Am I Giving Someone the Ick?

Take this quiz to find out!

Have you ever wondered if you have any ick-worthy habits?

You’re in the right place! Just answer a few simple questions, and we’ll let you know how likely it is that you’re giving your crush the ick. Hit that “Start Quiz” button to get started!

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Questions Overview

1. Are you a clumsy person?
  1. Yes, I’m always bumping into things, falling down, and dropping stuff.
  2. Kinda! I can be a little uncoordinated at times.
  3. Not really, only when I’m super distracted or tired.
  4. No. I’m not clumsy at all!
2. Are you a super picky eater?
  1. Honestly, yes. I usually order off the kids menu.
  2. Kinda, I have a few things I just won’t eat.
  3. Not really, I’m a pretty normal eater.
  4. Not at all, I’m totally open to trying new things.
3. Do you double text (send another text when someone hasn’t responded yet)?
  1. For sure, I get anxious and impatient when they don’t reply right away.
  2. Sometimes! I’ll send another text if it’s something important.
  3. Not really. I can usually be chill and give them time to get back to me.
  4. Never! I play it cool and wait for them to reply first.
4. Which slightly cringe behavior are you most likely to do?
  1. Clap when the plane lands.
  2. Use the word “rizz” unironically.
  3. Do finger guns.
  4. Go in for a fist bump.
5. Which questionable fashion choice are you most likely to make?
  1. Wear basketball shorts or sweatpants to a date.
  2. Wear socks with sandals.
  3. Wear two patterns at the same time.
  4. Wear a backwards baseball cap.
6. Which outdated slang term are you most likely to use?
  1. Adulting
  2. Humblebrag
  3. Bae
  4. Lit
7. Which slightly annoying habit do you have?
  1. Making loud chewing sounds while you eat.
  2. Forgetting important things that people tell you.
  3. Taking phone calls when hanging out with someone.
  4. Always being 5 minutes late.
8. Which of these emojis do you use the most?
  1. 💩
  2. 💯
  3. 😬
  4. 😂
9. In your opinion, which behavior is the most ick-inducing?
  1. Talking on the phone too loud in public.
  2. Texting during a movie in a movie theater.
  3. Tripping or falling down unexpectedly.
  4. Being rude to servers at a restaurant.
10. What are you most likely to post on social media?
  1. An inspirational quote.
  2. A selfie.
  3. A candid shot of myself.
  4. A picture of the scenery somewhere.
11. Do you know the difference between there, their, and they’re?
  1. Literally no, I always mix them up.
  2. It doesn’t matter how I spell it—you know what I mean!
  3. Yes I do, but if I’m in a rush sometimes I type the wrong one.
  4. Yes, obviously.
12. Which of these fandoms are you most into?
  1. Disney. I think Disney adults get too much hate.
  2. I’m a hardcore Swiftie. If you don’t like her, lose my number.
  3. Harry Potter. I can’t help it if I grew up on those books.
  4. I’m a sucker for a good Marvel movie.
13. What pet name would you use for your significant other?
  1. Cutie Patootie
  2. Good Looking
  3. Sweet Stuff
  4. Babe

What exactly is “the ick”?

“The ick” is that abrupt feeling of disgust you get when your potential partner or significant other is doing something cringe-y, awkward, or gross. It often feels more like a visceral physical reaction, rather than a rational thought. Luckily the ick tends to pass pretty quickly, but for that brief moment, it’s almost like all your attraction for the person disappears.[1]


Why do people get “the ick”?
There are several theories out there for why people get the ick. For example, some people think the ick is a form of projection. We hate to see things we don’t like about ourselves in other people, so if your partner has a cringe-y habit you’re guilty of too, you may be more likely to see it as a major turn-off. Others think the ick can be an indicator that something’s wrong in the relationship, since you’re less likely to be patient and understanding toward someone’s awkward behavior if you’re feeling less connected to them emotionally.[2] It’s also possible that there aren’t any big, serious reasons for the ick—it might just be a natural, healthy feeling of annoyance that comes up when you’re spending a lot of time with someone.


How To Avoid “The Ick” in a Relationship

  • Talk to your partner about each of your icks. One way to avoid giving each other the ick is to be open and honest about the things you both find unattractive. For example, maybe they didn’t know that you hate it when people talk with their mouth full. Or maybe you didn’t know that they hate it when you ask too many questions during a movie. Getting these things out in the open is the easiest way to make sure you each avoid doing them.
  • Allow the ick to pass. When either of you feels the ick coming on, allow yourself to feel it, then let it pass. This is a mindfulness technique that can be super beneficial in relationships. It’s all about being in the present moment and accepting your emotions without judging them, letting them wash over you then retreat like a wave. If you can do this, the feeling of the ick will pass in no time, and you can get back to enjoying time with your partner.
  • Remind yourselves that no one is perfect. In any relationship, you’re bound to annoy each other or turn each other off from time to time. That’s completely normal! The important thing is to remember that you care about each other, even when you’re feeling a small dose of the ick. If you can each accept the other’s little quirks and remind yourselves how much you care about each other, you’ll be on the right track.[3]