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Attraction, Love, Sex: The Inside Story
Sex, after hunger, may be the most powerful motivating force in our lives. It drives us to seek intimate contact with others and to form relationships that may be fleeting or lifelong, blissful or troubled. Yet many mysteries surround sex and Why don’t we reproduce by virgin birth? Why does so much of our sexual behavior have nothing to do with reproduction? Why isn’t everyone heterosexual? How does the brain create sexual arousal? How do sexual kinks develop? Is porn harmful? What is the relationship between sex and love?
In Attraction, Love, Sex, the renowned scholar Simon LeVay introduces readers to a memorable cast of researchers trying to answer these questions and many more. A biologist dredges a New Zealand lake for asexual mud snails. Psychologists measure whether eating a good meal changes a man’s idea of female beauty. Physiologists probe orifices with miniature toilet plungers and place lovers in brain scanners. Geneticists reconstruct the sex crimes of Genghis Khan. Neuroscientists create mice whose sexual behavior can be switched on and off. A zoologist traps and releases 260,000 voles and launches a new science of love.
LeVay distills vast expertise on the biology and psychology of sex into an engaging and easy-to-understand survey with scientific acumen, a critical eye, and a sense of humor. This book reveals how scientists are unraveling the secrets of sex and, in the process, shattering many traditional ideas and prejudices.
In Attraction, Love, Sex, the renowned scholar Simon LeVay introduces readers to a memorable cast of researchers trying to answer these questions and many more. A biologist dredges a New Zealand lake for asexual mud snails. Psychologists measure whether eating a good meal changes a man’s idea of female beauty. Physiologists probe orifices with miniature toilet plungers and place lovers in brain scanners. Geneticists reconstruct the sex crimes of Genghis Khan. Neuroscientists create mice whose sexual behavior can be switched on and off. A zoologist traps and releases 260,000 voles and launches a new science of love.
LeVay distills vast expertise on the biology and psychology of sex into an engaging and easy-to-understand survey with scientific acumen, a critical eye, and a sense of humor. This book reveals how scientists are unraveling the secrets of sex and, in the process, shattering many traditional ideas and prejudices.
311 pages, Kindle Edition
Published May 16, 2023
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Simon LeVay
20 books30 followersDr. Simon LeVay is a writer and lecturer with a background in neuroscience. He is best known for his research on the brain and sexuality, but has also spent many years studying the visual system. He has written or co-authored several books on sexuality, and coauthored books on such diverse topics as earthquakes and volcanoes, extraterrestrial life, and Parkinson's disease. He has even written a novel. Dr. Simon LeVay lives in West Hollywood, California.
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June 1, 2023
As an aromantic asexual person, all three things in this book’s title have confused me at one point or another! Attraction, Love, Sex: The Inside Story examines our scientific understanding of makes humans interested in one another, romantic stylez (yes, with a Z). Simon LeVay, a neuroscientist, brings together research from psychology, biology, chemistry, and more in order to help the reader understand the physiological, psychological, and even evolutionary underpinnings of sexuality and romance. There’s a lot of good science in this book, along with some really bad science that left a bad taste in my mouth. An eARC was provided by Columbia University Press via NetGalley.
This book is organized into discrete chapters that are easy to pick up and put back down. LeVay takes us on a tour, if you will, through different aspects of sex and sexuality. Each chapter has a simple title, like “Love” or “Attraction,” yet that simplicity conceals the beguiling complexity of each topic. I really liked the structure and especially the way LeVay consistently includes a conclusions section at the end of every chapter to give us the bottom line.
What I liked: this is a book that doesn’t oversimplify and clearly acknowledges that science can be a flawed, human endeavour. As LeVay mentions various studies and the theories they support, he is ever diligent in noting if a study couldn’t be replicated or was contradicted by a more recent study. This is a practice I respect, for I find that sometimes science communicators, in their desire to distill science into a more streamlined narrative, pick one theory (or a couple of most likely theories) and present that version of the science as more settled than it actually is. Given that science is an ever-evolving discipline, LeVay’s approach to discussing these topics is a lot more transparent. In particular, I appreciated how he presented evolutionary psychology theories in a more skeptical light.
I also think this book has a great deal of useful information in its pages. For anyone just setting out to get a comprehensive overview of all things love, you could do worse than to read Attraction, Love, Sex. Even a single chapter in isolation, for example as an excerpt in a high school class, could be really useful. LeVay’s writing is skilled, and I learned all sorts of useful tidbits.
On the other hand, there were times when this book frustrated me as a queer person. Now, LeVay is gay and also, from what I can infer here, attempts to be trans inclusive. At one point he discusses sex-linked differences in the brain and includes the intriguing result that brain scans of binary trans people are often more similar to the sex they identify as rather than their sex assigned at birth (something also discussed in Cordelia Fine’s Delusions of Gender . So I want to give LeVay some credit here. Nevertheless, I have some reservations.
First, LeVay seems to put a lot of stock in defining sexual orientation in terms of physical arousal and being able to quantify this by hooking people up to machines that measure that arousal through, say, blood flow. I understand the desire from a scientific standpoint to be able to talk about sexual orientation in a more objective, measurable way. Yet plethysmography has a troubling history (undiscussed here) linked to authorities wanting to out gay people and even then subject them to conversion therapy. More broadly, I think LeVay misses the point. While there is undoubtedly a physiological component to orientation—whether that is neurological, hormonal, genetic, etc.—like so many other emergent aspects of our identity, I don’t think we will ever be able to reduce orientation down purely to a single test or to concrete and tidy definitions like the ones he mentions here.
Second, LeVay’s treatment of asexuality is woefully inadequate. Again, credit where credit is due: he at least mentions asexuality and explicitly declares that “asexuality is not a problematic lack of sexual desire” and also states that “most asexual people are satisfied with their orientation.” So why am I dissatisfied with this mention? Simply put, even though LeVay charitably says that “asexuality should probably be thought of as a sexual orientation,” this single mention of asexuality (all of these quotations come from a single paragraph) occurs in the chapter on “Having Sex” rather than the “Orientation” or “Attraction” chapters. We are once again an afterthought, little more than a footnote—a positive, inclusive one, yes, but not much more than that.
Third, I take major issue with how LeVay characterizes trans people. LeVay uncritically draws on the work of Ray Blanchard and his theory of autogynephelia. (Julia Serano has a very cogent explanation of why Blanchard’s work is harmful, so I’ll leave that part to her.) LeVay draws a very artificial distinction between what he sees as “classical” transsexuality and autogynephilic trans women (you’ll notice that this discussion and Blanchard’s original research both focus solely on trans women, with nary a consideration for trans men or non-binary people, insert audible eye-rolling here). Just the label of “classic” sounds icky to me. As with his conversations on orientation, LeVay’s conceptions of gender identity miss the mark in a profound way.
I don’t know anything about LeVay outside of reading his Wikipedia article. It sounds like he has been a longstanding expert in the study of sexuality as it relates to neuroscience, along with an advocate for gay rights. With that in mind, I don’t want to be the uppity youngster who criticizes her elders with undue harshness.
