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Free by Lea Ypi
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it was amazing
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Who would have thought that a book about a society in transition, the last years of communism, and the hopes and disillusionment after the fall of the socialist regime in Albania would be so fascinating? This memoir was a page-turner for me.

The author tells us about her childhood and teenage years in Albania in a friendly and honest manner. At times, it was like talking to a friend whose complex and often conflicting feelings you could easily understand. The author's voice felt authentic. Lea Ypi talks about traumatic experiences with a certain irony and sarcasm.

"But if there was one lesson to take away from the history of my family, and of my country, it was that people never make history under circumstances they choose."

We follow Lea, who lives in socialist Albania with her parents, grandmother, and younger brother.
She goes to school, where she is taught how privileged she is to be born in this country.
Lea has to be grateful to the Party leadership for living a peaceful and free life with so many opportunities open to her.
"The Party was above us, but it was also deep inside. Everyone, everything, came from it."
Unfortunately, millions of people around the world are oppressed and marginalized. Their country has many powerful detractors, including the US, the USSR, and Yugoslavia. However, even they will eventually see the benefits of the socio-economic model and way of life in Albania under socialism. All these preachings make a strong impression on the girl who has been in this system since her birth.
Lea's parents have always tried to protect her by not casting doubt on her belief in the official propaganda tropes.
I cannot help but think that this easily understandable desire to shield your child under an authoritarian regime can produce a generation of people, many of whom grow up to be true believers. They have not been exposed to alternative viewpoints, not only at school but also at home.
Lea is precocious, impressionable, and curious about the present moment and her family history. The story of her parents and grandparents intrigues her. She cannot figure out why her grandfather had to leave his family to study at the university for many years. Why are her parents not fascinated by Enver Hoxha*? Why are they reluctant to have his photo in their living room?

She has yet to learn that the right answers require the right questions. If Lea asked the right question, she would find out that her grandfather had been in jail for many years. The state viewed him as a dangerous and obnoxious element.

Lea witnesses the beginning of what looks like a new era when you do not have to toe the line anymore. Instead, you learn about civil society, tax declarations, corruption, and pyramid schemes.
The collapse of the socialist regime and the new freedoms brought great hope to many people in Albania. For many, however, those big expectations were to be replaced by frustration brought on by increasing financial difficulties, the threat of civil war, and a palpable sense of hypocrisy surrounding them.
"The West had spent decades criticizing the East for its closed borders, funding campaigns to demand freedom of movement, condemning the immorality of states committed to restricting the right to exit. Our exiles used to be received as heroes. Now they were treated like criminals."

The author skillfully blends her personal story with that of her homeland and with commentary on political and economic issues. She reflects on socialism vs. capitalism. How do the liberal and socialist traditions interpret the ideas of freedom and human dignity? Can the concept of socialism be divorced from the experience of many Eastern European countries? Is it possible to separate a set of ideals from practice?
"Everything that went wrong on my side of the world could be explained by the cruelty of our leaders or the uniquely backward nature of our institutions. They [Lea's foreign friends] believed there was little for them to learn. There was no risk of repeating the same mistakes, no reason to ponder what had been achieved, and why it had been destroyed. Their socialism was characterized by the triumph of freedom and justice; mine by the failure of these ideas to be realized. Their socialism would be brought about by the right people, with the right motives, under the right circumstances, with the right combination of theory and practice."

This book is a delicate reflection on memory, history, and identity, how we treat them, or perhaps how they treat us. Should we remember the past with all its follies? Or would it be better to let it go? Can memories of past tragedies and traumas prevent us from committing new mistakes and injustices? Is remembering always more healing than oblivion? Can we choose what to remember and what to forget?
This memoir also makes you think about the meaning of freedom, the connection between freedom and responsibility, between freedom and the recognition of moral duty.

Lea's mother believed in the survival of the fittest and that people were naturally inclined to be aggressive.
Lea's father, on the other hand, believed in human kindness and "a kernel of goodness in everyone. He blamed dysfunctional societies for the prevalence of a dark side of human nature and always tried to help those in need. If someone is considered weak and outcast by society, in most cases it is not their fault. They deserve compassion, not contempt.
The author's grandmother knew how to face the blows of fate and remain resilient, witty, and empathetic. Despite the many difficulties of the present, she was not nostalgic for her past and the privilege into which she had been born and raised.
"She had never ceased to be responsible. Freedom, she said, is being conscious of necessity."


