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The Love Study
What happens when the search for the perfect date goes perfectly wrong?
Don’t miss this charming romantic comedy from critically acclaimed author Kris Ripper.
Declan has commitment issues. He’s been an office temp for literally years now, and his friends delight in telling people that he left his last boyfriend at the altar.
And that’s all true. But he’s starting to think it’s time to start working on his issues. Maybe.
When Declan meets Sidney—a popular nonbinary YouTuber with an advice show—an opportunity presents itself: as part of The Love Study, Declan will go on a series of dates arranged by Sidney and report back on how the date went in the next episode.
The dates are…sort of blah. It’s not Sidney’s fault; the folks participating are (mostly) great people, but there’s no chemistry there. Maybe Declan’s just broken.
Or maybe the problem is that the only person he’s feeling chemistry with is Sidney.
Don’t miss this charming romantic comedy from critically acclaimed author Kris Ripper.
Declan has commitment issues. He’s been an office temp for literally years now, and his friends delight in telling people that he left his last boyfriend at the altar.
And that’s all true. But he’s starting to think it’s time to start working on his issues. Maybe.
When Declan meets Sidney—a popular nonbinary YouTuber with an advice show—an opportunity presents itself: as part of The Love Study, Declan will go on a series of dates arranged by Sidney and report back on how the date went in the next episode.
The dates are…sort of blah. It’s not Sidney’s fault; the folks participating are (mostly) great people, but there’s no chemistry there. Maybe Declan’s just broken.
Or maybe the problem is that the only person he’s feeling chemistry with is Sidney.
336 pages, Kindle Edition
First published September 28, 2020
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Kris Ripper
90 books385 followersKris Ripper lives in the great state of California and zir pronouns are ze/zir. Kris shares a converted garage with a kid, can do two pull-ups in a row, and can write backwards. (No, really.) Ze has been writing fiction since ze learned how to write, and boring zir stuffed animals with stories long before that.
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September 28, 2020
I was very excited to try The Love Study by Kris Ripper, but it took me over two weeks to force myself to finish so, alas, I've concluded that it just isn't the story for me.
I've read a number of stories by Kris Ripper, and I appreciate zir writing an own voices romance with a genderqueer MC. There are not many romance books with genderqueer characters, so it's very excited when I find one and get to try one out. However, I really wished I loved this and found it as funny as it was trying to be.
Right off the bat, the premise seemed forced, but I decided to roll with it. I felt like the set up wasn't very organic, and the chemistry wasn't quite there. I was hoping I would root for the romance more as the story went on, but I just didn't feel the physical chemistry or draw between these two.
I also really, really, really hated how the characters giggled constantly. It's a personal pet peeve of mine when adults in romances giggle.
I don't know, I just felt underwhelmed. The dialogue dominated the plotline and I didn't even get sucked into the story. It was a miss for me.
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I've read a number of stories by Kris Ripper, and I appreciate zir writing an own voices romance with a genderqueer MC. There are not many romance books with genderqueer characters, so it's very excited when I find one and get to try one out. However, I really wished I loved this and found it as funny as it was trying to be.
Right off the bat, the premise seemed forced, but I decided to roll with it. I felt like the set up wasn't very organic, and the chemistry wasn't quite there. I was hoping I would root for the romance more as the story went on, but I just didn't feel the physical chemistry or draw between these two.
I also really, really, really hated how the characters giggled constantly. It's a personal pet peeve of mine when adults in romances giggle.
I don't know, I just felt underwhelmed. The dialogue dominated the plotline and I didn't even get sucked into the story. It was a miss for me.
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November 5, 2020
THIS REALLY JUST WASN'T MY CUP OF TEA
When I requested this book from Netgalley it was with so much hope for a great, diverse and inclusive read. Well, it was diverse and inclusive. But for me, it was not great. I think this might just be my personal preference and others might enjoy it. However, I certainly didn't...
👍 What I Liked 👍
Queer: I absolutely loved how inclusive this was! It was queer in all the best ways, featuring pansexuals, bisexuals, non-binary and gender-fluid characters. It was great to see such a broad representation in one single book!
Humor: There were some honest to god LOL moments in this book that I actually truly enjoyed. Sadly, many of the moments that were supposed to be funny were more awkward, cringeworthy or simple way over the top. But the funny moments were there, and they were hillarious!
👎 What I Disliked 👎
Dialogue: First of, there was simply too much of it. Secondly, the dialogue didn't seem to fit the characters at all. These characters are all nearing their thirties, yet they still talk like frat boys! I am sorry, but I have a hard time imagining any people of this age (if any at all) talk like that... I didn't get it and it made connecting with the characters super hard.
Motherfuckers: I don't even know where to start with this. Firstly, this gang of friends refer to themselves and the Motherfuckers... Who does that? In all honesty, I can't take a group of people seriously if they refer to themselves like that. Again, the whole frat boy thing. Not my style. Secondly, these guys are supposed to be friends, right? Yeah, no, they aren't friends. They are bullies. This is definitely a toxic group that I would not want to be a part of. They incessantly bully and tease Declan about leaving Mason at the alter, not taking into account how difficult and traumatizing it was for him. That's not friendship if you ask me...
Giggling: Yeah, again, I can't take a group of adults seriously when they continuingly giggle! Only schoolgirls with silly crushes giggle! Adults do not giggle! They laugh, roar, chuckle or snigger. They don't giggle. Yet the characters in this book did nothing but giggle. And whenever they did, I would imagine them with pigtails, braces and pimples.
The Love Study: The idea of the Love Study was interesting - using Declan's experiences to study the intricacies of queer dating. I was on board for the idea, just not the execution. In reality, the Love Study takes up only 1/3 of the book. And even then, there's very little studying. It's more just talking about bad dates on live YouTube. There's no study and there's very little dating. It was very disappointing.
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When I requested this book from Netgalley it was with so much hope for a great, diverse and inclusive read. Well, it was diverse and inclusive. But for me, it was not great. I think this might just be my personal preference and others might enjoy it. However, I certainly didn't...
👍 What I Liked 👍
Queer: I absolutely loved how inclusive this was! It was queer in all the best ways, featuring pansexuals, bisexuals, non-binary and gender-fluid characters. It was great to see such a broad representation in one single book!
Humor: There were some honest to god LOL moments in this book that I actually truly enjoyed. Sadly, many of the moments that were supposed to be funny were more awkward, cringeworthy or simple way over the top. But the funny moments were there, and they were hillarious!
"I think I had the upper hand for a minute here, but I've lost it now."
- Declan
👎 What I Disliked 👎
Dialogue: First of, there was simply too much of it. Secondly, the dialogue didn't seem to fit the characters at all. These characters are all nearing their thirties, yet they still talk like frat boys! I am sorry, but I have a hard time imagining any people of this age (if any at all) talk like that... I didn't get it and it made connecting with the characters super hard.
Motherfuckers: I don't even know where to start with this. Firstly, this gang of friends refer to themselves and the Motherfuckers... Who does that? In all honesty, I can't take a group of people seriously if they refer to themselves like that. Again, the whole frat boy thing. Not my style. Secondly, these guys are supposed to be friends, right? Yeah, no, they aren't friends. They are bullies. This is definitely a toxic group that I would not want to be a part of. They incessantly bully and tease Declan about leaving Mason at the alter, not taking into account how difficult and traumatizing it was for him. That's not friendship if you ask me...
Giggling: Yeah, again, I can't take a group of adults seriously when they continuingly giggle! Only schoolgirls with silly crushes giggle! Adults do not giggle! They laugh, roar, chuckle or snigger. They don't giggle. Yet the characters in this book did nothing but giggle. And whenever they did, I would imagine them with pigtails, braces and pimples.
The Love Study: The idea of the Love Study was interesting - using Declan's experiences to study the intricacies of queer dating. I was on board for the idea, just not the execution. In reality, the Love Study takes up only 1/3 of the book. And even then, there's very little studying. It's more just talking about bad dates on live YouTube. There's no study and there's very little dating. It was very disappointing.
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August 2, 2020
The Love Study is the first in a new series by Kris Ripper, and another title in Carina's queer Adores line. My previous encounters with Adores titles have been mixed, but this one was unequivocally lovely. Sharp, quick dialogue and the dry wit of the narrator, Declan, combined with slow-build angst to make a sweet, thoughtful HEA, with plenty of adorableness along the way.