Even so, as I sat down to write a much softer version of this review … well, I got to the part about trans people, and I found myself unable to be conciliatory. LeVay might be a towering giant in his field and have a long career behind him, but it’s irresponsible to publish remarks like this in 2023 in the current political climate around trans people. I cannot in good conscience recommend this book, because well-meaning and curious allies who read this might inadvertently think that LeVay (and by extension, Blanchard) are accurately discussing transgender people. As much as there are valuable nuggets of information elsewhere in the book, this one section alone is too problematic. Additionally, it represents the challenge of talking so broadly about a topic like this. Rather than specializing, LeVay decided to take on all of human sexuality—and even with his decades of experience in the field, that task proved to be too elusive for him to complete with reasonable fidelity.
Originally posted on Kara.Reviews, where you can easily browse all my reviews and subscribe to my newsletter.
This book is organized into discrete chapters that are easy to pick up and put back down. LeVay takes us on a tour, if you will, through different aspects of sex and sexuality. Each chapter has a simple title, like “Love” or “Attraction,” yet that simplicity conceals the beguiling complexity of each topic. I really liked the structure and especially the way LeVay consistently includes a conclusions section at the end of every chapter to give us the bottom line.
What I liked: this is a book that doesn’t oversimplify and clearly acknowledges that science can be a flawed, human endeavour. As LeVay mentions various studies and the theories they support, he is ever diligent in noting if a study couldn’t be replicated or was contradicted by a more recent study. This is a practice I respect, for I find that sometimes science communicators, in their desire to distill science into a more streamlined narrative, pick one theory (or a couple of most likely theories) and present that version of the science as more settled than it actually is. Given that science is an ever-evolving discipline, LeVay’s approach to discussing these topics is a lot more transparent. In particular, I appreciated how he presented evolutionary psychology theories in a more skeptical light.
I also think this book has a great deal of useful information in its pages. For anyone just setting out to get a comprehensive overview of all things love, you could do worse than to read Attraction, Love, Sex. Even a single chapter in isolation, for example as an excerpt in a high school class, could be really useful. LeVay’s writing is skilled, and I learned all sorts of useful tidbits.
On the other hand, there were times when this book frustrated me as a queer person. Now, LeVay is gay and also, from what I can infer here, attempts to be trans inclusive. At one point he discusses sex-linked differences in the brain and includes the intriguing result that brain scans of binary trans people are often more similar to the sex they identify as rather than their sex assigned at birth (something also discussed in Cordelia Fine’s Delusions of Gender . So I want to give LeVay some credit here. Nevertheless, I have some reservations.
First, LeVay seems to put a lot of stock in defining sexual orientation in terms of physical arousal and being able to quantify this by hooking people up to machines that measure that arousal through, say, blood flow. I understand the desire from a scientific standpoint to be able to talk about sexual orientation in a more objective, measurable way. Yet plethysmography has a troubling history (undiscussed here) linked to authorities wanting to out gay people and even then subject them to conversion therapy. More broadly, I think LeVay misses the point. While there is undoubtedly a physiological component to orientation—whether that is neurological, hormonal, genetic, etc.—like so many other emergent aspects of our identity, I don’t think we will ever be able to reduce orientation down purely to a single test or to concrete and tidy definitions like the ones he mentions here.
Second, LeVay’s treatment of asexuality is woefully inadequate. Again, credit where credit is due: he at least mentions asexuality and explicitly declares that “asexuality is not a problematic lack of sexual desire” and also states that “most asexual people are satisfied with their orientation.” So why am I dissatisfied with this mention? Simply put, even though LeVay charitably says that “asexuality should probably be thought of as a sexual orientation,” this single mention of asexuality (all of these quotations come from a single paragraph) occurs in the chapter on “Having Sex” rather than the “Orientation” or “Attraction” chapters. We are once again an afterthought, little more than a footnote—a positive, inclusive one, yes, but not much more than that.
Third, I take major issue with how LeVay characterizes trans people. LeVay uncritically draws on the work of Ray Blanchard and his theory of autogynephelia. (Julia Serano has a very cogent explanation of why Blanchard’s work is harmful, so I’ll leave that part to her.) LeVay draws a very artificial distinction between what he sees as “classical” transsexuality and autogynephilic trans women (you’ll notice that this discussion and Blanchard’s original research both focus solely on trans women, with nary a consideration for trans men or non-binary people, insert audible eye-rolling here). Just the label of “classic” sounds icky to me. As with his conversations on orientation, LeVay’s conceptions of gender identity miss the mark in a profound way.
I don’t know anything about LeVay outside of reading his Wikipedia article. It sounds like he has been a longstanding expert in the study of sexuality as it relates to neuroscience, along with an advocate for gay rights. With that in mind, I don’t want to be the uppity youngster who criticizes her elders with undue harshness.
Even so, as I sat down to write a much softer version of this review … well, I got to the part about trans people, and I found myself unable to be conciliatory. LeVay might be a towering giant in his field and have a long career behind him, but it’s irresponsible to publish remarks like this in 2023 in the current political climate around trans people. I cannot in good conscience recommend this book, because well-meaning and curious allies who read this might inadvertently think that LeVay (and by extension, Blanchard) are accurately discussing transgender people. As much as there are valuable nuggets of information elsewhere in the book, this one section alone is too problematic. Additionally, it represents the challenge of talking so broadly about a topic like this. Rather than specializing, LeVay decided to take on all of human sexuality—and even with his decades of experience in the field, that task proved to be too elusive for him to complete with reasonable fidelity.
Originally posted on Kara.Reviews, where you can easily browse all my reviews and subscribe to my newsletter.
July 23, 2023
الممارسات الجنسية غير المنتجة
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يجب أن توفر الطبيعة الدافع للجماع الجنسي ، لكن ليس عليها توفير الدافع للحمل ، لأن الحمل يعتني بنفسه. بمجرد ولادة الطفل ، تظهر مجموعة جديدة من الدوافع ، تندرج تحت العنوان العام للترابط بين الوالدين والطفل.
ربما كان ينبغي على الطبيعة التفكير في هذا الأمر بعناية أكبر لأنه من خلال تقديم جميع أنواع الجزر قبل الحمل - الانجذاب الجنسي ، والإثارة ، ومتعة الاتصال الجنسي ، ومكافأة النشوة الجنسية - مع عدم تقديم الجزر على الإطلاق ، وتقديم بعض ضربات العصا طوال فترة الحمل ، فإنها قد تدفع الحيوانات التي لديها أي درجة من الإبداع إلى الاستيلاء على كل الجزر وتجنب العصا.
لذلك نرى ظهور العديد من السلوكيات الجنسية غير الإنجابية من النوع الذي أدانه بشدة القديس توما الأكويني ، في حكمه للقرن الثالث عشر للأخلاقيات الجنسية. كانت الأفعال الجنسية غير المنتجة (على سبيل المثال ، الجنس الفموي أو الشرجي) ، والاستمناء ، والسلوكيات الجنسية المثلية ، ومنع الحمل ، والجنس أثناء الحيض ، كلها آثمة في عينيه.
