough, but none of them struck me as being individually convincing causal mechanisms for the downstream side effects. Collectively, I didn’t feel like they were weaved together in a coherent enough way either.
As I said before, I think Haidt is certainly on to something here. The trends he identifies are certainly problematic and I’m glad somebody is sounding the alarm bells. The solutions (“new norms”) he proposes all seem like smart ideas, even if they are somewhat wishful thinking. I’m just not sure he’s really nailed down the cause yet. It’s like he’s a doctor who’s identified some troubling symptoms, prescribed some cures that seem promising, but still hasn’t diagnosed the root disease. Maybe I’m being an unfair critic and forcing Haidt into simplifying an inevitably complex topic. But that’s how this thing felt to me.
June 14, 2024
Some of this book I was totally on board with, some of it had parts I had a harder time agreeing 100% with. This book is very thorough, though. Are kids growing up in this time of AI and other technologies losing some critical piece of childhood development? Has it hindered their social capacities with other humans? The solutions the author suggests are very multifaceted approaches. A complete overhaul and redesign of the educational system that is currently in place would have to pass through Congress and cutting through all of that red tape seems impossible.
A lot of food for thought. What is needed is action it seems. I like books like these because they show what implemented change could look like. I dislike books like these because that’s generally where it ends. Nothing gets resolved. It’s a good book to reflect on. Society moves on. I’m hopeful we can do better by some future generations but it’s truly going to be an uphill battle at the pace we are going I fear.
A lot of food for thought. What is needed is action it seems. I like books like these because they show what implemented change could look like. I dislike books like these because that’s generally where it ends. Nothing gets resolved. It’s a good book to reflect on. Society moves on. I’m hopeful we can do better by some future generations but it’s truly going to be an uphill battle at the pace we are going I fear.
April 12, 2024
This book is very good and I would encourage everyone, but especially those with children, to read it. However it's also frustrating because the evidence seems so clear that we are headed towards a bad result and we will just not course correct in any sort of meaningful way. I hope this book inspires A) a small amount of parents to be more intentional with their kid's level of screens, B) a small amount of people to be more intentional with their own level of screens, and C) more research and books into this topic which will hopefully result in D) some actual change on a societal level.
But we'll see.
But we'll see.
June 21, 2024
This book was a super interesting read for me as a millennial. I’m only six years older than the oldest Gen Zs (we would have been in elementary school at the same time!) but in many ways, their upbringings and teen years were so different from mine due to the rapid acceleration of social media and smartphones. This book really gave me a peek into their world. I don’t agree with all of the author’s arguments and conclusions, and parts of the book felt a bit dry, but overall it was pretty insightful. I think this is a worthwhile read for anyone interested in the direction our society is heading in…whether you’re a parent, a young person, or (like me) just curious.
Shelved as 'dnf'
October 3, 2024DNF. You've heard "this could've been an email" in reference to meetings. Now meet "this could've been a blog post" instead of a book. And it probably should've been.
Way too many anecdotes that shouldn't be generalized and far too little actual data to back up some pretty big claims. Which is a shame, because I do believe that social media algorithms and constant smartphone usage are having negative mental/emotional impacts on young people—but there's not enough here to firmly back up that hypothesis or to realistically hash out potential course corrections for that issue.
It feels like the author had a good idea he wanted to explore, but he wasn't patient enough to wait for the necessary research to support the premise to be conducted and published. So what we ended up with is a bunch of claims that aren't properly supported, along with some odd tangents that seem like filler. (The spirituality chapter, in particular, really threw me off. It felt so out of place after all the previous chapters with their graphs and charts and percentages.)
When I finally got through all the claims and reached the part of the book where the author was going to explain his proposed "solutions," I had too much doubt about the "evidence" for those claims to be interested in reading about those "solutions." So...I didn't.
Way too many anecdotes that shouldn't be generalized and far too little actual data to back up some pretty big claims. Which is a shame, because I do believe that social media algorithms and constant smartphone usage are having negative mental/emotional impacts on young people—but there's not enough here to firmly back up that hypothesis or to realistically hash out potential course corrections for that issue.
It feels like the author had a good idea he wanted to explore, but he wasn't patient enough to wait for the necessary research to support the premise to be conducted and published. So what we ended up with is a bunch of claims that aren't properly supported, along with some odd tangents that seem like filler. (The spirituality chapter, in particular, really threw me off. It felt so out of place after all the previous chapters with their graphs and charts and percentages.)