*Enver Hoxha ruled the country until he died in 1985.
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Reading Progress

July 8, 2024 – Shelved as: to-read
July 8, 2024 – Shelved
August 3, 2024 – Started Reading
August 3, 2024 – Shelved as: non-fiction
August 3, 2024 – Shelved as: memoir
August 8, 2024 –
10.0% "Faulkner's "the past is never dead" comes to mind.
"My grandmother always said that we don’t know how to think about the future; we must turn to the past. I started to wonder about the story of my life, of how I was born, of how things were before I was there.""
August 22, 2024 – Finished Reading
September 14, 2024 – Shelved as: history

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message 1: by Laysee (new)

Laysee Your comprehensive review is an interesting eye-opener to what life was like in socialist Albania. Thank you, Nika.


message 2: by Esta (new)

Esta This sounds incredibly eye-opening and poignant reflecting on hope, disillusionment, and the complexity of socialism vs capitalism. Another incredible reading choice and thought-provoking and fascinating review dear Nika 🧡


message 3: by Hanneke (new)

Hanneke Nika, thanks for your interesting review!


message 4: by Joe (new)

Joe Krakovsky "She has yet to learn that the right answers require the right questions." That was a brilliant line, Nika. Tell me that you thought that line yourself. Your review was worth reading slowly.


message 5: by Thibault (new)

Thibault Busschots I remember Tom Waes visiting Albania in his Belgian travel documentary series. The country’s history is as you rightly pointed out quite interesting. It’s also quite beautiful. The beginning of the episode made it look like Saint-Tropez, the ideal setting for a holiday. Though it ended on quite a dark note with the many blood feuds that are unfortunately still ongoing.

Interesting reading choice, Nika. And great review. I quite like the blend of personal story and general social commentary. And I have to say, it’s always necessary to remember both the good and the bad of the past. Because we need to cherish the good things. But we need to learn from our mistakes, so we also need to remember the bad things.


message 6: by Ron (new)

Ron You have to wonder about a country's leadership that teaches their children about being thankful to have been born there. I could only imagine what the collapse of the government meant, because what can easily replace it? I like Lea's father Nika - and this is another fine, thoughtful review!


message 7: by Vanessa (new)

Vanessa I learned so much about Albanian history from reading your reflective review, Nika! Thank you.


message 8: by Chantel (new)

Chantel This is a spectacular review, Nika (to no one's surprise). The way you describe this book, the story itself, & the style of writing & storytelling, have left me feeling impacted by the story as well though, I have yet to read it. Specifically, I enjoyed this quote of yours "This book is a delicate reflection on memory, history, and identity, how we treat them, or perhaps how they treat us." what a beautifully reflective sentence :) Marvellously done my friend! xx :)


message 9: by Rosh (new)

Rosh Wonderful review, Nika! A fascinating memoir and some brilliant thought-provoking feedback from you. This review is a masterclass by itself! ❤️


message 10: by A (new)

A Mac This sounds like an informative and well written memoir with some themes and reflections that are relevant to many. Beautiful review as always, Nika!


message 11: by Nika (new) - rated it 5 stars

Nika Laysee wrote: "Your comprehensive review is an interesting eye-opener to what life was like in socialist Albania. Thank you, Nika."

Thanks so much for your comment, Laysee. The book does provide some valuable insights into what life was like in Albania during those years.


message 12: by Nika (last edited Sep 14, 2024 01:30PM) (new) - rated it 5 stars

Nika Esta wrote: "This sounds incredibly eye-opening and poignant reflecting on hope, disillusionment, and the complexity of socialism vs capitalism. Another incredible reading choice and thought-provoking and fasci..."

Thanks so much for your always kind comments, dear Esta!
It means a lot to me!
Many things in this book felt poignant. Some passages were poignantly funny. The very concept of a young girl witnessing life-changing events in her country's history was a winner here. And I appreciate the way the author talks about tragic events in her own family. Her tone isn't sad. You know that you're reading the young girl's recollections, sprinkled with humor and energy.


message 13: by Nika (new) - rated it 5 stars

Nika Hanneke wrote: "Nika, thanks for your interesting review!"

Thanks a lot for reading it, Hanneke!


message 14: by Nika (new) - rated it 5 stars

Nika Joe wrote: ""She has yet to learn that the right answers require the right questions." That was a brilliant line, Nika. Tell me that you thought that line yourself. Your review was worth reading slowly."