من حيث أصولها التطورية ، فإن الدوافع وراء السلوكيات الجنسية غير الإنجابية هي منتجات ثانوية عرضية لدوافع السلوك الإنجابي. هذا لا يعني أنها غير قادرة على التكيف ، أي أنها لا تعيق بالضرورة استمرار الجينات التي تولد هذه الدوافع. في الواقع ، يمكن أن تكون قابلة للتكيف.
يصبح ذلك واضحًا إذا أخذنا في الاعتبار أقاربنا من الرئيسيات : البونوبو. أنثى البونوبو نشطة جنسيًا ليس فقط أثناء الإباضة ، مثل العديد من الثدييات الأخرى ، ولكن طوال الدورة الشهرية التي تستغرق ستين يومًا ، باستثناء بضعة أيام في وقت قريب من وقت الحيض.
كما أنها نشطة جنسيًا أثناء إرضاع الرضيع ، على الرغم من أن الرضاعة الطبيعية تثبط الإباضة. بعبارة أخرى ، قد تبدأ إناث البونوبو ، مثل نساء البشر ، في التقدم الجنسي أو الاستجابة له حتى عندما لا تكون قادرة على الحمل.
بالإضافة إلى ذلك ، تنخرط قرود البونوبو في سلوكيات جنسية غير قابلة للإنتاج بطبيعتها ، مثل العلاقات الجنسية المثلية والممارسة مع الأحداث غير الناضجين جنسيًا. فيما يتعلق بالجنس المثلي ، قد يفرك رجلان قضيبهما معًا ، وقد تنخرط الإناث في سلوك يسمى "فرك الأعضاء التناسلية" - وهو مصطلح تقني آخر غير رومانسي - حيث يفركون فروجهن ببعضهم البعض بحركة متناغمة. لا توجد قرود بونوبو "مثلية" بشكل حصري ، على حد علمنا ، ولكن جميع الإناث لديها اتصالات جنسية مع إناث أخريات بشكل متكرر أكثر مما يفعل مع الذكور.
من الواضح أن البونوبو ينخرطون في هذه السلوكيات غير الإنجابية لأنها ممتعة. لكنهم بذلك لا يخدعون الهدف الانجابي للجنس. بدلا من ذلك ، وجدوا قيمة تكيفية لهذه السلوكيات. وفقًا لعالم الرئيسيات فرانس دي وال من جامعة إيموري ، فإن هذه السلوكيات تساعد في حل النزاعات وتعزيز التعاون الاجتماعي. يقوي الجنس بين الإناث التحالفات النسائية ، وتساعد هذه التحالفات الإناث على تحقيق قدر من الهيمنة الاجتماعية على الذكور الأقوى جسديًا.
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Simon LeVay
Attraction, Love, Sex: The Inside Story
Translated By #Maher_Razouk
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يجب أن توفر الطبيعة الدافع للجماع الجنسي ، لكن ليس عليها توفير الدافع للحمل ، لأن الحمل يعتني بنفسه. بمجرد ولادة الطفل ، تظهر مجموعة جديدة من الدوافع ، تندرج تحت العنوان العام للترابط بين الوالدين والطفل.
ربما كان ينبغي على الطبيعة التفكير في هذا الأمر بعناية أكبر لأنه من خلال تقديم جميع أنواع الجزر قبل الحمل - الانجذاب الجنسي ، والإثارة ، ومتعة الاتصال الجنسي ، ومكافأة النشوة الجنسية - مع عدم تقديم الجزر على الإطلاق ، وتقديم بعض ضربات العصا طوال فترة الحمل ، فإنها قد تدفع الحيوانات التي لديها أي درجة من الإبداع إلى الاستيلاء على كل الجزر وتجنب العصا.
لذلك نرى ظهور العديد من السلوكيات الجنسية غير الإنجابية من النوع الذي أدانه بشدة القديس توما الأكويني ، في حكمه للقرن الثالث عشر للأخلاقيات الجنسية. كانت الأفعال الجنسية غير المنتجة (على سبيل المثال ، الجنس الفموي أو الشرجي) ، والاستمناء ، والسلوكيات الجنسية المثلية ، ومنع الحمل ، والجنس أثناء الحيض ، كلها آثمة في عينيه.
من حيث أصولها التطورية ، فإن الدوافع وراء السلوكيات الجنسية غير الإنجابية هي منتجات ثانوية عرضية لدوافع السلوك الإنجابي. هذا لا يعني أنها غير قادرة على التكيف ، أي أنها لا تعيق بالضرورة استمرار الجينات التي تولد هذه الدوافع. في الواقع ، يمكن أن تكون قابلة للتكيف.
يصبح ذلك واضحًا إذا أخذنا في الاعتبار أقاربنا من الرئيسيات : البونوبو. أنثى البونوبو نشطة جنسيًا ليس فقط أثناء الإباضة ، مثل العديد من الثدييات الأخرى ، ولكن طوال الدورة الشهرية التي تستغرق ستين يومًا ، باستثناء بضعة أيام في وقت قريب من وقت الحيض.
كما أنها نشطة جنسيًا أثناء إرضاع الرضيع ، على الرغم من أن الرضاعة الطبيعية تثبط الإباضة. بعبارة أخرى ، قد تبدأ إناث البونوبو ، مثل نساء البشر ، في التقدم الجنسي أو الاستجابة له حتى عندما لا تكون قادرة على الحمل.
بالإضافة إلى ذلك ، تنخرط قرود البونوبو في سلوكيات جنسية غير قابلة للإنتاج بطبيعتها ، مثل العلاقات الجنسية المثلية والممارسة مع الأحداث غير الناضجين جنسيًا. فيما يتعلق بالجنس المثلي ، قد يفرك رجلان قضيبهما معًا ، وقد تنخرط الإناث في سلوك يسمى "فرك الأعضاء التناسلية" - وهو مصطلح تقني آخر غير رومانسي - حيث يفركون فروجهن ببعضهم البعض بحركة متناغمة. لا توجد قرود بونوبو "مثلية" بشكل حصري ، على حد علمنا ، ولكن جميع الإناث لديها اتصالات جنسية مع إناث أخريات بشكل متكرر أكثر مما يفعل مع الذكور.
من الواضح أن البونوبو ينخرطون في هذه السلوكيات غير الإنجابية لأنها ممتعة. لكنهم بذلك لا يخدعون الهدف الانجابي للجنس. بدلا من ذلك ، وجدوا قيمة تكيفية لهذه السلوكيات. وفقًا لعالم الرئيسيات فرانس دي وال من جامعة إيموري ، فإن هذه السلوكيات تساعد في حل النزاعات وتعزيز التعاون الاجتماعي. يقوي الجنس بين الإناث التحالفات النسائية ، وتساعد هذه التحالفات الإناث على تحقيق قدر من الهيمنة الاجتماعية على الذكور الأقوى جسديًا.