When I finally got through all the claims and reached the part of the book where the author was going to explain his proposed "solutions," I had too much doubt about the "evidence" for those claims to be interested in reading about those "solutions." So...I didn't.
July 24, 2024
If you are a parent I think this is well worth reading. While I think there are a few blindspots and I don't fully agree with everything, I think the general message is an important one. Modern parents tend to be too overprotective in the real world while not doing nearly enough to protect their kids in the virtual one. The Anxious Generation draws on social science research and creates a compelling argument for delaying smart phones and social media, and having phone-free schools while also allowing our kids more free play time and age-appropriate independence. I found it helpful and thought-provoking.
That said, there are some real-world suggestions made here that would be far less safe for kids of color or visibly gender-queer kids than they probably are for the children of the author. There are good reasons why we don't do sleepovers, and I wouldn't do sleepaway camp until the teen years. But not every family and child is the same. I also don't love how heavily gendered everything in this book is because it makes some sweeping assumptions and doesn't really offer help for families with trans or gender-expansive kids.
I am coming away from this thinking of ways I can allow more independence for my kids, and feel good about the fact that I wasn't going to let them have smartphones or do social media any time soon anyway. I think he also taps into the fact that parents are often not having conversations about things like pornography and sexting early enough with their children. This stuff often starts happening in late elementary school and while it may be uncomfortable, by the time our kids are nearing their tween years we need to be having open discussions and educating them.
That said, there are some real-world suggestions made here that would be far less safe for kids of color or visibly gender-queer kids than they probably are for the children of the author. There are good reasons why we don't do sleepovers, and I wouldn't do sleepaway camp until the teen years. But not every family and child is the same. I also don't love how heavily gendered everything in this book is because it makes some sweeping assumptions and doesn't really offer help for families with trans or gender-expansive kids.
I am coming away from this thinking of ways I can allow more independence for my kids, and feel good about the fact that I wasn't going to let them have smartphones or do social media any time soon anyway. I think he also taps into the fact that parents are often not having conversations about things like pornography and sexting early enough with their children. This stuff often starts happening in late elementary school and while it may be uncomfortable, by the time our kids are nearing their tween years we need to be having open discussions and educating them.
September 30, 2024
As he’s apt to do, Haidt uses lots of research, but always to back up what he already believes. There are no other possibilities. From the start he throws out terms he hopes will become part of society’s vocabulary so conversations on these topics inherently flow towards his conclusion and thus his prescriptions. Not that there isn’t interesting data presented or a complete lack of critical thought, but there is a constant drumbeat under the text of an old man yelling at the world that he knows what’s best.
September 2, 2024
As recommended here: https://www.nature.com/articles/d4158...
September 4, 2024
I was an easy sell for this book, but it’s an important topic so I’m glad it’s getting attention. Sadly but predictably, most of that attention seems focused on the internet and social media aspect—which is definitely a problem; preteens and young teens should not be spending several hours on screens each day, and heavy social media use in particular seems to cause mental health issues—but importantly, in the actual book Haidt gives just as much attention to the other side of the coin, which is that overprotecting kids in the real world stunts their development… while also causing them to fall back on screens, which in turn displace real-world relationships, experiences, even sleep.
To overcome childhood fears, learn independence and problem-solving, and develop a sense of competence, self-confidence and meaning, kids actually need independence and the ability to solve their own problems and interact with others free of adult supervision and guidance. It should be no surprise that children raised like little prisoners, to whom something horrible will happen if they are not watched at all times, and spending their lives in adult-guided activities with a regular stream of advice and commentary, will grow up anxious, depressed and unable to take initiative. (The prisoners comparison is not even a stretch. Prisoners in America’s maximum security federal prisons apparently get two hours of yard time each day and were horrified to learn that the average schoolkid gets under half an hour of recess! Of course, ideally kids would be playing outside after school too, but often they aren’t. That’s certainly borne out in my own, safe neighborhood, where children are only ever seen walking between front doors and cars. In any case, Haidt offers a fair amount of evidence about the value of longer, minimally supervised recess in boosting kids’ mental health, academic performance, and general development, as well as decreasing behavior problems.)