Declan is a "commitmentphobe", in all aspects of his life. Among his friends he's notorious for abandoning his last boyfriend, Mason, at the altar and he hasn't had a relationship to speak of in the five years since. Now, at 28, he's pretty much given up on dating or any plans for permanency. He works as an office temp, rejecting offers of long term employment in favour of the endless variety and easy exit routes of short contracts. It isn't what he envisioned but it's fine and it feels safe, given the devastation he caused when he tried committing in the past.
What he does have is an awesome found family in the 'Marginalized Motherfuckers', his friends from college who form a queer circle of safety around him. They include Mason (the erstwhile and very forgiving former fiance), Oscar (misanthropic, with anxiety) and Mia and Ronnie (the group's only couple). These five have known one another for ever, and it shows in the brilliant, easy way they tease, infuriate and care for one another. Right at the start of the book, when I wasn't sure if and how it would work for me as a romance, I was utterly sold on the fierce love between these five.
When The Love Study opens the Motherfuckers are on the countdown to Mia and Ronnie's wedding and Declan is feeling secretly fragile, recalling the run-up to his own failed nuptials. Enter Sidney, a genderqueer YouTuber with a life advice channel called Your Spinster Uncle. They have recently moved to town and are looking to make connections, as well as ways to grow their channel. A chance encounter at a party leads them to make Declan a proposition: why doesn't he come on the show as part of a modern dating experiment? Each week Sidney can set up him with prospective partners, and explore what does and doesn't work in a live-stream show. It can be called The Love Study.
What the study reveals, of course, is that Declan and Sidney have a thing for each other: full marks for intellectual and physical chemistry. When they're together they find an easy rhythm of talking, sharing food, watching Netflix and listening to podcasts that leads to, you know, touching and tangled limbs and the bedroom. But since Declan is terrified of commitment, and Sidney doesn't feel like dating works for them either, they're unsure of what to do about it. What do they even call themselves? Companions? Datefriends?
The Love Study is about two people learning how to move beyond the social conventions and cultural norms of romance and dating, and forming a relationship that makes sense to them. Neither feels like they 'fit' in the world, for lots of reasons, and although they know intuitively that they 'fit together', the more they try to name or describe what they have, the less comfortable it feels. This discomfort starts to seem like failure: failure at romance, at dating, at relationships. The book's angst comes out of this disconnect between the infinitely varied lived experiences of gender, sexuality and love, and the social structures of those things. Kris Ripper does a great job of showing the allure of norms - Declan definitely doesn't want to get married, but he's grieving for the loss of the idea of it - and the difficulty of breaking free of them. It's especially difficult when you've gotten to know one another in the spotlight of social media, which can be strict and normative as well as freeing.
What I loved about the book in the end was the way it didn't make light of these issues, or the process of working through them. Both Sidney and Declan, but especially Declan, are given lots of time to figure things out, via the aforementioned cute scenes of cooking and watching Netflix, and through the interventions of the other Motherfuckers. It could have felt like a very shallow basis for conflict and angst, but it didn't. So although I wasn't sure about the swift set-up for the story in the early chapters, I was fully on board by the final third.
A couple of other things to mention. The book is fade to black, so there is no on-page sex, although it is very sex positive. It focuses instead on generating intimacy through talking and thinking (and being ruthlessly teased by your friends). I think this was absolutely the right choice, because it keeps the reader's eyes where they are meant to be, on the juncture of Declan and Sidney's personal expectations, rather than on the juncture of their bodies. That's where the work is needed in this case. There is also no external threat or violence. While the impacts of homophobia and transphobia are acknowledged, they aren't used for plot and so Declan and Sidney have space to develop intimacy on their own terms. Both of these things contribute to the softness of the story, and I found it a soothing comfort at a difficult time.
I'm very much looking forward to the next book in the series, which is grumpy, anxious Oscar's story. He had some lovely cameo moments in this book, and I'm already deeply invested in his future happy ending.
Declan is a "commitmentphobe", in all aspects of his life. Among his friends he's notorious for abandoning his last boyfriend, Mason, at the altar and he hasn't had a relationship to speak of in the five years since. Now, at 28, he's pretty much given up on dating or any plans for permanency. He works as an office temp, rejecting offers of long term employment in favour of the endless variety and easy exit routes of short contracts. It isn't what he envisioned but it's fine and it feels safe, given the devastation he caused when he tried committing in the past.
What he does have is an awesome found family in the 'Marginalized Motherfuckers', his friends from college who form a queer circle of safety around him. They include Mason (the erstwhile and very forgiving former fiance), Oscar (misanthropic, with anxiety) and Mia and Ronnie (the group's only couple). These five have known one another for ever, and it shows in the brilliant, easy way they tease, infuriate and care for one another. Right at the start of the book, when I wasn't sure if and how it would work for me as a romance, I was utterly sold on the fierce love between these five.
When The Love Study opens the Motherfuckers are on the countdown to Mia and Ronnie's wedding and Declan is feeling secretly fragile, recalling the run-up to his own failed nuptials. Enter Sidney, a genderqueer YouTuber with a life advice channel called Your Spinster Uncle. They have recently moved to town and are looking to make connections, as well as ways to grow their channel. A chance encounter at a party leads them to make Declan a proposition: why doesn't he come on the show as part of a modern dating experiment? Each week Sidney can set up him with prospective partners, and explore what does and doesn't work in a live-stream show. It can be called The Love Study.
What the study reveals, of course, is that Declan and Sidney have a thing for each other: full marks for intellectual and physical chemistry. When they're together they find an easy rhythm of talking, sharing food, watching Netflix and listening to podcasts that leads to, you know, touching and tangled limbs and the bedroom. But since Declan is terrified of commitment, and Sidney doesn't feel like dating works for them either, they're unsure of what to do about it. What do they even call themselves? Companions? Datefriends?
The Love Study is about two people learning how to move beyond the social conventions and cultural norms of romance and dating, and forming a relationship that makes sense to them. Neither feels like they 'fit' in the world, for lots of reasons, and although they know intuitively that they 'fit together', the more they try to name or describe what they have, the less comfortable it feels. This discomfort starts to seem like failure: failure at romance, at dating, at relationships. The book's angst comes out of this disconnect between the infinitely varied lived experiences of gender, sexuality and love, and the social structures of those things. Kris Ripper does a great job of showing the allure of norms - Declan definitely doesn't want to get married, but he's grieving for the loss of the idea of it - and the difficulty of breaking free of them. It's especially difficult when you've gotten to know one another in the spotlight of social media, which can be strict and normative as well as freeing.
What I loved about the book in the end was the way it didn't make light of these issues, or the process of working through them. Both Sidney and Declan, but especially Declan, are given lots of time to figure things out, via the aforementioned cute scenes of cooking and watching Netflix, and through the interventions of the other Motherfuckers. It could have felt like a very shallow basis for conflict and angst, but it didn't. So although I wasn't sure about the swift set-up for the story in the early chapters, I was fully on board by the final third.
A couple of other things to mention. The book is fade to black, so there is no on-page sex, although it is very sex positive. It focuses instead on generating intimacy through talking and thinking (and being ruthlessly teased by your friends). I think this was absolutely the right choice, because it keeps the reader's eyes where they are meant to be, on the juncture of Declan and Sidney's personal expectations, rather than on the juncture of their bodies. That's where the work is needed in this case. There is also no external threat or violence. While the impacts of homophobia and transphobia are acknowledged, they aren't used for plot and so Declan and Sidney have space to develop intimacy on their own terms. Both of these things contribute to the softness of the story, and I found it a soothing comfort at a difficult time.
I'm very much looking forward to the next book in the series, which is grumpy, anxious Oscar's story. He had some lovely cameo moments in this book, and I'm already deeply invested in his future happy ending.
March 17, 2021
*3.5
Thank you Harelquin Teen Publicity for a review copy in exchange for an honest review.
I loved the representation in this book, and our main character Declan was super quirky and super hilarious!
Although I enjoyed the book, I just think some of the dialogue was a little juvenile for our characters who are in their mid to late twenties, and it did get repetitive at times for me.
A quick read, and a good book to add to your TBR!
Thank you Harelquin Teen Publicity for a review copy in exchange for an honest review.