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Simon LeVay
Attraction, Love, Sex: The Inside Story
Translated By #Maher_Razouk
October 29, 2023
Book Review
Title: Attraction, Love, Sex: The Inside Story by Simon LeVay
Genre: Science, Psychology
Rating: 5 Stars
The opening to Attraction, Love, Sex was interesting as Simon LeVay introduces us to several areas regarding sex that he is going to be looking at from why we have sex in the first place to a variety of different sexual behaviours and why they occur. In the opening chapter, he questions why we even engage in sex in the first place and this has a more complicated answer than you might expect. When US college student we asked they came up with a variety of reason except procreation whereas the Aka hunter-gather tribe didn’t understand that there were reasons for having sex outside procreation. He dives deeper into this looking into the differences between sexual and asexual reproduction, now asexual reproduction is less demanding and more effective than sexual reproduction but the majority of mammals including humans reproduce sexually and haven’t gone extinct meaning there must be a reason for this type of reproduction to persist in nature. There are two leading theories for this, The Red Queen theory and the Rubies in the Rubbish theory. I won’t go into detail on them but the Rubies theory has a little more weight since it states that the way genes are combined to increase good mutations and depose of bad mutations might be the key but there are still many grey areas that need looking into.
Chapter two focuses on attraction, and LeVay dives into the methods and motivations of attraction in both humans and non-humans. When comparing animals to humans they use more of their senses to seek out a mate than humans. Although, there has been some study done into humans using their sense of smell to determine attractiveness but these are currently inconclusive. Humans primarily uses their eyesight to determine attractiveness and this is seen in multiple studies. In one participants were presented with various images of faces and many that were classified as mixed race were rated the most attractive reinforcing the idea that gene mixing determines attractiveness. In another study done on weight it was found that environmental and cultural factors played a huge role in determining attractiveness. In Western cultures women with a BMI on the lower end of the normal range was the most attractive but in countries with food scarcity those with higher BMI’s were more attractive. Now LeVay makes the distinction between attraction and arousal which is covered in the next chapter.
Chapter three focuses on arousal, where LeVay makes the distinction that attraction is semi-conscious while arousal which is an almost unconscious response to stimuli. Studies done on the brain have determined most of the areas responsible for arousal but this list isn’t complete as many areas of the brain work in tandem with other areas to complete a single task. LeVay describes the high and low roads in humans, the high road is conscious and requires you to react and respond to stimuli while the low road doesn’t and it is the low road that is responsible for most arousal since it is the faster of the two route. While some studies on arousal have been conducted in humans, the areas of the brain that need to be studying make it extremely difficult to perform with humans so we look at similar studies done in animals, specifically mice. It was found that two different types of gene expression were found in male mice which changed their course of action depending on the sex of the new mice introduced to the enclosure. If the mouse was female, one gene type would be expressed leading to mating behaviour and if the mouse was male it would lead to aggression. It has been theorised that there is a similar type of expression in humans but this does need further study.
In chapter four, LeVay moves onto orientation. This was a chapter I was eager to get into to see LeVay’s perspective on this being a gay man himself and it turns out that orientation is both more fluid than we originally thought and is partly determined by the neurohormonal process within our bodies both during development and after birth. LeVay first makes the statement that women tend to be more fluid in their orientation than men but men have been known to change their orientations later in life and examples are provided of this. When we get into the science there seems to be part of the brain and certain genes that are partially responsible for nonheterosexuality. While some of these things are still being studies today it seems that there is some genetic predisposition to nonheterosexuality but our environment and upbringing also plays a part in this. LeVay goes deep into these biological and neurological indicators to these types of orientation and it was interesting to see that those who identify as lesbian or gay have physical indictors of their orientation. These statement are taken with a grain of salt since some of the studies contradict each other and many are still undergoing further investigation.
LeVay then look into the physical act of having sexual intercourse and I was intrigued to see his views on this given what he has already covered in orientation, arousal and attraction. LeVay begins by seeking to understand the psychological reasons people engage in sexual acts and the easiest answer is because it feels good due to the flood of hormones during and after sex. The leads us down the rabbit hole of male vs female orgasms and some of the research into this was extremely interesting despite the awkwardness of those situations. It also address the similarities in anatomy and the differences in how orgasm is achieved. This leads quite nicely into sexual dysfunction in both men and women. While more study and research has gone into male sexual dysfunction with the creation of Viagra, women also suffer heavily with similar issues with little relief. LeVay also briefly looks into asexual people and the potential reasons for their lack of sexual desire despite being capable physically and mentally of sexual arousal.
The following chapter looks at relationships which LeVay has avoided until now focusing on the scientific side of things. LeVay begins by looking at how we form relationships both physically and emotionally, although this doesn’t include pair bonds as he will be covering this in another chapter. The look at how we form relationships in the modern age was interesting as well as the differing perspectives on how men and women form and maintain relationships. LeVay explains the idea of homogamy and how we tend to pick partners similar to ourselves in terms of personality although some studies suggest having a partner that is complementary, introverts dating extroverts, to ourselves lead to higher relationship satisfaction. He also looks at jealousy, in heterosexual couples jealousy seems to be sex specific. This suggests that men fear cheating whereas women fear their partner having an emotional connection to someone else. Essentially men are jealous towards physical attractiveness while women are jealous towards emotional connection. This was a very interesting chapter but doesn’t cover much outside simple psychology but we are getting into some harder topics.
The next chapter is on paraphilias or sexual behaviours that lie outside the societal norm. Paraphilias are an interesting topic especially if you have an interest in psychology or have studied it in the past as I have. According to the DSM 5 paraphilias are no longer classified as a mental disorder unless it causes distress to the person(s) affected. While many paraphilias have become more accepted in society, LeVay does dive into how these emerge. In most people paraphilias come to light during their first sexual experiences whether self-pleasure or sexual encounter. However, most people studied develop further paraphilias later in life which counters this early emergence. Some studies have also noted that some paraphilias can be induced through conditioning although this is debated. There also seems to be some distinction between sex since men tend to display more overt behaviour with paraphilias whereas women tend to express paraphilias through fantasy. One distressing paraphilia that LeVay doesn’t touch on in this chapter but dives into in the following chapter is paedophilia or the sexual attraction to children.
While paedophilia is classed as a paraphilia it is also the one most people think of when paraphilias are mentioned. It is still also classified as a mental disorder since it causes distress in a way other paraphilias do not. LeVay believes that paedophilia is a sexual orientation in the fact that it can’t be cured or changed. He also believes that those who identify as paedophiles but never commit offences against children deserve some measure of respect and support rather than being vilified for something they are actively fighting against. While I don’t personally agree with everything LeVay says on this, I do believe some of his points have merits in understanding how and why someone is a paedophile and how we can provide support and guidance to these individuals especially those that don’t commit offences.