I won’t go through the whole argument because the author wrote a whole book for that, but it certainly deserves attention. At times Haidt’s arguments are less convincing than they should be: for instance, when addressing the question “are kids anxious and depressed because of the state of the world?” he argues it can’t be American politics because this trend is also seen in other Anglosphere countries, it can’t be the economy because teen anxiety and depression rates didn’t track unemployment rates during the Great Recession, and it can’t be climate change because threats faced collectively tend to energize people rather than depress them. To which I say: oh, come on. The worst aspects and the effects of today’s politics are not confined to a single country either; our economic problems have far less to do with unemployment than a long-term trend of stagnating wages as compared to skyrocking prices; and please, just try to tell me with a straight face that humanity is united to beat climate change. I do nevertheless agree with Haidt’s larger point, that the data indicates teen mental health problems shot up just as smartphones and social media reached the saturation point, and that far more people get anxious and depressed due to the everyday conditions of their own lives rather than larger, nebulous problems. And anyway, constantly reading about problems in the world on social media while obsessing about numbers of likes on your comments, and meanwhile being forbidden from walking to the park by yourself because your parents believe (possibly leading you to agree with them) that you are incapable of doing so without meeting horrible doom, certainly seems like a sure recipe for anxiety.
Happily, Haidt also devotes the last several chapters to a wide range of suggested solutions, from things parents can do on their own (limits on screen time coupled with increasing freedom and responsibility; coordinating with other parents to delay smartphones so their kids won’t be left out; addressing their own anxieties and phone use), things schools can do (going truly phone-free by locking them up throughout the day, so kids won’t be distracted in class and can focus on talking to each other between classes), to proposed policy changes (raising the age at which kids can create online accounts to 16; various new methods of age checks to enforce this; redefining “neglect” more narrowly so parents don’t have to fear government intervention for normal childhood independence).
So overall, despite some aspects that could have been stronger, I think this is a worthwhile read: certainly for anyone who has or works with kids, but of potential interest to anyone living in today’s society. Hopefully the author’s suggestions will be implemented, as they seem to be good ones.
To overcome childhood fears, learn independence and problem-solving, and develop a sense of competence, self-confidence and meaning, kids actually need independence and the ability to solve their own problems and interact with others free of adult supervision and guidance. It should be no surprise that children raised like little prisoners, to whom something horrible will happen if they are not watched at all times, and spending their lives in adult-guided activities with a regular stream of advice and commentary, will grow up anxious, depressed and unable to take initiative. (The prisoners comparison is not even a stretch. Prisoners in America’s maximum security federal prisons apparently get two hours of yard time each day and were horrified to learn that the average schoolkid gets under half an hour of recess! Of course, ideally kids would be playing outside after school too, but often they aren’t. That’s certainly borne out in my own, safe neighborhood, where children are only ever seen walking between front doors and cars. In any case, Haidt offers a fair amount of evidence about the value of longer, minimally supervised recess in boosting kids’ mental health, academic performance, and general development, as well as decreasing behavior problems.)
I won’t go through the whole argument because the author wrote a whole book for that, but it certainly deserves attention. At times Haidt’s arguments are less convincing than they should be: for instance, when addressing the question “are kids anxious and depressed because of the state of the world?” he argues it can’t be American politics because this trend is also seen in other Anglosphere countries, it can’t be the economy because teen anxiety and depression rates didn’t track unemployment rates during the Great Recession, and it can’t be climate change because threats faced collectively tend to energize people rather than depress them. To which I say: oh, come on. The worst aspects and the effects of today’s politics are not confined to a single country either; our economic problems have far less to do with unemployment than a long-term trend of stagnating wages as compared to skyrocking prices; and please, just try to tell me with a straight face that humanity is united to beat climate change. I do nevertheless agree with Haidt’s larger point, that the data indicates teen mental health problems shot up just as smartphones and social media reached the saturation point, and that far more people get anxious and depressed due to the everyday conditions of their own lives rather than larger, nebulous problems. And anyway, constantly reading about problems in the world on social media while obsessing about numbers of likes on your comments, and meanwhile being forbidden from walking to the park by yourself because your parents believe (possibly leading you to agree with them) that you are incapable of doing so without meeting horrible doom, certainly seems like a sure recipe for anxiety.
Happily, Haidt also devotes the last several chapters to a wide range of suggested solutions, from things parents can do on their own (limits on screen time coupled with increasing freedom and responsibility; coordinating with other parents to delay smartphones so their kids won’t be left out; addressing their own anxieties and phone use), things schools can do (going truly phone-free by locking them up throughout the day, so kids won’t be distracted in class and can focus on talking to each other between classes), to proposed policy changes (raising the age at which kids can create online accounts to 16; various new methods of age checks to enforce this; redefining “neglect” more narrowly so parents don’t have to fear government intervention for normal childhood independence).