I loved the representation in this book, and our main character Declan was super quirky and super hilarious!
Although I enjoyed the book, I just think some of the dialogue was a little juvenile for our characters who are in their mid to late twenties, and it did get repetitive at times for me.
A quick read, and a good book to add to your TBR!
November 6, 2020
The characters in Kris Ripper’s novel The Love Study are unique and complex, and just plain wonderful. Leave it to Kris Ripper to write something so wholly original, poignant, and thoughtful. The Love Study made me smile, and sometimes that’s all it takes to affirm my faith in the power of love, right when I need it most!
There hasn’t been a character who affected me quite as powerfully as Sidney in a very long time. Doing their best to thrive, they’ve created a safe place where they fit into the world. I know it’s constant work, but Sidney’s careful and intelligent approach to life is a real inspiration. They are a unique and complex character, and it’s yet another testament to the extremely high quality of Kris Ripper’s writing that we only get to know them through Declan’s story.
Speaking of Declan, what reader’s heart doesn’t break just a bit when his story starts out with the statement that he left his last boyfriend at the altar? Declan and his jilted fiancé Mason have worked hard to ensure their friendship survives, along with their places in their mutual friend group. The love and support these two provide for each other is admirable.
This is Declan’s first relationship since his disastrous attempt at marriage, and to say he’s a bit of a mess is putting it mildly. He’s on very shaky ground because he thinks of himself as unable to commit, or being unworthy of someone’s love. Heck, Declan doesn’t even want a permanent position of employment and chooses to do temp work instead.
As the story progresses, it is clear what a truly amazing person Declan is. His friendships are solid, his boss adores him, and facing his fear of relationships is a great first step toward finding love in his life again. Even more courageous is how Declan opens his heart and bares his insecurities when he discovers his feelings for Sidney. I admire this guy’s ability to confront and deal with his anxiety. I have to say that I wish I had a bit more of Declan’s characteristics inside me.
The Love Study is a classic Kris Ripper novel. Centered around personal growth, this emotional story tugged on my heartstrings, and made me look at love in a new light. As with all Kris Ripper’s writing, ze propels me to think hard about my place in the world and the relationships I have with others. For all of that, The Love Study is filled with lightness and humor. Quirky characters with clever, sassy dialogue kept me smiling the whole way through.
Declan and Sidney and their eclectic group of friends are sure to be back in future episodes of Kris Ripper’s The Love Study series. Personally, I hope it’s Declan’s jilted ex Mason, but I’ll try to be patient and wait to see whose story is next!
There hasn’t been a character who affected me quite as powerfully as Sidney in a very long time. Doing their best to thrive, they’ve created a safe place where they fit into the world. I know it’s constant work, but Sidney’s careful and intelligent approach to life is a real inspiration. They are a unique and complex character, and it’s yet another testament to the extremely high quality of Kris Ripper’s writing that we only get to know them through Declan’s story.
Speaking of Declan, what reader’s heart doesn’t break just a bit when his story starts out with the statement that he left his last boyfriend at the altar? Declan and his jilted fiancé Mason have worked hard to ensure their friendship survives, along with their places in their mutual friend group. The love and support these two provide for each other is admirable.
This is Declan’s first relationship since his disastrous attempt at marriage, and to say he’s a bit of a mess is putting it mildly. He’s on very shaky ground because he thinks of himself as unable to commit, or being unworthy of someone’s love. Heck, Declan doesn’t even want a permanent position of employment and chooses to do temp work instead.
As the story progresses, it is clear what a truly amazing person Declan is. His friendships are solid, his boss adores him, and facing his fear of relationships is a great first step toward finding love in his life again. Even more courageous is how Declan opens his heart and bares his insecurities when he discovers his feelings for Sidney. I admire this guy’s ability to confront and deal with his anxiety. I have to say that I wish I had a bit more of Declan’s characteristics inside me.
The Love Study is a classic Kris Ripper novel. Centered around personal growth, this emotional story tugged on my heartstrings, and made me look at love in a new light. As with all Kris Ripper’s writing, ze propels me to think hard about my place in the world and the relationships I have with others. For all of that, The Love Study is filled with lightness and humor. Quirky characters with clever, sassy dialogue kept me smiling the whole way through.
Declan and Sidney and their eclectic group of friends are sure to be back in future episodes of Kris Ripper’s The Love Study series. Personally, I hope it’s Declan’s jilted ex Mason, but I’ll try to be patient and wait to see whose story is next!
September 23, 2021
I read the 2nd book first...The Hate Project, so I was already familiar with the group of friends that get together regularly to help one another. I like their friendship along with all their snarky remarks. They are always there for one another when life gets to be too much...which is more often than not...but they hold one another accountable and feel comfortable calling each other out when one of them needs an “attitude adjustment”. The thing that bothered me a bit in both books... is that a lot of the time they act more like a bunch of Jr. High School age kids instead of folks in their early to late 20’s. Declan was a sweetheart that really deserved better from life and I was happy to see that he was working very hard on achieving that. Sidney was exactly what Declan needed, but it seemed to take them a long time to work it out. This book was a really great beginning to this series. I wish I had read it first to start with.
March 13, 2021
3.5 stars.
Sometimes what you’re looking for is right in front of you and you just don’t see it. That's at the crux of Kris Ripper's The Love Study .
Declan’s last relationship ended when he left his boyfriend at the altar. It’s not something he’s particularly proud of in any way, but it’s the one thing his best friends say when they introduce him to everyone.
Since then, he hasn’t dated. (Would you?) But maybe it’s time to look for something more than just hookups. So when he meets Sidney, the host of a popular YouTube program, Declan agrees to let Sidney and their viewers set him up on dates and then he can report back on how they went.
Of course, none of the dates work. And little by little, Declan starts to wonder if maybe he blew his only chance at happiness by not getting married, even if it was the right thing to do. Maybe the things his friends say about him being unable to love are true?
But the more he appears on Sidney’s show, the more Declan realizes that he has the best time when he’s with them. Should he risk hurting someone else, though, because he may be incapable of love? Would Sidney want to take a chance on someone like Declan?
The Love Study was a fun book. I really enjoyed Declan and Sidney’s characters and the chemistry between them. Of course, we’re smarter than Declan in that we know what he wants before he does, but isn’t that the stuff rom-coms are made of?
I also really enjoyed the exploration of different sexual and gender identities in this book without any of them being held up for ridicule or feeling like you were being lectured to. It’s crazy that in 2021 I have to say that, but it is what it is.
Check out my list of the best books I read in 2020 at https://itseithersadnessoreuphoria.blogspot.com/2021/01/the-best-books-i-read-in-2020.html.
Check out my list of the best books of the last decade at https://itseithersadnessoreuphoria.blogspot.com/2020/01/my-favorite-books-of-decade.html.
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Sometimes what you’re looking for is right in front of you and you just don’t see it. That's at the crux of Kris Ripper's The Love Study .
Declan’s last relationship ended when he left his boyfriend at the altar. It’s not something he’s particularly proud of in any way, but it’s the one thing his best friends say when they introduce him to everyone.
Since then, he hasn’t dated. (Would you?) But maybe it’s time to look for something more than just hookups. So when he meets Sidney, the host of a popular YouTube program, Declan agrees to let Sidney and their viewers set him up on dates and then he can report back on how they went.
Of course, none of the dates work. And little by little, Declan starts to wonder if maybe he blew his only chance at happiness by not getting married, even if it was the right thing to do. Maybe the things his friends say about him being unable to love are true?
But the more he appears on Sidney’s show, the more Declan realizes that he has the best time when he’s with them. Should he risk hurting someone else, though, because he may be incapable of love? Would Sidney want to take a chance on someone like Declan?
The Love Study was a fun book. I really enjoyed Declan and Sidney’s characters and the chemistry between them. Of course, we’re smarter than Declan in that we know what he wants before he does, but isn’t that the stuff rom-coms are made of?
I also really enjoyed the exploration of different sexual and gender identities in this book without any of them being held up for ridicule or feeling like you were being lectured to. It’s crazy that in 2021 I have to say that, but it is what it is.
Check out my list of the best books I read in 2020 at https://itseithersadnessoreuphoria.blogspot.com/2021/01/the-best-books-i-read-in-2020.html.
Check out my list of the best books of the last decade at https://itseithersadnessoreuphoria.blogspot.com/2020/01/my-favorite-books-of-decade.html.