LeVay then turns his attention to pornography, something very mainstream in the modern age but it can be something that can cause a lot of issues. Porn has become something completely normal and most people have or do consume pornographic content on a regular basis. LeVay explains that statistically men consume more porn than women but this is a biased number since the form of content is different. Men tend to watch videos while women use literature or auditory content. He also goes into the benefits and harms of consuming porn and evidence is conflicted on this. Some say that consuming porn is harmful as it increases violence against women but most studies prove the opposite as those more likely to commit sexual offences have an outlet through porn that they otherwise might not have. However, sexual crimes including rape are a major issue in modern society and this is what LeVay is covering next.
This chapter on rape doesn’t actually go into many of the psychological effects of rape on its victims but rather he chooses to focus on why rapes occur which is a question asked quite often. The scientific evidence is torn on the reasons for rape occurring as some believe it might be genetic or evolutionary in nature since similar events happen in nature but others firmly believe it is social in nature meaning there is no cause of it, people just want to do it. I personally believe it is more likely some combination of the two where a person if genetically predisposed to sexual crimes or violent crimes and combined with a social element like rejection might lead to rapes occurring. LeVay does also touch on both the short and long term effects people have after rape and sexual assault as well as many different treatment options.
The final chapter of the book focuses on love and we know from an earlier chapter that LeVay will be looking at pair bonds. LeVay discusses primarily pair bonds in animals and how we know through experimentation that they actually have a slightly different brain structure and response to hormones than animals that don’t pair bond. Pair bonding in nature is quite rare and very few animals do it which might explain something of human behaviour. While human can and do pair bond many scientists believe that it is not in human nature to do so making us outliers like these animals in nature. While the reasoning behind pair bonding in animals and humans is still unknown, the main thought is that it is to do with the securing of resources and stability for future offspring which makes sense. Overall, I found LeVay’s book to be insight and cover aspects of these topics that aren’t often discussed and if you are interesting in psychology then I’d highly recommend checking it out.
Title: Attraction, Love, Sex: The Inside Story by Simon LeVay
Genre: Science, Psychology
Rating: 5 Stars
The opening to Attraction, Love, Sex was interesting as Simon LeVay introduces us to several areas regarding sex that he is going to be looking at from why we have sex in the first place to a variety of different sexual behaviours and why they occur. In the opening chapter, he questions why we even engage in sex in the first place and this has a more complicated answer than you might expect. When US college student we asked they came up with a variety of reason except procreation whereas the Aka hunter-gather tribe didn’t understand that there were reasons for having sex outside procreation. He dives deeper into this looking into the differences between sexual and asexual reproduction, now asexual reproduction is less demanding and more effective than sexual reproduction but the majority of mammals including humans reproduce sexually and haven’t gone extinct meaning there must be a reason for this type of reproduction to persist in nature. There are two leading theories for this, The Red Queen theory and the Rubies in the Rubbish theory. I won’t go into detail on them but the Rubies theory has a little more weight since it states that the way genes are combined to increase good mutations and depose of bad mutations might be the key but there are still many grey areas that need looking into.
Chapter two focuses on attraction, and LeVay dives into the methods and motivations of attraction in both humans and non-humans. When comparing animals to humans they use more of their senses to seek out a mate than humans. Although, there has been some study done into humans using their sense of smell to determine attractiveness but these are currently inconclusive. Humans primarily uses their eyesight to determine attractiveness and this is seen in multiple studies. In one participants were presented with various images of faces and many that were classified as mixed race were rated the most attractive reinforcing the idea that gene mixing determines attractiveness. In another study done on weight it was found that environmental and cultural factors played a huge role in determining attractiveness. In Western cultures women with a BMI on the lower end of the normal range was the most attractive but in countries with food scarcity those with higher BMI’s were more attractive. Now LeVay makes the distinction between attraction and arousal which is covered in the next chapter.
Chapter three focuses on arousal, where LeVay makes the distinction that attraction is semi-conscious while arousal which is an almost unconscious response to stimuli. Studies done on the brain have determined most of the areas responsible for arousal but this list isn’t complete as many areas of the brain work in tandem with other areas to complete a single task. LeVay describes the high and low roads in humans, the high road is conscious and requires you to react and respond to stimuli while the low road doesn’t and it is the low road that is responsible for most arousal since it is the faster of the two route. While some studies on arousal have been conducted in humans, the areas of the brain that need to be studying make it extremely difficult to perform with humans so we look at similar studies done in animals, specifically mice. It was found that two different types of gene expression were found in male mice which changed their course of action depending on the sex of the new mice introduced to the enclosure. If the mouse was female, one gene type would be expressed leading to mating behaviour and if the mouse was male it would lead to aggression. It has been theorised that there is a similar type of expression in humans but this does need further study.
In chapter four, LeVay moves onto orientation. This was a chapter I was eager to get into to see LeVay’s perspective on this being a gay man himself and it turns out that orientation is both more fluid than we originally thought and is partly determined by the neurohormonal process within our bodies both during development and after birth. LeVay first makes the statement that women tend to be more fluid in their orientation than men but men have been known to change their orientations later in life and examples are provided of this. When we get into the science there seems to be part of the brain and certain genes that are partially responsible for nonheterosexuality. While some of these things are still being studies today it seems that there is some genetic predisposition to nonheterosexuality but our environment and upbringing also plays a part in this. LeVay goes deep into these biological and neurological indicators to these types of orientation and it was interesting to see that those who identify as lesbian or gay have physical indictors of their orientation. These statement are taken with a grain of salt since some of the studies contradict each other and many are still undergoing further investigation.
LeVay then look into the physical act of having sexual intercourse and I was intrigued to see his views on this given what he has already covered in orientation, arousal and attraction. LeVay begins by seeking to understand the psychological reasons people engage in sexual acts and the easiest answer is because it feels good due to the flood of hormones during and after sex. The leads us down the rabbit hole of male vs female orgasms and some of the research into this was extremely interesting despite the awkwardness of those situations. It also address the similarities in anatomy and the differences in how orgasm is achieved. This leads quite nicely into sexual dysfunction in both men and women. While more study and research has gone into male sexual dysfunction with the creation of Viagra, women also suffer heavily with similar issues with little relief. LeVay also briefly looks into asexual people and the potential reasons for their lack of sexual desire despite being capable physically and mentally of sexual arousal.
The following chapter looks at relationships which LeVay has avoided until now focusing on the scientific side of things. LeVay begins by looking at how we form relationships both physically and emotionally, although this doesn’t include pair bonds as he will be covering this in another chapter. The look at how we form relationships in the modern age was interesting as well as the differing perspectives on how men and women form and maintain relationships. LeVay explains the idea of homogamy and how we tend to pick partners similar to ourselves in terms of personality although some studies suggest having a partner that is complementary, introverts dating extroverts, to ourselves lead to higher relationship satisfaction. He also looks at jealousy, in heterosexual couples jealousy seems to be sex specific. This suggests that men fear cheating whereas women fear their partner having an emotional connection to someone else. Essentially men are jealous towards physical attractiveness while women are jealous towards emotional connection. This was a very interesting chapter but doesn’t cover much outside simple psychology but we are getting into some harder topics.
