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Harriet Lerner

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in Brooklyn, New York, The United States

November 30, 1944

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Dr. Harriet Lerner, Ph.D. (Clinical Psychology, City University of New York; M.A. Educational Psychology, Columbia University Teachers College), was born and raised in Brooklyn, New York, the second of two daughters. Her parents, Archie and Rose Goldhor, were both children of Russian-Jewish immigrant parents. They were high school graduates who wanted their daughters to "be someone" at a time when women were only supposed to "find someone."

"Achievement was next to Godliness for my sister, Susan, and me." Harriet notes. "My father would talk about ‘My daughters the doctors’ while we were still in our strollers."

Growing up, Harriet and Susan spent weekends at the Brooklyn Botanical Garden, the Brooklyn Public Library and the Brooklyn Museum. ...more

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Are You a Distancer or a Pursuer?

If you pursue a distancer, they will distance more. If you distance from a pursuer they will pursue more.

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Average rating: 4.09 · 50,865 ratings · 3,192 reviews · 48 distinct works • Similar authors

	The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships 4.10 avg rating — 27,248 ratings — published 1985 — 98 editions	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	The Dance of Intimacy: A Woman's Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in Key Relationships 4.02 avg rating — 9,861 ratings — published 1989 — 50 editions	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	Why Won’t You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts 4.31 avg rating — 4,577 ratings — published 2017 — 20 editions	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You're Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate 4.06 avg rating — 3,812 ratings — published 2001 — 29 editions	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	The Dance of Fear: Rising Above Anxiety, Fear, and Shame to Be Your Best and Bravest Self 3.97 avg rating — 2,154 ratings — published 2004 — 26 editions	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Coupled Up 3.89 avg rating — 1,118 ratings — published 2012	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	The Dance of Deception: A Guide to Authenticity and Truth-Telling in Women's Relationships 4.01 avg rating — 743 ratings — published 1993 — 35 editions	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	The Mother Dance: How Children Change Your Life 3.91 avg rating — 682 ratings — published 1998 — 6 editions	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	The Dance of Anger / The Dance of Intimacy / The Dance of Deception 4.27 avg rating — 200 ratings — published 2003 — 3 editions	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	Franny B. Kranny, There's a Bird in Your Hair! by Harriet Lerner, Susan Goldhor, Helen Oxenbury (Illustrations) 3.98 avg rating — 134 ratings — published 2001 — 10 editions	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars

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“Only through our connectedness to others can we really know and enhance the self. And only through working on the self can we begin to enhance our connectedness to others.”
― Harriet Goldhor Lerner

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“The strongest relationships are between two people who can live without each other but don't want to.”
― Harriet Lerner, Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Coupled Up

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“It is not fear that stops you from doing the brave and true thing in your daily life. Rather, the problem is avoidance. You want to feel comfortable so you avoid doing or saying the thing that will evoke fear and other difficult emotions. Avoidance will make you feel less vulnerable in the short run but, it will never make you less afraid.”
― Harriet Lerner, The Dance of Fear

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