See all of my reviews at itseithersadnessoreuphoria.blogspot.com.
Follow me on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/the.bookishworld.of.yrralh/.
September 6, 2020
"Dec, romance is… paying attention. You know? It’s listening and sharing and enjoying each other."
Thanks to Netgalley for providing a digital ARC of The Love Study in exchange for an honest review.
To start off with the characters in this book, I loved Declan! He was awkward in a funny way and had hilarious thoughts that we got to experience because this book is in first person. His nervous rambling was relatable and made me connect with his character.
”Have you ever cosplayed before?” Sidney asked.
“A few times, with friends.”
I batted my eyelashes at them. “I make a very fetching Princess Leia.”
Sidney was a bit more mysterious. It took a while for us to learn more about them, but when they opened up near the middle of the book I really enjoyed their personality. I do have to say I wish they opened up more! It still felt like I didn’t really know them well at the end of the book.
Unfortunately, one thing I wasn’t a fan of was Sidney and Declan’s chemistry, especially earlier on. While I enjoyed both of them individually and their interactions were always fun, throughout the novel they just didn’t seem to have a spark.
Of course, maybe that was the point because this book really focused on the mental health aspects of relationships and what makes people compatible. No spark doesn’t mean the relationship won’t ever work out, just like an initial connection doesn’t guarantee the couple will stay together.
That being said, I loved the mental health aspect of The Love Study. It addressed difficult real-life situations in a truthful and honest way and brought attention to things that we need to talk more about in society as a whole. One of my favourite points was how having problems with your mental health can be different for the LGBTQ+ community. The characters voiced concerns over how any advice they got from therapists was usually advice aimed at straight people and that any trained professionals wouldn’t be well versed in things like Body Dysmorphia or feeling pressured to get married when same-sex marriage became legal (in 2015 because the book is set in the US). That whole conversation was so interesting and was something I had never thought about before.
As for the side characters, most of them made up Declan’s friend group. They made this book 100 times better and every single scene with them was HILARIOUS. I loved how every friend brought a different quality to the table, especially because most Romances don’t feature a large cast of friends, just one or two best ones.
Overall: This was a really good read! While I wasn’t a fan of some aspects, overall I enjoyed it!
*3.75
Want to read
July 15, 2020This sounds positively CUTE. I NEED!
September 27, 2020
3.5 Stars (rounded up)
Cute, funny, and entertaining!
The Love Study is a charming rom-com featuring the quirky, awkward Declan who’s struggling with the pressures of full-time commitment, and the non-binary, YouTuber Sidney who isn’t interested in a relationship of his own but who's excited to make a weekly show about the ins and outs of dating in the genderqueer world.
The characters are witty, hesitant, and likeable. The writing is honest and insightful. And the plot is a push-pull tale of tension, humour, snappy dialogue, flirting, friendship, anxiety, and the importance of communication, boundaries and respect in relationships.
Overall, The Love Study is a lighthearted, humorous, engaging tale by Ripper and even though I found the first part of the story to be a little slow and it took me a little time to get used to the non-binary pronoun it is nevertheless a sweet, angsty, enjoyable tale.
Thank you to Harlequin Books - Carina Press for providing me with a copy in exchange for an honest review.
Cute, funny, and entertaining!
The Love Study is a charming rom-com featuring the quirky, awkward Declan who’s struggling with the pressures of full-time commitment, and the non-binary, YouTuber Sidney who isn’t interested in a relationship of his own but who's excited to make a weekly show about the ins and outs of dating in the genderqueer world.
The characters are witty, hesitant, and likeable. The writing is honest and insightful. And the plot is a push-pull tale of tension, humour, snappy dialogue, flirting, friendship, anxiety, and the importance of communication, boundaries and respect in relationships.
Overall, The Love Study is a lighthearted, humorous, engaging tale by Ripper and even though I found the first part of the story to be a little slow and it took me a little time to get used to the non-binary pronoun it is nevertheless a sweet, angsty, enjoyable tale.
Thank you to Harlequin Books - Carina Press for providing me with a copy in exchange for an honest review.
May 30, 2022
Somewhere between 3 and 3.5 luminous balls of gas
My brain has convinced me that I've read a ton of Kris Ripper. This is a lie. The truth is that I've read the Scientific Method Universe series (and stories and spinoffs) -- and only the SMU series -- approximately 7,423 times. Which, fair enough, is still a lot of Kris Ripper, but focusing entirely on the same characters and world.
Put another way: the reading joy that Kris Ripper has brought into my life seems inversely proportional to the cold hard cash I've put into Kris Ripper's pocket. And yes, I have a wee bit of guilt over this.
So here I am, branching out. Unfortunately, this didn't quite work for me. But I think it's more a me-thing than a book-thing.
Because even though I told myself "this is not SMU this is not SMU" roughly 800 times before I started reading and over the course of the first few chapters, what it boils down to is that I really missed that this was not, in fact, SMU.
The Love Study is a low-angst, single POV, closed-door, essentially standalone romcom. In other words, pretty much the exact opposite in all the ways from SMU. And the difficulty I had adjusting to this was, again, entirely my own fault. There was no false advertising here. (Which, it must be said, is a problem with a lot of books marketed as romcoms: they either fail on the "rom" part or the "com" part. This was most definitely a proper romcom.)
Unfair comparisons to other books aside, I think my main hurdle to The Love Study was that I just didn't connect with Declan. He's supposed to be in his late 20s, but he felt incredibly immature. Super awkward (which isn't connected to immaturity per se, but it contributed to the overall impression), super insecure, with a running internal monologue that was funny but also so fretful that I wanted to give him a good shake and tell him to please just shut up for a minute. Declan also has a tendency to be hyper-aware of and over-apologize for even the slightest moments of discomfort felt by others, which is kind of admiringly empathetic but also very self-centering; it made me as a reader feel overwhelmed and impatient. And he's commitment-phobic and self-sabotaging in a way that is grounded in his backstory, but that feels very static; in the end he starts working on it, but there's so little else going on story-wise that we are asked to invest all of our emotional engagement in his commitment issues, and I just . . . couldn't. It just didn't land for me, although again, that may just be a me-thing.
This sounds like I hated The Love Study, and I really didn't. It's funny, well written, and Declan and Sidney have great chemistry. The friend group mostly works: I can be a bit leery of the overly co-dependent, sticking-their-noses-in friend group, but this one was well-balanced and not too make-believe. I liked the way Declan and Sidney worked through their issues after the big crisis, and where they left things at the end. And it's wonderfully, joyfully queer.
Despite not loving this as much as I hoped to, I plan to read on in the series and hope/ expect that the next one will work better -- both because I have the right expectations now (low angst, cuddly romcom) and because Oscar, one of the MCs in book 2, is supposed to be the grumpy anti-social one. Grumpy anti-social MCs is a bit more my wavelength than fretful hyper-social ones.
Tl; dr: On the basis of this outing, I prefer my Kris Ripper books more rom-dram than romcom. But I'm not giving up yet!
My brain has convinced me that I've read a ton of Kris Ripper. This is a lie. The truth is that I've read the Scientific Method Universe series (and stories and spinoffs) -- and only the SMU series -- approximately 7,423 times. Which, fair enough, is still a lot of Kris Ripper, but focusing entirely on the same characters and world.
Put another way: the reading joy that Kris Ripper has brought into my life seems inversely proportional to the cold hard cash I've put into Kris Ripper's pocket. And yes, I have a wee bit of guilt over this.
So here I am, branching out. Unfortunately, this didn't quite work for me. But I think it's more a me-thing than a book-thing.
Because even though I told myself "this is not SMU this is not SMU" roughly 800 times before I started reading and over the course of the first few chapters, what it boils down to is that I really missed that this was not, in fact, SMU.
The Love Study is a low-angst, single POV, closed-door, essentially standalone romcom. In other words, pretty much the exact opposite in all the ways from SMU. And the difficulty I had adjusting to this was, again, entirely my own fault. There was no false advertising here. (Which, it must be said, is a problem with a lot of books marketed as romcoms: they either fail on the "rom" part or the "com" part. This was most definitely a proper romcom.)