The next chapter is on paraphilias or sexual behaviours that lie outside the societal norm. Paraphilias are an interesting topic especially if you have an interest in psychology or have studied it in the past as I have. According to the DSM 5 paraphilias are no longer classified as a mental disorder unless it causes distress to the person(s) affected. While many paraphilias have become more accepted in society, LeVay does dive into how these emerge. In most people paraphilias come to light during their first sexual experiences whether self-pleasure or sexual encounter. However, most people studied develop further paraphilias later in life which counters this early emergence. Some studies have also noted that some paraphilias can be induced through conditioning although this is debated. There also seems to be some distinction between sex since men tend to display more overt behaviour with paraphilias whereas women tend to express paraphilias through fantasy. One distressing paraphilia that LeVay doesn’t touch on in this chapter but dives into in the following chapter is paedophilia or the sexual attraction to children.
While paedophilia is classed as a paraphilia it is also the one most people think of when paraphilias are mentioned. It is still also classified as a mental disorder since it causes distress in a way other paraphilias do not. LeVay believes that paedophilia is a sexual orientation in the fact that it can’t be cured or changed. He also believes that those who identify as paedophiles but never commit offences against children deserve some measure of respect and support rather than being vilified for something they are actively fighting against. While I don’t personally agree with everything LeVay says on this, I do believe some of his points have merits in understanding how and why someone is a paedophile and how we can provide support and guidance to these individuals especially those that don’t commit offences.
LeVay then turns his attention to pornography, something very mainstream in the modern age but it can be something that can cause a lot of issues. Porn has become something completely normal and most people have or do consume pornographic content on a regular basis. LeVay explains that statistically men consume more porn than women but this is a biased number since the form of content is different. Men tend to watch videos while women use literature or auditory content. He also goes into the benefits and harms of consuming porn and evidence is conflicted on this. Some say that consuming porn is harmful as it increases violence against women but most studies prove the opposite as those more likely to commit sexual offences have an outlet through porn that they otherwise might not have. However, sexual crimes including rape are a major issue in modern society and this is what LeVay is covering next.
This chapter on rape doesn’t actually go into many of the psychological effects of rape on its victims but rather he chooses to focus on why rapes occur which is a question asked quite often. The scientific evidence is torn on the reasons for rape occurring as some believe it might be genetic or evolutionary in nature since similar events happen in nature but others firmly believe it is social in nature meaning there is no cause of it, people just want to do it. I personally believe it is more likely some combination of the two where a person if genetically predisposed to sexual crimes or violent crimes and combined with a social element like rejection might lead to rapes occurring. LeVay does also touch on both the short and long term effects people have after rape and sexual assault as well as many different treatment options.
The final chapter of the book focuses on love and we know from an earlier chapter that LeVay will be looking at pair bonds. LeVay discusses primarily pair bonds in animals and how we know through experimentation that they actually have a slightly different brain structure and response to hormones than animals that don’t pair bond. Pair bonding in nature is quite rare and very few animals do it which might explain something of human behaviour. While human can and do pair bond many scientists believe that it is not in human nature to do so making us outliers like these animals in nature. While the reasoning behind pair bonding in animals and humans is still unknown, the main thought is that it is to do with the securing of resources and stability for future offspring which makes sense. Overall, I found LeVay’s book to be insight and cover aspects of these topics that aren’t often discussed and if you are interesting in psychology then I’d highly recommend checking it out.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
February 17, 2024
Attraction, Love, Sex: The Inside Story is the latest book by Simon LeVay, a scientist and author who is described on its dustjacket as being, “best known for his 1991 report documenting a difference in brain structure between gay and straight men.” The book deals with a variety of topics related to sex. LeVay writes that its overall purpose is to demonstrate that sex is “an appropriate subject for rational inquiry just like any other aspect of human nature.”
LeVay burdens his discussions of what one might think were interesting topics with pointless anecdotes and stories, some of which look as though they were intended to be deliberately shocking or to gross out the reader. The more of them I came across, the more irritating they became; the worst examples were the cases in which LeVay shared stories relating to his own life. LeVay is like one of those eccentric uncles who always tells one inappropriate story too many whenever he is invited to dinner with relatives, to the embarrassment and disgust of everyone around him.
Perhaps LeVay is worried that most people are too stupid to find the scientific aspects of sex of interest, making it necessary for him to periodically mention sensational trivia to motivate them to continue reading a book about the subject. Yet I suspect the issue may be more serious: perhaps LeVay himself secretly finds the topics he has chosen to write about mostly rather uninteresting and the unnecessary trivia is symptomatic of his own lack of interest in them.
Topics that LeVay discusses include the question of why sexual reproduction exists at all considering that asexual reproduction would appear to be more efficient, factors that influence perceptions of people’s sexual attractiveness, brain structures involved in sexual arousal, marriage and sexual relationships, pornography, rape, and love. These may all be interesting or significant subjects in themselves, but I do not have the impression that LeVay genuinely cares about any of them. He cares least of all about love, to judge from his very dull and uninspired chapter on the topic. His chapter on pornography calls itself into question, considering that at the outset LeVay casually dismisses the issue of how qualified he is to discuss porn given how little of the scholarly literature on the topic he has read.
Of the subjects LeVay discusses in Attraction, Love, Sex, there are only two he appears to genuinely care about. The first is homosexuality. The second is paedophilia. One can tell that these are the subjects he really cares about precisely because they are the subjects that he discusses in the most biased fashion.
LeVay claims that it has been definitively shown that there is nothing wrong with being gay. Although LeVay is generally careful to support his claims with citations to scientific literature, this is one of several revealing cases in which he does not bother. Presumably, he simply does not believe that anyone would dare challenge him. For those wondering how seriously to take his claim, some context should help. In his first book, The Sexual Brain (1993), LeVay, considering possible explanations of why hypothetical “gay genes” might persist in the population despite their presumed reproductive disadvantage, compared homosexuality to a disease, sickle cell anemia. He has repeated the comparison in subsequent books, including Gay, Straight, and the Reason Why (2010). Even after decades, he has never admitted the obvious: a comparison of homosexuality to sickle cell anemia only makes sense if one is prepared to view homosexuality as a disease, or a condition that is similar to a disease.
LeVay does not mention the sickle cell anemia model for homosexuality anywhere in Attraction, Love, Sex. He does, however, make at least one assertion about homosexuality that may anger some of his readers. LeVay devotes a chapter to paraphilias, a paraphilia being defined, as he tells us, as “an unusual and persistent sexual desire or pattern of sexual behavior.” LeVay claims that since most paraphilias are no longer listed as mental disorders, there is no reason that homosexuality should not be classified as a paraphilia.