Thank you for stopping by, Joe. I take your words as a compliment :)
I think that line is spot on too. Glad you noticed it.
Actually, I was thinking of the importance of the right questions in different contexts before I opened this book. But the author demonstrated this point really well when she related her family's story.


message 15: by Nika (last edited Sep 14, 2024 01:47PM) (new) - rated it 5 stars

Nika Thibault wrote: "I remember Tom Waes visiting Albania in his Belgian travel documentary series. The country’s history is as you rightly pointed out quite interesting. It’s also quite beautiful. The beginning of the..."

Thanks so much for taking the time to read and comment, Thibault!
Seems that not much is known about Albania's complicated history. One of the strengths of this book is that it invites the reader to learn more about Albania. That Belgian travel documentary series sounds good. :)

I agree that it is important to remember both the good and the bad of the past. I've always believed in it, and I still do. That said, I'm not at all convinced that remembering past tragedies can prevent us from making similar mistakes. Even if each case is unique and the result of a unique set of circumstances, humanity could have done better in avoiding certain mistakes and creating a less unjust world with less inequality.
History never repeats itself, but it often rhymes.


message 16: by Nika (new) - rated it 5 stars

Nika Ron wrote: "You have to wonder about a country's leadership that teaches their children about being thankful to have been born there. I could only imagine what the collapse of the government meant, because wha..."

Thanks so much for your comment, Ron!
It's poignant to read about the experiences of one family at the crossroads of history.
Seeing how quickly things were changing in the country and the world must have been unsettling, to say the least. The book deals with post-communist trauma in a unique way.
I like Lea's father too, and I like that you liked him.


message 17: by Nika (new) - rated it 5 stars

Nika Vanessa wrote: "I learned so much about Albanian history from reading your reflective review, Nika! Thank you."

Thanks so much for your comment, Vanessa!


message 18: by Nika (new) - rated it 5 stars

Nika Chantel wrote: "This is a spectacular review, Nika (to no one's surprise). The way you describe this book, the story itself, & the style of writing & storytelling, have left me feeling impacted by the story as wel..."

Thanks very much for your super kind words, dear Chantel! I'm touched by your lovely comment! :)
I found this book really impactful. Before diving into it, I thought it would be thought-provoking, but not as thought-provoking as it actually was.


message 19: by Nika (new) - rated it 5 stars

Nika Rosh wrote: "Wonderful review, Nika! A fascinating memoir and some brilliant thought-provoking feedback from you. This review is a masterclass by itself! ❤️"

Thanks so much for your kind feedback, Rosh! Much appreciated as always! :)


message 20: by Nika (new) - rated it 5 stars

Nika A wrote: "This sounds like an informative and well written memoir with some themes and reflections that are relevant to many. Beautiful review as always, Nika!"

Certain themes and reflections in this memoir are indeed relevant to many. I think we can all learn something from reading it.
Thanks so much for your comment, A!


message 21: by Pang (new)

Pang come back!! Miss you guys!!! xD Albanian? WOW This memoir sounds pretty great! :D
I'm happy you found such an amazing story to read, Nika! :) <3


message 22: by Thibault (new)

Thibault Busschots Nika wrote: "History never repeats itself, but it often rhymes."

Such wise words, Nika. And yet such a painful truth.

PS: that Belgian travel documentary series is one of the most-watched TV shows on Belgian television. And it's quite popular in the Netherlands too.


message 23: by Joe (new)

Joe Krakovsky I hate to say it, but it reminds of the saying, "Be careful what you wish for."


message 24: by Rowan (new)

Rowan Sounds like a powerful read, Nika. I enjoyed reading your amazing review 😊 Thanks for putting this book on my radar.


message 25: by Nika (last edited Sep 18, 2024 11:18AM) (new) - rated it 5 stars

Nika Pang wrote: "Albanian? WOW This memoir sounds pretty great! :D
I'm happy you found such an amazing story to read, Nika! :) <3"


Thanks so much for stopping by, Pang! :)
This was a great read with some unique glimpses into Albanian history and everyday life.


message 26: by Nika (new) - rated it 5 stars

Nika Thibault wrote: "Nika wrote: "History never repeats itself, but it often rhymes."

Such wise words, Nika. And yet such a painful truth.

PS: that Belgian travel documentary series is one of the most-watched TV show..."


