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Difficult Women by Roxane Gay
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3.5 stars. Ouch... Maybe it's the mood I'm in, but at times Difficult Women felt almost too harsh and painful for me to keep reading -- I had to temper its effects by breaking up my reading with a few chapters from a book about the Berlin Wall of all things. Difficult Women is a collection of short stories. Some are very short -- vignettes really -- and others are longer. Some flirt with surrealism, but most are anchored in a very dark reality. They almost all focus on women in nasty situations -- the aftermath of sexual abuse, violent relationships, racial violence, unfaithful relationships, economic desperation, loss of children, etc... But these are not passive victims -- Gay gets deep into the complex subjectivity of her female characters -- often portraying a web of complicated emotions and motivations. There is a tiny silver lining that occasionally shines through in the form of powerful redemptive relationships mostly between sisters, including a couple of sets of twins. My 3.5 star rating is a recognition of Gay's talent. She writes fearlessly, treading confidently into seriously uncomfortable territory. But, oh man, so many of her stories are on the far end of bleak, relentlessly so. Thank you to Netgalley and the publisher for an opportunity to read an advance copy.
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Reading Progress

September 21, 2016 – Shelved
September 21, 2016 – Shelved as: to-read
September 21, 2016 – Shelved as: netgalley
December 2, 2016 – Started Reading
December 3, 2016 – Finished Reading

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message 1: by Christine (new) - added it

Christine Zibas Nice review. It seems that a lot of Good Reads friends are reading really bleak books lately. Hmmm, is that the approach of winter?


Esil Christine wrote: "Nice review. It seems that a lot of Good Reads friends are reading really bleak books lately. Hmmm, is that the approach of winter?"

Thanks Christine. I'm definitely craving something a bit lighter now.


message 3: by Lata (new)

Lata I, too, find a lot of people are reading darker material now.
Your review is really good.


Esil Lata wrote: "I, too, find a lot of people are reading darker material now.
Your review is really good."


Thanks Lata. Maybe it's the time of year, the state of the world... I don't mind dark, but this felt especially dark.


Deanna This was definitely a dark read. Great honest review, Esil :)


Esil Deanna wrote: "This was definitely a dark read. Great honest review, Esil :)"

Thanks Deanna.


Barbara (Wedding week, checking in when I can!) I just put a hold on this at the Library. Great review! I'm hoping I ?enjoy? it like you, although I don't think that's the word. I should say, "appreciate" it as well as you did LOL


message 8: by Canadian Jen (new)

Canadian Jen Great review, Esil. I've been debating picking this one up but may need to reconsider based on your review.


Esil Barbara wrote: "I just put a hold on this at the Library. Great review! I'm hoping I ?enjoy? it like you, although I don't think that's the word. I should say, "appreciate" it as well as you did LOL"

Thanks Barbara. I'll be curious to see what you think.


message 10: by Esil (new) - rated it 4 stars

Esil Jen wrote: "Great review, Esil. I've been debating picking this one up but may need to reconsider based on your review."

Thanks Jen. There's no doubt she's very talented, but you have to have the stomach for the topics and perspectives she takes on.


Barbara After reading her novel set in Haiti I was disappointed and probably won't read more by her. I may have given it 2 star. There are writers you want to like but it's as though their editors are afraid of them.


Bianca Great review. I've got this to read as well. I'm both excited and apprehensive to read it.


Debbie Excellent review, Esil. You stated it all perfectly. I liked the bleak more though, I guess. Many of the stories got under my skin. I must admit, I'm fascinated by Gay and love how she expresses such raw emotion and transfers it to the reader--or at least to me. Did you read An Untamed State?


message 14: by Esil (new) - rated it 4 stars

Esil Barbara wrote: "After reading her novel set in Haiti I was disappointed and probably won't read more by her. I may have given it 2 star. There are writers you want to like but it's as though their editors are afra..."

That's interesting, Barbara. I have read very mixed reviews of her novel set in HaitI. She is very talented, but I'm not sure I have the stomach for some of her material.


message 15: by Esil (new) - rated it 4 stars

Esil Bianca wrote: "Great review. I've got this to read as well. I'm both excited and apprehensive to read it."