Unfair comparisons to other books aside, I think my main hurdle to The Love Study was that I just didn't connect with Declan. He's supposed to be in his late 20s, but he felt incredibly immature. Super awkward (which isn't connected to immaturity per se, but it contributed to the overall impression), super insecure, with a running internal monologue that was funny but also so fretful that I wanted to give him a good shake and tell him to please just shut up for a minute. Declan also has a tendency to be hyper-aware of and over-apologize for even the slightest moments of discomfort felt by others, which is kind of admiringly empathetic but also very self-centering; it made me as a reader feel overwhelmed and impatient. And he's commitment-phobic and self-sabotaging in a way that is grounded in his backstory, but that feels very static; in the end he starts working on it, but there's so little else going on story-wise that we are asked to invest all of our emotional engagement in his commitment issues, and I just . . . couldn't. It just didn't land for me, although again, that may just be a me-thing.
This sounds like I hated The Love Study, and I really didn't. It's funny, well written, and Declan and Sidney have great chemistry. The friend group mostly works: I can be a bit leery of the overly co-dependent, sticking-their-noses-in friend group, but this one was well-balanced and not too make-believe. I liked the way Declan and Sidney worked through their issues after the big crisis, and where they left things at the end. And it's wonderfully, joyfully queer.
Despite not loving this as much as I hoped to, I plan to read on in the series and hope/ expect that the next one will work better -- both because I have the right expectations now (low angst, cuddly romcom) and because Oscar, one of the MCs in book 2, is supposed to be the grumpy anti-social one. Grumpy anti-social MCs is a bit more my wavelength than fretful hyper-social ones.
Tl; dr: On the basis of this outing, I prefer my Kris Ripper books more rom-dram than romcom. But I'm not giving up yet!
July 23, 2021
The thing is, when I started this I wanted soft and processed, evolved emotions...
I just can't keep reading about them. There's literally no tension or conflict-and any there is is resolved almost immediately. The characters are so evolved that they feel indistinct.
So while I enjoyed about 5-6 hours of the audio book, I put it on 2.5 to see if I could follow and what I was missing. And the answers: yes, and not much.
Kris Ripper is a talented author whose characters are at a minimum admirable and better than most people. I continue to read zir books and enjoy them. I enjoyed this. It's not a DNF, despite the fact I stopped somewhere near 80%, because I feel like I got what I needed from it. It's not bad...it could just be much better. Ze has written better, even though zir characters all seem to have that evolved and enlightened flavor, I'm about that-but for this particular book, I'd had enough and it was dragging.
I just can't keep reading about them. There's literally no tension or conflict-and any there is is resolved almost immediately. The characters are so evolved that they feel indistinct.
So while I enjoyed about 5-6 hours of the audio book, I put it on 2.5 to see if I could follow and what I was missing. And the answers: yes, and not much.
Kris Ripper is a talented author whose characters are at a minimum admirable and better than most people. I continue to read zir books and enjoy them. I enjoyed this. It's not a DNF, despite the fact I stopped somewhere near 80%, because I feel like I got what I needed from it. It's not bad...it could just be much better. Ze has written better, even though zir characters all seem to have that evolved and enlightened flavor, I'm about that-but for this particular book, I'd had enough and it was dragging.
August 18, 2020
The Love Study is a cute, fun and entertaining queer romance about two Millennials.
My first book with non-binary, gender queer people. I feel , after reading this book , I have a better understanding (still need to learn much more) into this area of LGBTQ .
I think this story would be perfect for High School age teenagers . There lots of emphasis in opening up and talking about ones feelings . The romance part is about the relationship and friendship instead of the sexual aspect of it. By the way, all sexy times are fade to black.
This is a very inclusive story . I am happy, took the chance , with a new to me author, and read his/her/theirs book.
I just reviewed The Love Study by Kris Ripper. #TheLoveStudy #NetGalley
My first book with non-binary, gender queer people. I feel , after reading this book , I have a better understanding (still need to learn much more) into this area of LGBTQ .
I think this story would be perfect for High School age teenagers . There lots of emphasis in opening up and talking about ones feelings . The romance part is about the relationship and friendship instead of the sexual aspect of it. By the way, all sexy times are fade to black.
This is a very inclusive story . I am happy, took the chance , with a new to me author, and read his/her/theirs book.
I just reviewed The Love Study by Kris Ripper. #TheLoveStudy #NetGalley
December 27, 2020
I loved this book so much! It was funny and comforting, which was exactly what I needed right now, but it also resonated with me a lot. I loved the genderqueer representation. But what I loved most, and what I could really relate to, being aromantic, is that a (romantic) relationship shouldn't have to look the same for everyone. It's something that can be molded to what the people in the relationship need from it. It's something you get to define for yourself.
CWs: anxiety, panic attacks, mentions of gender dysphoria
CWs: anxiety, panic attacks, mentions of gender dysphoria
September 29, 2020
I just love Kris Ripper. I'm always looking for more light-hearted romances that still contain plenty of depth, which seems to be a hard ask. I want sweetness and feels, but I want you to make me think at the same time. And Ripper's books always engage my brain in interesting ways.
I have almost nothing in common with either of these MCs -- who are of a distinctly different generation than me, although this book showcased it in a way that made me smile *for* them, not laugh *at* them, which was a nice change of pace :) -- but I finished this book feeling like I learned something about myself. While reading a romance novel. About two characters who would be horrified that I described their story as a romance novel 😂 I loved it.
"That script is written, they just have to show up." Yeah. Must be nice :) I feel like if you can relate to that sentiment in any way -- not just about romantic relationships -- you can relate to these characters.
And for Sidney, as a genderqueer human being, that's a pervasive sentiment.
But that's about the closest thing you'll get to a discussion about Sidney's gender identity. (From a conversation that had nothing to do with gender.) This is the very definition of a book with a genderqueer love interest that isn't in any way *about* being genderqueer. I couldn't even tell you how they identify for sure. (I know they don't identify with the "enby" label and didn't object to being called "GQ", so that's what I'm going with.) This is a romance novel where the gender of the love interest is a NON-ENTITY, is what I'm saying.
The fade-to-black sex scenes were a genius choice in that regard. I wasn't expecting it -- I mean...I could read this author's sex scenes for DAYS; and literally did when I binged 10 straight books from the SMU!! -- but it's a perfect way to honor a character who doesn't feel the need to process their gender in real time for the benefit or enlightenment of others.
5 out of 5 on The Love Study's "intellectual chemistry" scale.
*A note on the writing style:* Declan is the single POV character, and he has a very strong and distinct voice. It's also a voice that's prone to rambling when he's feeling anxious, and that carried over into the internal dialog. It came close to being too much at times, but I thought it was worth it to hear what he had to say. It made the writing style feel very different from the other Ripper books I've read in the past, though.
**This book was provided for free by the publisher in exchange for an honest review via NetGalley**
I have almost nothing in common with either of these MCs -- who are of a distinctly different generation than me, although this book showcased it in a way that made me smile *for* them, not laugh *at* them, which was a nice change of pace :) -- but I finished this book feeling like I learned something about myself. While reading a romance novel. About two characters who would be horrified that I described their story as a romance novel 😂 I loved it.
"I felt like I'd been cast as the guy who's charmed by chivalry in a movie I never auditioned for. And it's totally okay for people to get off on that shit. I just...don't. I tried to! That whole night I kept telling myself I should like it. But I didn't."
"Why? I mean, why did you try to like it?"
"I...dunno. I guess because the people who do have it easier in a way? That script is written, they just have to show up."
"That script is written, they just have to show up." Yeah. Must be nice :) I feel like if you can relate to that sentiment in any way -- not just about romantic relationships -- you can relate to these characters.
And for Sidney, as a genderqueer human being, that's a pervasive sentiment.
"I'm not sure you can try yourself into someone else's mold. Actually, I'm entirely convinced you can't, or I would be a totally different person."
But that's about the closest thing you'll get to a discussion about Sidney's gender identity. (From a conversation that had nothing to do with gender.) This is the very definition of a book with a genderqueer love interest that isn't in any way *about* being genderqueer. I couldn't even tell you how they identify for sure. (I know they don't identify with the "enby" label and didn't object to being called "GQ", so that's what I'm going with.) This is a romance novel where the gender of the love interest is a NON-ENTITY, is what I'm saying.