Of the many things that could be said in reply, three are particularly pertinent. First, describing homosexuality as "unusual" is a euphemism for calling it abnormal. It thus seems that LeVay is effectively granting the point that homosexuality is abnormal, without admitting that this is what is doing. Second, if some paraphilias are still considered mental disorders, then classifying homosexuality as a paraphilia would establish at least some possible basis for categorising it as a mental disorder. Third, if there is good scientific reason to classify homosexuality as a paraphilia, then one would still have to support its being classified that way even if this meant that it would be categorised as a mental disorder. LeVay, by supporting the classification of homosexuality as a paraphilia only if this would not result in its being categorised as a mental disorder, or in some other consequence that he would find unacceptable, is arguing from a standpoint of expediency and showing that truth is not his objective. As impossible and as corrupt as such an objective is, LeVay is evidently trying to find a way of getting homosexuality officially recognised as abnormal that would not offend gay people or damage the cause of gay rights. If the idea that homosexuality is a genetic condition similar to sickle cell anemia is not discussed in Attraction, Love, Sex, then this is not for any scientific reason, but because LeVay has decided that it does not help him advance this agenda.
LeVay devotes a chapter to the topic of sexual orientation, reviewing various studies that according to him support "the idea that sexual orientation can be best understood in terms of biological processes during development.” There is no way that his conclusion can be convincing, however, considering that other ideas about the development of heterosexuality and homosexuality are barely mentioned, and certainly not considered adequately or fairly.
Personally, I expect LeVay to produce tendentious discussions of sexual orientation in general and homosexuality in particular. His discussion of paedophilia was rather more surprising. To a greater extent than anything else in Attraction, Love, Sex, it is likely to seem downright sinister to the reader. LeVay writes that paedophilia is a “serious problem.” Nevertheless, he argues that paedophilia should be considered a sexual orientation, a view that has not achieved mainstream scientific acceptance, although according to him it is held by “many pedophiles.” I think it is sufficiently clear what LeVay's claims about paedophilia are designed to accomplish that little comment is needed.
Despite its potentially interesting subject matter, I did not enjoy reading Attraction, Love, Sex. There were too many cases in which LeVay was silent about things that matter or could not resist talking about things that do not matter. Ultimately, LeVay fails to show that sex can be subjected to rational inquiry like any other subject. Given the political burden that LeVay’s writing on sex has had to carry since its very beginning in his hypothalamus study decades ago, there is no way he could have succeeded. His latest book, ranging from the trivial to the troubling, reminds one that a political agenda is inimical to science.
LeVay burdens his discussions of what one might think were interesting topics with pointless anecdotes and stories, some of which look as though they were intended to be deliberately shocking or to gross out the reader. The more of them I came across, the more irritating they became; the worst examples were the cases in which LeVay shared stories relating to his own life. LeVay is like one of those eccentric uncles who always tells one inappropriate story too many whenever he is invited to dinner with relatives, to the embarrassment and disgust of everyone around him.
Perhaps LeVay is worried that most people are too stupid to find the scientific aspects of sex of interest, making it necessary for him to periodically mention sensational trivia to motivate them to continue reading a book about the subject. Yet I suspect the issue may be more serious: perhaps LeVay himself secretly finds the topics he has chosen to write about mostly rather uninteresting and the unnecessary trivia is symptomatic of his own lack of interest in them.
Topics that LeVay discusses include the question of why sexual reproduction exists at all considering that asexual reproduction would appear to be more efficient, factors that influence perceptions of people’s sexual attractiveness, brain structures involved in sexual arousal, marriage and sexual relationships, pornography, rape, and love. These may all be interesting or significant subjects in themselves, but I do not have the impression that LeVay genuinely cares about any of them. He cares least of all about love, to judge from his very dull and uninspired chapter on the topic. His chapter on pornography calls itself into question, considering that at the outset LeVay casually dismisses the issue of how qualified he is to discuss porn given how little of the scholarly literature on the topic he has read.
Of the subjects LeVay discusses in Attraction, Love, Sex, there are only two he appears to genuinely care about. The first is homosexuality. The second is paedophilia. One can tell that these are the subjects he really cares about precisely because they are the subjects that he discusses in the most biased fashion.
LeVay claims that it has been definitively shown that there is nothing wrong with being gay. Although LeVay is generally careful to support his claims with citations to scientific literature, this is one of several revealing cases in which he does not bother. Presumably, he simply does not believe that anyone would dare challenge him. For those wondering how seriously to take his claim, some context should help. In his first book, The Sexual Brain (1993), LeVay, considering possible explanations of why hypothetical “gay genes” might persist in the population despite their presumed reproductive disadvantage, compared homosexuality to a disease, sickle cell anemia. He has repeated the comparison in subsequent books, including Gay, Straight, and the Reason Why (2010). Even after decades, he has never admitted the obvious: a comparison of homosexuality to sickle cell anemia only makes sense if one is prepared to view homosexuality as a disease, or a condition that is similar to a disease.
LeVay does not mention the sickle cell anemia model for homosexuality anywhere in Attraction, Love, Sex. He does, however, make at least one assertion about homosexuality that may anger some of his readers. LeVay devotes a chapter to paraphilias, a paraphilia being defined, as he tells us, as “an unusual and persistent sexual desire or pattern of sexual behavior.” LeVay claims that since most paraphilias are no longer listed as mental disorders, there is no reason that homosexuality should not be classified as a paraphilia.
Of the many things that could be said in reply, three are particularly pertinent. First, describing homosexuality as "unusual" is a euphemism for calling it abnormal. It thus seems that LeVay is effectively granting the point that homosexuality is abnormal, without admitting that this is what is doing. Second, if some paraphilias are still considered mental disorders, then classifying homosexuality as a paraphilia would establish at least some possible basis for categorising it as a mental disorder. Third, if there is good scientific reason to classify homosexuality as a paraphilia, then one would still have to support its being classified that way even if this meant that it would be categorised as a mental disorder. LeVay, by supporting the classification of homosexuality as a paraphilia only if this would not result in its being categorised as a mental disorder, or in some other consequence that he would find unacceptable, is arguing from a standpoint of expediency and showing that truth is not his objective. As impossible and as corrupt as such an objective is, LeVay is evidently trying to find a way of getting homosexuality officially recognised as abnormal that would not offend gay people or damage the cause of gay rights. If the idea that homosexuality is a genetic condition similar to sickle cell anemia is not discussed in Attraction, Love, Sex, then this is not for any scientific reason, but because LeVay has decided that it does not help him advance this agenda.
LeVay devotes a chapter to the topic of sexual orientation, reviewing various studies that according to him support "the idea that sexual orientation can be best understood in terms of biological processes during development.” There is no way that his conclusion can be convincing, however, considering that other ideas about the development of heterosexuality and homosexuality are barely mentioned, and certainly not considered adequately or fairly.