Thanks Bianca. Don't read it at a time when you're not up for some dark reading.


Diane S ☔ Awesome review, Esil. May save this one for after the holidays.


message 17: by Esil (new) - rated it 4 stars

Esil Debbie wrote: "Excellent review, Esil. You stated it all perfectly. I liked the bleak more though, I guess. Many of the stories got under my skin. I must admit, I'm fascinated by Gay and love how she expresses su..."

Thanks Debbie. You definitely describe her talent perfectly when you say that she transfers her raw emotions to the reader. I do have the stomach for bleak fiction, but there was something relentless about these stories that eventually overwhelmed me. I haven't read An Untamed State, and will keep it on my tbr list for the right time.


message 18: by Esil (new) - rated it 4 stars

Esil Diane S ☔ wrote: "Awesome review, Esil. May save this one for after the holidays."

Thanks Diane. Definitely, find the right time for this one.


Larry H Great review, Esil. I, too, have read a few harrowing books in a row so I understand the need to temper it with something lighter. Hope your next read is a delightful palate-cleanser!


message 20: by Esil (new) - rated it 4 stars

Esil Larry wrote: "Great review, Esil. I, too, have read a few harrowing books in a row so I understand the need to temper it with something lighter. Hope your next read is a delightful palate-cleanser!"

Thanks Larry. I'm open to suggestions for a palate cleanser. I just finished another relatively dark book -- although not nearly as dark as Difficult Women.


message 21: by Carol (new)

Carol Maybe it's the season but kinder, gentler seems better now though somehow I continue to read those murderous thrillers. At least this one is probably literary.


message 22: by Esil (new) - rated it 4 stars

Esil Carol wrote: "Maybe it's the season but kinder, gentler seems better now though somehow I continue to read those murderous thrillers. At least this one is probably literary."

It's definitely literary, but in a way that makes it bleaker. When I read a mystery or thriller, there's a sense that it's all a bit unreal. As Debbie mentioned, this one is really about getting into some pretty raw emotions.


Taryn Wonderful review! I love your insight about these characters not being passive victims. I read an interview with Roxane where she is asked when Rebekah from "Bad Priest" gets to be present in her own life- she hits back "Why do you assume Rebekah isn’t dealing with her own life? " She continues and the entire answer is great.


Diane S ☔ Just started this.


message 25: by Esil (new) - rated it 4 stars

Esil Taryn wrote: "Wonderful review! I love your insight about these characters not being passive victims. I read an interview with Roxane where she is asked when Rebekah from "Bad Priest" gets to be present in her o..."

Thanks Taryn. I missed your comment earlier. I will definitely look for the interview with Gay. And indeed these are not passive victims.


message 26: by Esil (new) - rated it 4 stars

Esil Diane S ☔ wrote: "Just started this."

I am so curious to see what you think. We seem to be in sync these days, especially when it comes to short stories.


Joanne I know what you mean, Esil. I've been diving into this book all weekend, I'm 2/3 way through, and I'm EXHAUSTED. These are harsh, unyielding stories, but so compelling that I'm going right back to the book after I finish this post. After this book, I need a little Susan Mallory maybe.


message 28: by Esil (new) - rated it 4 stars

Esil Joanne wrote: "I know what you mean, Esil. I've been diving into this book all weekend, I'm 2/3 way through, and I'm EXHAUSTED. These are harsh, unyielding stories, but so compelling that I'm going right back to ..."

Once you're past the exhaustion, I highly recommend Hunger: A Memoir of (My) Body


Barbara Thank goodness I am not alone in not liking this book. I am 2/3 rds through it. So far every story is focused on violence and characters having sex. When I think a story is diverting from the story, it goes to one or both of these themes.


message 30: by Esil (new) - rated it 4 stars

Esil Barbara wrote: "Thank goodness I am not alone in not liking this book. I am 2/3 rds through it. So far every story is focused on violence and characters having sex. When I think a story is diverting from the story..."

I found the relentless darkness exhausting, but as mentioned much preferred Hunger, Barbara.


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