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October 28 - October 28, 2022
Healing is more like growing a garden than solving a maths problem or fixing a broken car.
‘I am good/bad, right/wrong, ugly/beautiful,’ self-compassion says, ‘I am human – imperfect, unfinished and still worthy.’
But feelings want to be felt, not fixed.
By practising the three elements of self-compassion – self-kindness instead of self-judgement, mindfulness instead of avoidance and awareness of our common humanity instead of isolation – we can begin to feel our feelings instead of being afraid of them.
Reflect on the mental chatter you often experience. Where does your mind go when it wanders? What are the themes of your inner dialogue? What kind of soundtracks play on repeat?
You might find it helpful to read through this list and pick three to five values that resonate with you on an intuitive, embodied level: achievement, ambition, authenticity, balance, beauty, calmness, compassion, courage, creativity, dependability, discipline, empathy, ethical living, fame, family, freedom, friendship, fun, generosity, gratitude, hard work, health, hope, intuition, justice, kindness, logic, love, loyalty, motivation, openness, optimism, passion, peace, playfulness, power, presence, purpose, respect, selflessness, sensitivity, service, spirituality, status, thoughtfulness,
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Reflect on the coping mechanisms you use to deal with difficult emotions and consider whether they are life-enhancing or life-limiting.
Reflect on what is missing when you don’t feel like yourself. Your energy? Your emotions? Your power? Your hope? Your trust? Your joy? Your confidence? Your worthiness? Your divinity? Once you have reflected on what is missing, think about how you can reconnect with those essential qualities and parts of yourself.
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‘soul qualities’ we are born with: peace, truth, joy, compassion, strength, will, curiosity, presence and aliveness. Using the list above, reflect on the parts of your true nature that you feel disconnected from. How can you reconnect with these essential qualities?
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