Yes. There's a poignant truth in these words.


message 27: by Nika (new) - rated it 5 stars

Nika Rowan wrote: "Sounds like a powerful read, Nika. I enjoyed reading your amazing review 😊 Thanks for putting this book on my radar."

Thanks so much for your comment, Rowan! :) I really enjoyed this philosophical memoir.


message 28: by Nika (last edited Sep 19, 2024 11:47AM) (new) - rated it 5 stars

Nika Joe wrote: "I hate to say it, but it reminds of the saying, "Be careful what you wish for.""

"Be careful what you wish for" is a brilliant line. And it has inspired some excellent stories. "The Monkey's Paw" comes to mind.

By the way, I just read and reviewed the short story that deals with this very topic - the right questions that often determine the right answers.
An interesting theme, I have to say :)


message 29: by Joe (new)

Joe Krakovsky That is a brilliant saying as well. And that is why lawyers often say "I object!" in the courtroom!


message 30: by Nika (new) - rated it 5 stars

Nika Joe wrote: "That is a brilliant saying as well. And that is why lawyers often say "I object!" in the courtroom!"

Honestly, some questions don't deserve an answer other than "I object!"


message 31: by Numidica (new)

Numidica Nika, what an interesting review. I have seen Albania from Corfu, and truthfully, it looked rather barren, but every country has its share of extraordinary people. Albania and the Balkans have such an interesting history, being along the dividing line between the Habsburg and Ottoman Empires. Thanks for the thoughtful reflection on this family biography.


Persephone's Pomegranate I find it amazing how you can discover such intriguing books. I must confess that history wasn't my favorite subject during my school days. However, as I've matured, my appreciation for history has definitely increased. Being European, I can't help but think our history is incredibly captivating, perhaps even more so than that of America, if I may say so. Europe has experienced countless wars and upheavals, making it quite a challenge to grasp everything. It's unfortunate that Albania has faced many difficulties, especially since it's such a beautiful country. You've written an amazing review, my friend.


message 33: by Lisa (new)

Lisa An informative and thought provoking review, Nika. I don't know much about the Balkan region beyond its geographical location.

I especially enjoyed the personal info you shared about the author and her family members. Like her father, I like to think I can find some good in almost everyone. I think this is the only way to find common ground and try to move forward as families and communities.


message 34: by Nika (new) - rated it 5 stars

Nika Numidica wrote: "Nika, what an interesting review. I have seen Albania from Corfu, and truthfully, it looked rather barren, but every country has its share of extraordinary people. Albania and the Balkans have such..."

Thank you for taking the time to read and comment! I can imagine what you probably saw from Corfu. It (the hills?) may look rather barren, but like most countries, Albania has some beautiful places and its share of extraordinary people.

Great point about the influences of the Habsburg and Ottoman Empires. As a result, the whole region of the Western Balkans is characterized by a rich mix of cultures.


message 35: by Nika (new) - rated it 5 stars

Nika Persephone's Pomegranate wrote: "I find it amazing how you can discover such intriguing books. I must confess that history wasn't my favorite subject during my school days. However, as I've matured, my appreciation for history has..."

Thanks so much for your feedback, my friend. I like it when I come across an intriguing book :)
I can see why you weren't a fan of history when you were at school. Frankly, learning about all those facts, names, and dates can be a bit boring. My first interest was in European history. As you said, it's filled with countless wars and upheavals and complex events. Then I've become more drawn to the history of America and the Middle East. Asian history is also fascinating. My knowledge may be quite poor, but I think one of the lessons we can draw from history is that events are usually interconnected and often more nuanced than they might appear.

It can be interesting and sometimes frightening to see how history echoes in the present. Although I don't think that history repeats itself, it does have numerous ramifications.


message 36: by Nika (last edited Sep 25, 2024 01:40PM) (new) - rated it 5 stars

Nika Lisa wrote: "An informative and thought provoking review, Nika. I don't know much about the Balkan region beyond its geographical location.

I especially enjoyed the personal info you shared about the author a..."


Thanks so much for reading and commenting, Lisa. Appreciate it.
I think the history of the Balkans is fascinating in many ways. It has many tragic pages including the most recent wars, but they can teach us some important lessons.

I had a great time with this book. It was fascinating to see the author's family experiencing the big events in Albania's history and also in world history (the fall of communism and the dissolution of the Soviet block). This read encourages us to think deeply about how those events have affected the lives of millions.
I like to think I can find some good in almost everyone, too, even if it's not always easy.


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