So overall, despite some aspects that could have been stronger, I think this is a worthwhile read: certainly for anyone who has or works with kids, but of potential interest to anyone living in today’s society. Hopefully the author’s suggestions will be implemented, as they seem to be good ones.
June 6, 2024
While I mostly agree with Haidt’s opinions and observations on just how major of a negative effect social media/iPhone/gaming has had on the real-life social skills of younger generations, I feel largely that most of this book relies on just that - opinion. It’s certainly more conclusive with its qualitative data vs. quantitative data. Again, this makes it harder to accept everything he’s arguing as concrete.
Haidt mentions that - I believe starting in 2012? - there had been, for the first time since reporting, a marked increase in young adults and teenagers who reported feeling anxious, depressed, and lonely “most or at least half of the time”, for example, but then, for rhe most part, goes on to report that none of the participants had been diagnosed with major depressive disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, or panic attacks.
Interestingly, this would also fall directly in line with when the first and oldest members of Gen Z and younger (I believe the starting year is 1996, so they’d be 16 in 2012).
If it also stands to reason, if, as Haidt would later have us believe and come to argue: disorders such as DID, gender dysmorphia, and Tourette’s syndrome began to emerge on many TikTik accounts, where suddenly, millions of users not only claimed, but actively acted out symptoms of these illnesses to gain subscribers, what would stop younger people from exaggerating their anxiety and depression? After all, apparently serious disorders and victimhood are no longer to be sympathized with and sought to eventually overcome. Rather, they’re actively encouraged to give someone an “authentic struggle.”
For me, it’s more a cry for attention, that may, in fact, correspond with the fact that teenagers are indeed spending far less time with face-to-face social interactions, increasingly limiting that interaction to screens. Therefore to stand out in the infinite universe of the Internet, the more outrageous, the better.
I hope to come back to this review, but my main problem with the book was threefold.
1) It was repetitive to the point that I could essentially scan long paragraphs, confident I’d already ingested all the information;
2) The problems he focuses on and the solutions he suggests seem inherently common sense;
3) Implementing many of these policies may work in his small community/circle or friends. Yet, it can easily be assumed it’s far more likely parents will disagree amongst themselves concerning identical implementation of iPhone/social media rules for their child, along with the rest of the kids that age.
I do think it would be great if kids didn’t use Insta, Snapchat, Twitter, etc., until they were older. But to truly enforce that on a grand scale is, to me, at least, wishful thinking.
(Not to mention some kids are impressively wise by age 12, while others struggle to show any sign of maturation at 17 - while some may show remarkable understanding regarding the difference between the Internet and real life, this isn’t necessarily going to happen at any magical age.)
I was pretty disappointed given how much I loved his last work with Greg Lukianoff, The Coddling of the American Mind. Obviously this isn’t something I’d recommend… but then again, looking at the majority of reviews and ratings - among friends too - perhaps you shouldn’t listen to me. Maybe people saw something in it that I overlooked. Who knows. I was just happy to finish it.
Haidt mentions that - I believe starting in 2012? - there had been, for the first time since reporting, a marked increase in young adults and teenagers who reported feeling anxious, depressed, and lonely “most or at least half of the time”, for example, but then, for rhe most part, goes on to report that none of the participants had been diagnosed with major depressive disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, or panic attacks.
Interestingly, this would also fall directly in line with when the first and oldest members of Gen Z and younger (I believe the starting year is 1996, so they’d be 16 in 2012).
If it also stands to reason, if, as Haidt would later have us believe and come to argue: disorders such as DID, gender dysmorphia, and Tourette’s syndrome began to emerge on many TikTik accounts, where suddenly, millions of users not only claimed, but actively acted out symptoms of these illnesses to gain subscribers, what would stop younger people from exaggerating their anxiety and depression? After all, apparently serious disorders and victimhood are no longer to be sympathized with and sought to eventually overcome. Rather, they’re actively encouraged to give someone an “authentic struggle.”
For me, it’s more a cry for attention, that may, in fact, correspond with the fact that teenagers are indeed spending far less time with face-to-face social interactions, increasingly limiting that interaction to screens. Therefore to stand out in the infinite universe of the Internet, the more outrageous, the better.
I hope to come back to this review, but my main problem with the book was threefold.
1) It was repetitive to the point that I could essentially scan long paragraphs, confident I’d already ingested all the information;
2) The problems he focuses on and the solutions he suggests seem inherently common sense;
3) Implementing many of these policies may work in his small community/circle or friends. Yet, it can easily be assumed it’s far more likely parents will disagree amongst themselves concerning identical implementation of iPhone/social media rules for their child, along with the rest of the kids that age.