The fade-to-black sex scenes were a genius choice in that regard. I wasn't expecting it -- I mean...I could read this author's sex scenes for DAYS; and literally did when I binged 10 straight books from the SMU!! -- but it's a perfect way to honor a character who doesn't feel the need to process their gender in real time for the benefit or enlightenment of others.
5 out of 5 on The Love Study's "intellectual chemistry" scale.
*A note on the writing style:* Declan is the single POV character, and he has a very strong and distinct voice. It's also a voice that's prone to rambling when he's feeling anxious, and that carried over into the internal dialog. It came close to being too much at times, but I thought it was worth it to hear what he had to say. It made the writing style feel very different from the other Ripper books I've read in the past, though.
**This book was provided for free by the publisher in exchange for an honest review via NetGalley**
August 14, 2020
I am so torn on The Love Study by Kris Ripper. I really loved the fast pace of the dialogue when the MF’s group gets together, along with all of their snark and how they hold each other accountable and feel comfortable calling each other out. I felt a kinship with Declan since I often talk in tangents and say awkward things.
But I just couldn’t get over how for a bunch of people in their late 20’s and Sydney being mid-20’s (at least that’s what I gathered) act like a bunch of junior high kids. And all of that giggling. I can’t. I’m a happy person and laugh a lot, but everyone continually giggling, it just kept pulling me out of the story. If this was marketed towards a YA audience I would be giving it a higher score. And I do recommend high schoolers to give The Love Study a read.
There was so much talking about every aspect of the relationship which is great because I feel communication is the most important thing in every relationship, but it was through the entire book. I know communication should not stop once you start sleeping together (you should probably even do more), but as a reader it was too much. I felt like I had a teacher repeating the lessons on love and relationships over and over, instead of enjoying a romance book and seeing the two main characters grow.
Talking about growth, there was very little of it in regards to Declan. In fact, at 80% into the story he had a total meltdown and just threw it all away. Now I know this happens all the time in romance movies/books where the main character doesn’t feel like they are good enough for the other one, but the world is open here. With so much new in queer and glbta writing, why do the conventional norms need to be followed. Ripper could have just skipped all of the drama and continued on with the happily ever after. Or skipped over the breakdown and given us more of a look into queer dates. Sure there were three before Sidney, but since this was a study in queer dating, having Declan go on more dates would have enhanced the story even more.
There is a lot of potential with The Love Study if the story was tightened up, but I think before reading another romance by Ripper I would check the reviews to see if the writing style has changed at all.
But I just couldn’t get over how for a bunch of people in their late 20’s and Sydney being mid-20’s (at least that’s what I gathered) act like a bunch of junior high kids. And all of that giggling. I can’t. I’m a happy person and laugh a lot, but everyone continually giggling, it just kept pulling me out of the story. If this was marketed towards a YA audience I would be giving it a higher score. And I do recommend high schoolers to give The Love Study a read.
There was so much talking about every aspect of the relationship which is great because I feel communication is the most important thing in every relationship, but it was through the entire book. I know communication should not stop once you start sleeping together (you should probably even do more), but as a reader it was too much. I felt like I had a teacher repeating the lessons on love and relationships over and over, instead of enjoying a romance book and seeing the two main characters grow.
Talking about growth, there was very little of it in regards to Declan. In fact, at 80% into the story he had a total meltdown and just threw it all away. Now I know this happens all the time in romance movies/books where the main character doesn’t feel like they are good enough for the other one, but the world is open here. With so much new in queer and glbta writing, why do the conventional norms need to be followed. Ripper could have just skipped all of the drama and continued on with the happily ever after. Or skipped over the breakdown and given us more of a look into queer dates. Sure there were three before Sidney, but since this was a study in queer dating, having Declan go on more dates would have enhanced the story even more.
There is a lot of potential with The Love Study if the story was tightened up, but I think before reading another romance by Ripper I would check the reviews to see if the writing style has changed at all.
October 15, 2020
3.5 stars
Sure, The Love Study has a sweet couple whose romance I enjoy, but the way it examines the nature of love is even better.
First the setup - Declan abandoned his last boyfriend at the altar and has avoided dating for years, thinking that relationships are beyond him. His heart has healed in the meantime, though, and he might be ready to try meeting people again.
Enter Sidney. They're a relationship advice YouTuber looking to start a new video series - The Love Study - and Declan is the perfect subject. Sidney will set him up on dates, and after each they'll discuss what worked and what didn't. But as they spend more time together, Declan realizes the only person he has chemistry with is Sidney.
Before I get into the review proper, some rep - Ripper is genderqueer and so is Sidney. Yes, the jacket copy says "nonbinary", probably because it's a more recognizable term, but in the book Sidney prefers "GQ" to "enby". Declan has anxiety including panic attacks, but it's not overly detailed and didn't end up bothering me. There are also mentions of homophobia, transphobia, and racism.
The little things make me feel safe reading this book, and most boil down to respect. When Declan and Sidney make plans options are offered including the option to do nothing, no pressure. They brainstorm solutions, like when trying to figure out what to call each other - partner? lover? datemate? companion? They're comfortable talking out their feelings, even when they don't have all the words for them yet. This kind of respect should be the foundation of all relationships, not just intimate ones, and I love seeing it.
Related - Declan is used to spilling the beans about his sexual escapades to friends, but Sidney wants to keep things private and he respects that, even grows to like it after a while. Sidney's wishes end up affecting us readers as well - this is a closed door romance, so there's no explicit sex on the page.
The respect is great but my favorite thing about this book, hands down, is how it made me think about the nature of relationships. By watching Declan's dates - never disasters, but always lacking somehow - Ripper examines what it means to be "romantic" and how different people have different definitions. Sidney laments how "romantic" gestures often have a gendered element, even in queer relationships - someone offering to pay for dinner, opening doors, giving chocolate on Valentine's Day. That it feels more like playing a role than being genuine.
There are thoughtful discussions on whether dating is the best way to get to know someone, and the "goal" of relationships. Now that everyone can marry, should that be the universal goal? Is long-term commitment sufficient? Heck, is it necessary? How much are thoughts around queer marriage are bound up with it being not only a personal statement, but also a political one?
In examining these issues Ripper is also taking a meta look at the Happily Ever After in romance. Many books end with a marriage or similar, but can the main characters simply like each other a lot and have that count as an HEA? There were times that I would put the book down and stare off into space, thinking about everything Ripper is laying down.
As much as I love this book there are a couple of things that didn't quite work for me. I would have preferred a higher heat level, while recognizing that it would have brought a genderqueer character's genitals into the conversation, which is never ever a requirement. There's a found family element but it felt a bit forced to me. Then again, I think that dynamic takes a couple of books to develop. And the ending was... fine. A bit predictable, not bad, just fine.
If you are a thematic reader, if you would like to examine the nature of love and relationships, and if you are looking for a comfortable, safe space to go in these uncertain times, there's nothing better than The Love Study. I'm an instant fan of Ripper and can't wait to dive into zir backlist.
Thanks to Carina Press for providing a review copy.
Sure, The Love Study has a sweet couple whose romance I enjoy, but the way it examines the nature of love is even better.
First the setup - Declan abandoned his last boyfriend at the altar and has avoided dating for years, thinking that relationships are beyond him. His heart has healed in the meantime, though, and he might be ready to try meeting people again.
Enter Sidney. They're a relationship advice YouTuber looking to start a new video series - The Love Study - and Declan is the perfect subject. Sidney will set him up on dates, and after each they'll discuss what worked and what didn't. But as they spend more time together, Declan realizes the only person he has chemistry with is Sidney.
Before I get into the review proper, some rep - Ripper is genderqueer and so is Sidney. Yes, the jacket copy says "nonbinary", probably because it's a more recognizable term, but in the book Sidney prefers "GQ" to "enby". Declan has anxiety including panic attacks, but it's not overly detailed and didn't end up bothering me. There are also mentions of homophobia, transphobia, and racism.
The little things make me feel safe reading this book, and most boil down to respect. When Declan and Sidney make plans options are offered including the option to do nothing, no pressure. They brainstorm solutions, like when trying to figure out what to call each other - partner? lover? datemate? companion? They're comfortable talking out their feelings, even when they don't have all the words for them yet. This kind of respect should be the foundation of all relationships, not just intimate ones, and I love seeing it.
