Co-Founder @ Bereave | Bereavement benefits platform to support your employees through navigating loss
Bereavement at work is about more than time off. What bereavement at work really is: • Leadership that is trained on trauma and grief • Managers that know what to do and what to say • HR teams that have an SOP around how to handle death • Teams that are prepared to receive someone back from leave • Managers that know how to show up for the foreseeable future • Businesses that know a person that returns from leave is highly likely a different person than before leave. • Leaders that know that 1 in 9 employees suffer a loss each year • Leaders that are aware that 51% of employees will leave a job within 12 months after a loss • Companies that understand how grief and death impact P&L
Well you had those hate on unlimited time off because of abuse. Well if a person has lost someone in their family most in leadership don't know how to handle grief. It happened to me in September of this year. I found resources to get me through and talking to people and the company did not check on me. I feel so many in leadership don't understand trama and grief. Some big and small companies don't know what to do when workers lose people to death of love ones. Nice insight.
I really do wish I had received some training on how to handle bereavement on my team. I was faced with a pretty tragic situation and honestly struggled a bit.
So how does everyone feel about two maybe three days for the loss of a parent and tell you to use PTO if you want more time. And they make you feel like they are doing you a favor giving you that time. Zero empathy for their employees.
Been there and there is nothing like having your peers and team tell you, "we've got you. Focus on you." ❤️
Forever commenting on Bereave posts for reach. More eyes on this. More hearts on this. Yes. ✨🙏❤️🩹👏
Yes, yes, yes! And I'll add that in terms of time off, dictating how many days somebody gets based on the company's perception of what they may mean to you is wild. That type of bereavement policy needs to go expeditiously
Absolutely. Many people expect you to go to work in a week like nothing happens. Emotional support is important in a workplace.
My mother died a few weeks ago and the timing was in the middle of this big corporate training. I took two days off and it was fine. My situation isn't everyone's. What struck me the most was at the end of this training during the lessons learned segment a guy said that even though that guy (meaning me) had a death in my family he still managed to get work done. I was thinking hmm maybe I didn't take this seriously enough as my goal is not to be "that guy". What did I learn, no one cares they just want you back and delivering value. I do appreciate that no one is pretending though it's nicer when everyone is just honest.
I lost my husband almost a month ago. I had five days bereavement leave and had no PTO to use afterward because it was all used for his hospitalization before hospice. The day I came back my manager came up with a big grin on his face, slapped me on the back, and said coming back so soon was the right idea.
Project Coordinator at 1199SEIU National Benefit Fund
1wI just lost my dad 2 months ago. 3 bereavement days is definitely not enough. I ended up taking 2 weeks and it still wasn’t enough. My job was very supportive, except my manager. My accounts were so poorly managed in my absence and when I brought this to her attention, it turned into an argument. If she was truly concerned for my mental health and well being during one of the most difficult times in my life, I would expect her to help me. But this wasn’t the case. Fast forward to yesterday, for my annual evaluation, I received poor marks in communication and self awareness. When I asked why, she brought up our ‘argument’. I was promoted to a lead role 2 months ago because of my hard work and dedication to this job. So her evaluation is a complete contradiction of that and can be viewed as retaliation. Thankfully, upper management was made aware and will take action. Managers do need to be trained on trauma and grief. There is no reason that you should treat people like crap especially when they just lost one of the most important people in their life.