Personally, I expect LeVay to produce tendentious discussions of sexual orientation in general and homosexuality in particular. His discussion of paedophilia was rather more surprising. To a greater extent than anything else in Attraction, Love, Sex, it is likely to seem downright sinister to the reader. LeVay writes that paedophilia is a “serious problem.” Nevertheless, he argues that paedophilia should be considered a sexual orientation, a view that has not achieved mainstream scientific acceptance, although according to him it is held by “many pedophiles.” I think it is sufficiently clear what LeVay's claims about paedophilia are designed to accomplish that little comment is needed.
Despite its potentially interesting subject matter, I did not enjoy reading Attraction, Love, Sex. There were too many cases in which LeVay was silent about things that matter or could not resist talking about things that do not matter. Ultimately, LeVay fails to show that sex can be subjected to rational inquiry like any other subject. Given the political burden that LeVay’s writing on sex has had to carry since its very beginning in his hypothalamus study decades ago, there is no way he could have succeeded. His latest book, ranging from the trivial to the troubling, reminds one that a political agenda is inimical to science.
August 29, 2023
In Attraction, Love, Sex, British-American neuroscientist Simon LeVay provides a compelling overview of the science behind human intimacy and relationships. I have been a fan of LeVay's work for a couple of decades. His research and writings about how the brain impacts everything from gender to sexual orientation has been groundbreaking. This book is just another addition to a series of highly researched and clearly articulated texts in this area. Attraction, Love, Sex explores the biological, psychological and social dimensions that shape romantic and sexual attraction.
A major strength of the book is LeVay's ability to synthesize research from diverse fields into an accessible narrative. He draws on insights from neuroscience, evolutionary psychology, genetics, hormones, childhood development and more to piece together the foundations of attraction. The book tackles questions like what underlies sexual orientation, how we choose partners, the purpose of emotional intimacy, and the brain science of love.
While grounded in research, LeVay's writing style is engaging with colorful examples and thoughtful explanations of concepts. He balances scientific rigor with empathy in tackling issues like the fluidity of sexuality and the impact of trauma on relationships. Although wide-ranging, the book has a coherent flow thanks to LeVay's skill as a science writer.
Attraction, Love, Sex stands out for providing perspective on both the cultural and biological factors that shape human relationships. LeVay offers a nuanced take on controversial issues and debunks simplistic evolutionary explanations for sexuality and gender dynamics. His biosocial perspective integrates multiple levels of analysis.
Readers will find the book an illuminating overview of the science of intimacy. LeVay succeeds in conveying complex ideas about human behavior in a style accessible to a broad audience. For anyone seeking to understand the psychology and biology of relationships, Attraction, Love, Sex provides a fascinating and insightful analysis.
I thank NetGalley for an advanced copy but the review is completely my own.
A major strength of the book is LeVay's ability to synthesize research from diverse fields into an accessible narrative. He draws on insights from neuroscience, evolutionary psychology, genetics, hormones, childhood development and more to piece together the foundations of attraction. The book tackles questions like what underlies sexual orientation, how we choose partners, the purpose of emotional intimacy, and the brain science of love.
While grounded in research, LeVay's writing style is engaging with colorful examples and thoughtful explanations of concepts. He balances scientific rigor with empathy in tackling issues like the fluidity of sexuality and the impact of trauma on relationships. Although wide-ranging, the book has a coherent flow thanks to LeVay's skill as a science writer.
Attraction, Love, Sex stands out for providing perspective on both the cultural and biological factors that shape human relationships. LeVay offers a nuanced take on controversial issues and debunks simplistic evolutionary explanations for sexuality and gender dynamics. His biosocial perspective integrates multiple levels of analysis.
Readers will find the book an illuminating overview of the science of intimacy. LeVay succeeds in conveying complex ideas about human behavior in a style accessible to a broad audience. For anyone seeking to understand the psychology and biology of relationships, Attraction, Love, Sex provides a fascinating and insightful analysis.
I thank NetGalley for an advanced copy but the review is completely my own.
April 29, 2023
This is an interesting, entertaining, and mostly thorough book. It doesn't deal at all with asexuality, which is disappointing.
Strangely, it also suggests that perhaps no women are exclusively straight. The reason? When straight men are shown images of men, they rate their attractiveness as 0. When gay men are shown images of women, they rate their attractiveness as 0. But when straight women are shown images of women, they don't rate their attractiveness as 0. Shockingly, women rate other women based on their objective attractiveness! Which means all straight women are secretly bi, as opposed to judging the beauty of other women without reference to whether we're personally attracted to them!
Give me a break.
This is actually a small part of the book, and the rest of it is enjoyable. But it's kind of a big deal to suggest that women don't understand their own sexuality, rather than to recognize that the word "attractive" doesn't mean the same thing to straight women that it does to men.
Thanks, NetGalley, for the ARC I received. This is my honest and voluntary review.
Strangely, it also suggests that perhaps no women are exclusively straight. The reason? When straight men are shown images of men, they rate their attractiveness as 0. When gay men are shown images of women, they rate their attractiveness as 0. But when straight women are shown images of women, they don't rate their attractiveness as 0. Shockingly, women rate other women based on their objective attractiveness! Which means all straight women are secretly bi, as opposed to judging the beauty of other women without reference to whether we're personally attracted to them!
Give me a break.
This is actually a small part of the book, and the rest of it is enjoyable. But it's kind of a big deal to suggest that women don't understand their own sexuality, rather than to recognize that the word "attractive" doesn't mean the same thing to straight women that it does to men.
Thanks, NetGalley, for the ARC I received. This is my honest and voluntary review.
September 6, 2023
This is a big old lit review of the state of the art in studies of love and sex, almost entirely from a neuropsych perspective, and with judicious use of animal models.
There's nothing new in it - it is a lit review! But as a researcher who works on gender from a very different perspective, there was a lot in there that I found useful. LeVay also does one of the best things a lit review can do, and calls out studies that he finds questionable, and explaining why he questions them. This is a messy field, and he isn't afraid to wade into the controversial areas (there's a lot that doesn't replicate).
There's nothing new in it - it is a lit review! But as a researcher who works on gender from a very different perspective, there was a lot in there that I found useful. LeVay also does one of the best things a lit review can do, and calls out studies that he finds questionable, and explaining why he questions them. This is a messy field, and he isn't afraid to wade into the controversial areas (there's a lot that doesn't replicate).
May 16, 2023
A professional and interesting book about...well, attraction, love and sex.
Yes, what in the title is what you'll learn in this book.
It started with the studies of animals, then we learn more about ourselves as a human, which is also a kind of animal.
I think is book could be used as a textbook for students. I wish I could read it when I was younger.
Thanks NetGalley and the publisher for the ARC!
Yes, what in the title is what you'll learn in this book.
It started with the studies of animals, then we learn more about ourselves as a human, which is also a kind of animal.
I think is book could be used as a textbook for students. I wish I could read it when I was younger.
Thanks NetGalley and the publisher for the ARC!
March 28, 2024
Absolute waste of time. Please don’t waste your time of money into this one !
May 19, 2024
An amazing book. I had courses on Biopsychology of sex at University. But still learnt a lot by reading this book. 👌🏼
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