I do think it would be great if kids didn’t use Insta, Snapchat, Twitter, etc., until they were older. But to truly enforce that on a grand scale is, to me, at least, wishful thinking.
(Not to mention some kids are impressively wise by age 12, while others struggle to show any sign of maturation at 17 - while some may show remarkable understanding regarding the difference between the Internet and real life, this isn’t necessarily going to happen at any magical age.)
I was pretty disappointed given how much I loved his last work with Greg Lukianoff, The Coddling of the American Mind. Obviously this isn’t something I’d recommend… but then again, looking at the majority of reviews and ratings - among friends too - perhaps you shouldn’t listen to me. Maybe people saw something in it that I overlooked. Who knows. I was just happy to finish it.
April 1, 2024
Mandatory reading for any parent…Haidt’s thesis is that social media and smart phones are damaging kids…he’s right and he’s got the receipts…
Huge upticks in depression, anxiety etc as these tech items come on line…add to that the safety culture that parents have embraced and you’ve got a lot of kids that are in a Peter Pan land that exists only on screens but encompasses their lives…
The world isn’t little house on the prairie and our access to ginormous amounts of info has created a catastrophism where we are all too aware of the really bad outcome…humans aren’t good at calculating black swan events so we over protect our kids…guilty as charged…
I’d disagree with his more free play time at school in that yes give kids more free range time but keep it outside of school…otherwise, his prescription seems clear and irrefutable…
Huge upticks in depression, anxiety etc as these tech items come on line…add to that the safety culture that parents have embraced and you’ve got a lot of kids that are in a Peter Pan land that exists only on screens but encompasses their lives…
The world isn’t little house on the prairie and our access to ginormous amounts of info has created a catastrophism where we are all too aware of the really bad outcome…humans aren’t good at calculating black swan events so we over protect our kids…guilty as charged…
I’d disagree with his more free play time at school in that yes give kids more free range time but keep it outside of school…otherwise, his prescription seems clear and irrefutable…
August 15, 2024
فکر کنین میان میگن یه برنامه ای هست که بچههای نوجوونو میبرن مریخ. چون این بچههاهنوز به بلوغ نرسیدنراحت اجاست میکنن باشرایط و اینا بخاطر همین میخوان این آزمایشو روی اونا پیاده کنن. تا حالا مطالعه ای انجامنشده که عایا مریخ تاثیر بدی میذاره روی اینبچهها یا نه. رضایتیم کهازبچهها میگیرن یه چک باکسه. یه پاپ آپ ظاهر میشه که از مامان بابات اجازه گرفتی، اونام میزنن آره و برای این پروگرمالیجیبل میشن. نظرتون راجع به اینبرنامه چیه؟ میذارین بچههاتون برن؟
همین برنامه میشه استفاده از اسمارتفونهاو سوشال میدیا تو سنبلوغ.
ازتاثیر مخرب روانیکه روی بویژه دخترا داشته صحبت میکنه. از آثار پورنوگرافی میگه و ریسکی که بچههای الانو تهدید میکنه. از آمار بالای خودکشی و آسیب به خود حرف میزنه و غیره.
کتاب خوبیه و به نظرمظروری بود حداقل برای خود من خوندنش.
همین برنامه میشه استفاده از اسمارتفونهاو سوشال میدیا تو سنبلوغ.
ازتاثیر مخرب روانیکه روی بویژه دخترا داشته صحبت میکنه. از آثار پورنوگرافی میگه و ریسکی که بچههای الانو تهدید میکنه. از آمار بالای خودکشی و آسیب به خود حرف میزنه و غیره.
کتاب خوبیه و به نظرمظروری بود حداقل برای خود من خوندنش.
June 15, 2024
The author points out many of the issues of children growing up with smartphones and social media, and the picture that he paints is not pretty. He calls for a reduction of screen time, higher age limits for creating social media accounts, and more play time for children. Overall, his ideas are good, but many of the solutions he calls for require group or community action rather than individual action, so if others are not willing to go along, children will remain under pressure to use social media. Perhaps the genie is already out of the bottle.
October 7, 2024
Has my generation been accurately dissected and assessed by this non-fiction?
Haidt argues that there are two big mistakes our current social system has made when adjusting to prevalent technology and the younger generation.
“Overprotecting children in the real world (where they need to learn from vast amounts of direct experience) and underprotecting them online (where they are particularly vulnerable during puberty)”.
