Recovery From Abuse Quotes

“In the east," she says after a time, her gaze still downcast, "there is a tradition known as kintsukuroi. It is the practice of mending broken ceramic pottery using lacquer dusted with gold and silver and other precious metals. It is meant to symbolize that things can be more beautiful for having been broken."
"Why are you telling me this?" I ask.
At last she looks at me. Her irises are polished obsidian in the moonlight. "Because I want you to know," she says, "that there is life after survival.”
― Mackenzi Lee, The Gentleman's Guide to Vice and Virtue

“In situations of captivity the perpetrator becomes the most powerful person in the life of the victim, and the psychology of the victim is shaped by the actions and beliefs of the perpetrator.”
― Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

“First, the physiological symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder have been brought within manageable limits. Second, the person is able to bear the feelings associated with traumatic memories. Third, the person has authority over her memories; she can elect both to remember the trauma and to put memory aside. Fourth, the memory of the traumatic event is a coherent narrative, linked with feeling. Fifth, the person's damaged self-esteem has been restored. Sixth, the person's important relationships have been reestablished. Seventh and finally, the person has reconstructed a coherent system of meaning and belief that encompasses the story of trauma.”
― Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

“You’re too sensitive’ victims of sexual abuse are told over and over by those whose reality depends on being insensitive. Most adults who have been in the victim role cringe when anyone tells them they are sensitive. In fact, sensitivity is a lovely trait and one to be cherished in any human being.”
― Renee Fredrickson, Repressed Memories: A Journey to Recovery from Sexual Abuse

“Someone once asked me how I hold my head up so high after all I have been through. I said it's because no matter what, I am a survivor NOT a victim.”
― Patricia Buckley

“Abuse is never contained to a present moment, it lingers across a person’s lifetime and has pervasive long-term ramifications.”
― Lorraine Nilon, Breaking Free From the Chains of Silence: A respectful exploration into the ramifications of Paedophilic abuse

“When you feel at sea in an abyss of emotions, reconnecting to the beauty of your soul can be difficult, but it is never impossible.”
― Lorraine Nilon, Breaking Free From the Chains of Silence: A respectful exploration into the ramifications of Paedophilic abuse

“There's always something in it for the person who is allowing to be taken advantage of." Psychotherapist David in Type 1 Sociopath”
― P.A. Speers, Type 1 Sociopath - When Difficult People Are More Than Just Difficult People

“Wild women seek freedom and ooze authenticity.
No one can control them once they’ve felt free. No one can make them feel unstable or disobedient once they feel true to themselves.
They’re no longer tamed living in a false reality. The wild ones choose to live truthfully and unquestionably.”
― JefaWild

“No matter what kind of trauma we experienced as a child, we replay that loop through our choices of friends, hobbies, careers, and relationships.”
― Kenny Weiss, Your Journey To Success: How to Accept the Answers You Discover Along the Way

“As noted, since we store our memories physically in our body, we are depositing our trauma physically in our body.”
― Kenny Weiss, Your Journey To Success: How to Accept the Answers You Discover Along the Way

“I seized his face with both hands and crushed his mouth to mine, suddenly needing to remind myself where I was, who I was with, that this was all a fucking choice. My choice”
― Ashlyn Drewek, The Vengeance of Roan Sinclair

“No matter what kind of childhood we’ve had, nobody escapes trauma while growing up.”
― Kenny Weiss, Your Journey To Success: How to Accept the Answers You Discover Along the Way

“When we become an expert in our trauma history and know how we self-victimize and drop into denial, we have an opportunity to create a new reality with a new neural pathway in our brain.”
― Kenny Weiss, Your Journey To Success: How to Accept the Answers You Discover Along the Way

“My life did not make sense
the day I left behind the people who had hurt me.
My life started to make sense,
the day that
I forgave them.”
― Sama Akbar

“For those of us who haven’t been taught how to deal with our trauma, we get stuck living in the worst day ever. The intense feelings of those moments replay themselves throughout our life because, in an effort to heal, we unintentionally and proactively seek them out and re-inflict them upon ourselves.”
― Kenny Weiss, Your Journey To Success: How to Accept the Answers You Discover Along the Way

“Trauma happens to us. When it does, our authentic self and power is taken from us.”
― Kenny Weiss, Your Journey To Success: How to Accept the Answers You Discover Along the Way

“We deny, suppress, repress, and minimize our trauma to preserve our self-concept. By doing so, we set ourselves up for repeating the cycle again.”
― Kenny Weiss, Your Journey To Success: How to Accept the Answers You Discover Along the Way

“Our brain and body become addicted to the feelings associated with our trauma and our worst day because they have been firing more than any other feeling.”
― Kenny Weiss, Your Journey To Success: How to Accept the Answers You Discover Along the Way

“Sexual abuse is an experience, not a definition to be encased in; you are far greater
than any experience suffered through the insidiousness of indifference in the form of
pedophilia. Reaching out for help is not a weakness, it is strength and courage in action.
Recovery is not easy nor is it a quick process however, all souls are worth the effort
required. Who you have come to believe you are can be very divergent from who your
naturally are.”
― Lorraine Nilon, Breaking Free From the Chains of Silence: A respectful exploration into the ramifications of abuse hidden behind closed doors

“Before you entered my body clear
and removed yourself bloody.
But I can recreate new blood,
that is the beauty of the body.”
― Benny Woith, vast.

“Alice would often remind me, 'Toxic people tend to think that you being triggered is extreme. Nah, that’s just called boundaries.”
― Brianne Davis, Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict: A Novel

“This good thing happened. For my brother. And when I found out, I was so fucking high... and I was happy, but it was a different kind of happy. A tinted happy. A happy with one of those fiberglass screen doors covering it. I’ll never hear his news for the first time again. I lost out on a full moment forever.”
― Karl Kristian Flores, The Goodbye Song

“My trauma changed who I was as a person.”
― Kenny Weiss, Your Journey To Success: How to Accept the Answers You Discover Along the Way

“Some people equate trauma to something big like war, death, extreme acts of violence, physical abuse, sexual abuse, or natural disasters. While those are all examples of trauma, trauma doesn’t have to be big like that.”
― Kenny Weiss, Your Journey To Success: How to Accept the Answers You Discover Along the Way

“Being controlling, being judgmental, or always having to be right are other ways that adults may inflict trauma on children.”
― Kenny Weiss, Your Journey To Success: How to Accept the Answers You Discover Along the Way

“these days
I got rather intimate with
my sympathetic chain;

after being treated
like a biblical sand
for decades

I ain't gonna skip
my season of anger,
no way.”
― Remy Alberi, The Comprehension Watch

“Trust in yourself and your own abilities, for it is within you that the seeds of greatness are planted. Nurture them with care, and let them grow and flourish, for they hold the key to your limitless potential and boundless potential”
― Vijay Moksha

“There wasn’t enough room in her stomach for both food and fear.”
― Nicole T. Smith, We Have Shadows Too

“I SHOULD BE UPSET THAT A BURGLAR STOLE ALL
MY LAMPS, BUT I’M DELIGHTED!”
― Lynn Byk, The Fearless Moral Inventory of Elsie Finch