Related - Declan is used to spilling the beans about his sexual escapades to friends, but Sidney wants to keep things private and he respects that, even grows to like it after a while. Sidney's wishes end up affecting us readers as well - this is a closed door romance, so there's no explicit sex on the page.
The respect is great but my favorite thing about this book, hands down, is how it made me think about the nature of relationships. By watching Declan's dates - never disasters, but always lacking somehow - Ripper examines what it means to be "romantic" and how different people have different definitions. Sidney laments how "romantic" gestures often have a gendered element, even in queer relationships - someone offering to pay for dinner, opening doors, giving chocolate on Valentine's Day. That it feels more like playing a role than being genuine.
There are thoughtful discussions on whether dating is the best way to get to know someone, and the "goal" of relationships. Now that everyone can marry, should that be the universal goal? Is long-term commitment sufficient? Heck, is it necessary? How much are thoughts around queer marriage are bound up with it being not only a personal statement, but also a political one?
In examining these issues Ripper is also taking a meta look at the Happily Ever After in romance. Many books end with a marriage or similar, but can the main characters simply like each other a lot and have that count as an HEA? There were times that I would put the book down and stare off into space, thinking about everything Ripper is laying down.
As much as I love this book there are a couple of things that didn't quite work for me. I would have preferred a higher heat level, while recognizing that it would have brought a genderqueer character's genitals into the conversation, which is never ever a requirement. There's a found family element but it felt a bit forced to me. Then again, I think that dynamic takes a couple of books to develop. And the ending was... fine. A bit predictable, not bad, just fine.
If you are a thematic reader, if you would like to examine the nature of love and relationships, and if you are looking for a comfortable, safe space to go in these uncertain times, there's nothing better than The Love Study. I'm an instant fan of Ripper and can't wait to dive into zir backlist.
Thanks to Carina Press for providing a review copy.
September 6, 2020
I’m trying to step out of my ‘comfort zone’ of m/f romances and I am so glad I chanced to see this one and request to give it a try. It’s the first m/gq romance I’ve had an opportunity to read and I really, really enjoyed it. (Note, I’m not saying nonbinary or enby because Sidney explicitly states that they identify as genderqueer rather than nonbinary).
Declan, the first-person protagonist, is a queer white man with a major romantic disaster in his past - he literally left his last boyfriend at the altar, and his friends have a horrible habit of introducing him to potential love interests by telling them about it. Sidney, however, is first introduced as a potential partner for a different member of their little gang of ‘misfits’. Strongly attracted to them, Declan is nevertheless put off by Sidney’s rejection of ‘dating’ as a premise. The two end up collaborating on Sidney’s relationship-advice-for-queers Youtube show as Declan volunteers to go on dates as a case study, and things progress fairly predictably from there as Declan eventually declares his feelings for Sidney.
This was… pretty early in the book, surprisingly early, in fact. And that’s because Declan is an absolute disaster with no idea how to have an actual relationship, and though Sidney is somewhat more together, they are actually uncomfortable trying to do conventional dating, and the two of them end up with massively crossed wires through failures to communicate. They’re cute and messy and adorable and I was massively rooting for the pair of them to get together and just talk it out (which of course, because this is a romance, they eventually do).
While this is a sex-positive book, the actual sex scenes are closed door, which I actually think was really nicely done; it avoided going into any specifics about Sidney’s body in particular which fit well with the way their gender identity was respected (and was what I’d expect from a nonbinary author). This is probably the most diversely-cast book you’ll read in a while, too; everyone is queer and there’s lots of racial diversity, and it doesn’t feel in the least forced. Because marginalized people do form friendship groups with other marginalized people. With the queer, BIPOC, fat and disabled. It felt normal and wonderful and there was a beautiful sense of found-family to it. I was delighted to see that another of the friendship group in Oscar is getting their own story next in the series, and I hope Mason gets a book too.
Five stars for a gorgeous queer romance, and I’ll definitely be looking for more by this author.
Disclaimer: I received a review copy of this title via NetGalley.
Declan, the first-person protagonist, is a queer white man with a major romantic disaster in his past - he literally left his last boyfriend at the altar, and his friends have a horrible habit of introducing him to potential love interests by telling them about it. Sidney, however, is first introduced as a potential partner for a different member of their little gang of ‘misfits’. Strongly attracted to them, Declan is nevertheless put off by Sidney’s rejection of ‘dating’ as a premise. The two end up collaborating on Sidney’s relationship-advice-for-queers Youtube show as Declan volunteers to go on dates as a case study, and things progress fairly predictably from there as Declan eventually declares his feelings for Sidney.
This was… pretty early in the book, surprisingly early, in fact. And that’s because Declan is an absolute disaster with no idea how to have an actual relationship, and though Sidney is somewhat more together, they are actually uncomfortable trying to do conventional dating, and the two of them end up with massively crossed wires through failures to communicate. They’re cute and messy and adorable and I was massively rooting for the pair of them to get together and just talk it out (which of course, because this is a romance, they eventually do).
While this is a sex-positive book, the actual sex scenes are closed door, which I actually think was really nicely done; it avoided going into any specifics about Sidney’s body in particular which fit well with the way their gender identity was respected (and was what I’d expect from a nonbinary author). This is probably the most diversely-cast book you’ll read in a while, too; everyone is queer and there’s lots of racial diversity, and it doesn’t feel in the least forced. Because marginalized people do form friendship groups with other marginalized people. With the queer, BIPOC, fat and disabled. It felt normal and wonderful and there was a beautiful sense of found-family to it. I was delighted to see that another of the friendship group in Oscar is getting their own story next in the series, and I hope Mason gets a book too.
Five stars for a gorgeous queer romance, and I’ll definitely be looking for more by this author.
Disclaimer: I received a review copy of this title via NetGalley.
March 23, 2021
Loved this one! Really fun read and I especially like how it didn't downplay the importance of feeling your feelings. I'm super jealous of the motherfuckers and want my own group of offline queer friends who will make fun of me and hold my hand when I have panic attacks. That'd be nice. anyway, I got off track. The queer rep was diverse and exceptional and I adored it. Also yay for online support groups and anxiety rep.
Queer MC with non-binary love interest + whole group of queer side characters.
Queer MC with non-binary love interest + whole group of queer side characters.
September 30, 2020
"Dec, romance is… paying attention. You know? It’s listening and sharing and enjoying each other."
📚 Series? No.
📚 Genre? LGBT Contemporary Romance.
📚 POV? Dual.
📚 Cliffhanger? No.
Overall thoughts:
We’re back with another beautiful Carina Press read. The Love Study is my first venture with a non-binary lead and I am always up for books like this that allow me to learn more things about the LGBT spectrum that I did not know before. The Love Study gave me a sweet story that did not overwhelm. It was light, fluffy, fun, and it had very low angst.
If you are looking for something comfortable, this book definitely delivers. Its a perfect easy read. But, at the same time, this book was educational. It had many moments of sex positive conversations, intimacy without taking your clothes off, and a wonderful friend dynamic.
Just one thing, if you want to see some steam, everything happens off the page.
Overall, this book was a joy to read and I had a great time. Not sure if this will continue on as a series, but if it would, I’m open to it!
☁ THE CRITERIA ☁
🌼 Blurb:⭐⭐⭐⭐☆
🌼 Main Character:⭐⭐⭐⭐☆
🌼 Significant Other: ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
🌼 Support Characters:⭐⭐⭐⭐☆
🌼 Writing Style:⭐⭐⭐⭐☆
🌼 Character Development:⭐⭐⭐⭐☆
🌼 Romance: ⭐⭐⭐☆☆
🌼 Pacing: ⭐⭐⭐☆☆
🌼 Ending: ⭐⭐⭐☆☆
🌼 Unputdownability: ⭐⭐⭐☆☆
🌼 Book Cover:⭐⭐⭐⭐☆
☁FINAL VERDICT: 3.72/5 ☁
Much thanks to Netgalley and Carina Press for this complimentary copy. This review is voluntary and opinions are fully my own. Also, all quotes are taken from the ARC and may be different in the final published copy.
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October 14, 2020
Review originally published at Romancing Romances.
I received an eARC at no cost from the publisher, and I am leaving a voluntary and honest review. Thank you.
2.75*
Although this is a 2.75* stars review, I feel like I should make a few distinctions, and mention a few things. First of all, I’m not queer/part of the LGBTQIA+ community. I do, however, have very good friends who are. Second, I feel like the story of the book and the meaning of the book almost deserve different ratings (intellectual chemistry anyone?).