Ultimately, children are spending less time socialising in person and ever more time glued to their screens, with girls most likely to be sucked into the self-esteem crushing vortex of social media, and boys more likely to become hooked on gaming and porn. Childhood is no longer “play-based”, it’s “phone-based”.
All children are by nature antifragile. Just as the immune system must be exposed to germs, and trees must be exposed to wind, children require exposure to setbacks, failures, shocks, and stumbles in order to develop strength and self-reliance. Overprotection interferes with this development and renders young people more likely to be fragile and fearful as adults… Safetyism is an experience blocker. When we make children’s safety a quasi-sacred value and don’t allow them to take any risks, we block them from overcoming anxiety, learning to manage risk, and learning to be self-governing, all of which are essential for becoming healthy and competent adults.
Haidt evidences with statistics, anecdotes, and comparative figures that there are “four foundational harms of the new phone-based childhood that damage boys and girls of all ages: social deprivation, sleep deprivation, attention fragmentation, and addiction.”
What might not appeal: he puts forward suggestions on how to combat this problem. Some of these involve spiritual practises which encourage community and social interaction.
Admittedly, most of the tips he made are already apparent: prioritise face-to-face interactions, set clear boundaries surrounding screen use, and lead by example.
Despite this, I found it extremely informative and loved how he also showed how it isn’t just technology which has caused this problem. Infrastructure, teaching, communication has all changed how society functions.
We don’t let preteens buy tobacco or alcohol, or enter casinos. The costs of using social media, in particular, are high for adolescents, compared with adults, while the benefits are minimal. Let children grow up on Earth first, before sending them to Mars.
I listened to the audiobook, but there is a PDF file to access the diagrams referred to.
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Haidt argues that there are two big mistakes our current social system has made when adjusting to prevalent technology and the younger generation.
“Overprotecting children in the real world (where they need to learn from vast amounts of direct experience) and underprotecting them online (where they are particularly vulnerable during puberty)”.
Ultimately, children are spending less time socialising in person and ever more time glued to their screens, with girls most likely to be sucked into the self-esteem crushing vortex of social media, and boys more likely to become hooked on gaming and porn. Childhood is no longer “play-based”, it’s “phone-based”.
All children are by nature antifragile. Just as the immune system must be exposed to germs, and trees must be exposed to wind, children require exposure to setbacks, failures, shocks, and stumbles in order to develop strength and self-reliance. Overprotection interferes with this development and renders young people more likely to be fragile and fearful as adults… Safetyism is an experience blocker. When we make children’s safety a quasi-sacred value and don’t allow them to take any risks, we block them from overcoming anxiety, learning to manage risk, and learning to be self-governing, all of which are essential for becoming healthy and competent adults.
Haidt evidences with statistics, anecdotes, and comparative figures that there are “four foundational harms of the new phone-based childhood that damage boys and girls of all ages: social deprivation, sleep deprivation, attention fragmentation, and addiction.”
What might not appeal: he puts forward suggestions on how to combat this problem. Some of these involve spiritual practises which encourage community and social interaction.
Admittedly, most of the tips he made are already apparent: prioritise face-to-face interactions, set clear boundaries surrounding screen use, and lead by example.
Despite this, I found it extremely informative and loved how he also showed how it isn’t just technology which has caused this problem. Infrastructure, teaching, communication has all changed how society functions.
We don’t let preteens buy tobacco or alcohol, or enter casinos. The costs of using social media, in particular, are high for adolescents, compared with adults, while the benefits are minimal. Let children grow up on Earth first, before sending them to Mars.
I listened to the audiobook, but there is a PDF file to access the diagrams referred to.
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August 2, 2024
This book was so interesting, sad & insightful. It was extremely well thought out & provided real advice for dealing with the screen epidemic not only in children, but also ourselves. I appreciated the statistics shared to really drill the message in. Past the 2010’s mental health took a staggering drop especially amongst middle-high schoolers & it’s not okay to ignore. I loved the advice given for encouraging free play & talking amongst other parents to make a plan for limiting social media until 16 or making other rules to help curb the anxiety & addiction. I really enjoyed how he made sure to explain that it’s not just screens it’s specifically social media that introduces children to cyber bullying, comparison, harmful messaging, etc that they just wouldn’t see as much if they never signed up for the app in the first place. Middle school was hard enough with no iphones! I can’t even imagine how difficult it is to navigate with social media now as well. Overall, I thought this was a really great book. Similar to iGen, it just showed the real statistics on how we ALL are so beyond addicted to our devices. It allowed me to take a look into my own life & gave helpful tips for raising a child of the next generation. Loved!
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