For me, the best part of the book was closer to the end, when and after Declan, our main character, does this huge thing that changes his life immensely, as well as the life of Sidney, the person he was dating. And why? Because I think that’s when we had more emotion, when we actually saw who Declan was, and what he was dealing with.
The plot itself didn’t really clicked for me, I loved the chemistry between our characters, but I always felt like it was all a bit fake… Maybe that was the point? Because the end leads to that, to the question of what we want for us, for our lives, and the most important one of who we really are. No masks, no “doing what society thinks it’s right”, etc. This is the part I actually liked. So, for the questions it raised, I would probably give it a 4*. But for the enjoyment of the book… It just didn’t work for me. Maybe 2*?
I really liked the YouTube stuff, how they planned the love study, the dates, etc. It was interesting to see a project like that come to life. And it was fun to see Declan and Sidney connect. But that was about it.
I’m sure it’s a great book for many people, for me it just was a bit boring story wise, but great in pointing out the problems with society and with what society makes us feel.
I received an eARC at no cost from the publisher, and I am leaving a voluntary and honest review. Thank you.
2.75*
Although this is a 2.75* stars review, I feel like I should make a few distinctions, and mention a few things. First of all, I’m not queer/part of the LGBTQIA+ community. I do, however, have very good friends who are. Second, I feel like the story of the book and the meaning of the book almost deserve different ratings (intellectual chemistry anyone?).
For me, the best part of the book was closer to the end, when and after Declan, our main character, does this huge thing that changes his life immensely, as well as the life of Sidney, the person he was dating. And why? Because I think that’s when we had more emotion, when we actually saw who Declan was, and what he was dealing with.
The plot itself didn’t really clicked for me, I loved the chemistry between our characters, but I always felt like it was all a bit fake… Maybe that was the point? Because the end leads to that, to the question of what we want for us, for our lives, and the most important one of who we really are. No masks, no “doing what society thinks it’s right”, etc. This is the part I actually liked. So, for the questions it raised, I would probably give it a 4*. But for the enjoyment of the book… It just didn’t work for me. Maybe 2*?
I really liked the YouTube stuff, how they planned the love study, the dates, etc. It was interesting to see a project like that come to life. And it was fun to see Declan and Sidney connect. But that was about it.
I’m sure it’s a great book for many people, for me it just was a bit boring story wise, but great in pointing out the problems with society and with what society makes us feel.
September 24, 2020
The Love Study is a cute, amusing romance with a pretty low angst level, which I appreciated greatly. Life is angsty enough during this crazy pandemic, so a bit lighthearted romance is definitely a good thing. That said, I feel like this one is better suited to older teens and young adults than myself. That didn't keep me from enjoying the story, but Declan felt more juvenile than I would've expected and that gave it a younger vibe to me. There are also some good points explored in this one, including the importance of communication. The story is well written and engaging, the dialogue is witty, and the sexual intimacies are fade to black. All in all, it's a quick, entertaining read and a great way to while away a rainy day.
September 11, 2020
Love Study was about a YouTube queer dating show led by Sidney (non-binary) to help Declan (queer cis male) figure out want he wanted in a relationship since he had a hard time with one. Sidney set Declan up with weekly dates and he reported back his experience each week, The dates were a bit confusing to me. I didn’t understand the purpose behind them. Clearly the relationship between Sidney and Declan had a stronger connection than the dates. I enjoyed their dynamic in every scene. They were adorable and sweet together.
I didn’t care for Declan’s friends. They were not nice about how he left Mason at the alter. It was six years ago, and they couldn’t let it go already. What it made it worse was how they introduced him that way to everyone they meet?! I felt bad for Declan because he was a great guy that made a poor choice that never disappeared.
I’m glad I picked this book, it was a cute and sweet book that I enjoyed. I’m looking forward to the next book!
I received this ARC from the publisher and Netgalley for my honest review. All opinions are my own.
I didn’t care for Declan’s friends. They were not nice about how he left Mason at the alter. It was six years ago, and they couldn’t let it go already. What it made it worse was how they introduced him that way to everyone they meet?! I felt bad for Declan because he was a great guy that made a poor choice that never disappeared.
I’m glad I picked this book, it was a cute and sweet book that I enjoyed. I’m looking forward to the next book!
I received this ARC from the publisher and Netgalley for my honest review. All opinions are my own.
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February 10, 2024The Love Study is a novel about bantery awkward turtles falling in love, and that's incredibly up my aisle. This is my first time reading Ripper, and I will definitely be reading more of zir novels!
Stylistically, I do think this book will be a challenge for a lot of readers. It very much could have been edited down both in content and in terms of the dialog. You know how normally, even the most awkward of interactions in a novel are a very smoothed out version of real life awkward conversations? Well, this book goes full in on realism in the awkwardness. Expect lots of struggling to get words out and filler words, like well and umm. Because it's all bantery and because it did feel authentic to me, if a bit twee I'll admit, I enjoyed the writing. However, as I mentioned, stronger editing could have sharpened this into something really amazing and more broadly appealing.
The premise is that Declan, who left his best friend at the altar six years before, agrees to start dating again on the YouTube channel of new acquaintance Sidney. While this is abrupt, it does fit Declan's impulsive, goofy personality, so I believed it. (Declan is a LOT. Actually, they're all A LOT, but I enjoyed them almost all the time.) Besides, I'm willing to accept most silly romance premises and blind dates while building chemistry with the one sending you on the dates? Here for it.
The chemistry between Declan and Sidney is great. Like, I feel like they genuinely just enjoy being around each other, which is really nice. One advantage of the load of words and constant banter is that you really get a sense of that connection and what they're like day to day. If they can enjoy each other even with the nervous babbling and misspeaking and apologizing, they'll be amazing when they calm down.
Also, I've been asking all the time for a romance where what's romantic to the couple is not considered traditionally romantic. They pretty much just like to hang out and talk and maybe even do their own things while sharing a space. This is exactly what romance is to me 99% of the time, and so I really loved seeing them find someone who shared that.
There's so much queer representation in this. Like, so much. I particularly love that Sidney's genderqueer and uses they/them. There's nothing hateful in this book either, aside from Sidney mentioning mean comments on her YouTube, but I don't think they even mention any sort of detail. The book very much feels like a happy, queer bubble. There's slight acknowledgement of the world outside of that, but mostly it's this queer friend group that is exceedingly extra but always there for each other, making a safe space and a home.
I very much enjoyed this novel. I wish it had been edited more heavily so that more readers could appreciate it like I have, but for the right readers (awkward turtles who love constant banter), this book is a delight. Many aspects reminded me of Boyfriend Material by Alexis Hall, so if you enjoyed that (it's also VERY bantery and a bit too long), then absolutely give The Love Study a try.
I received this book for free from Carina via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review. This does not affect my opinion of the book or the content of my review.
Stylistically, I do think this book will be a challenge for a lot of readers. It very much could have been edited down both in content and in terms of the dialog. You know how normally, even the most awkward of interactions in a novel are a very smoothed out version of real life awkward conversations? Well, this book goes full in on realism in the awkwardness. Expect lots of struggling to get words out and filler words, like well and umm. Because it's all bantery and because it did feel authentic to me, if a bit twee I'll admit, I enjoyed the writing. However, as I mentioned, stronger editing could have sharpened this into something really amazing and more broadly appealing.
The premise is that Declan, who left his best friend at the altar six years before, agrees to start dating again on the YouTube channel of new acquaintance Sidney. While this is abrupt, it does fit Declan's impulsive, goofy personality, so I believed it. (Declan is a LOT. Actually, they're all A LOT, but I enjoyed them almost all the time.) Besides, I'm willing to accept most silly romance premises and blind dates while building chemistry with the one sending you on the dates? Here for it.
The chemistry between Declan and Sidney is great. Like, I feel like they genuinely just enjoy being around each other, which is really nice. One advantage of the load of words and constant banter is that you really get a sense of that connection and what they're like day to day. If they can enjoy each other even with the nervous babbling and misspeaking and apologizing, they'll be amazing when they calm down.
Also, I've been asking all the time for a romance where what's romantic to the couple is not considered traditionally romantic. They pretty much just like to hang out and talk and maybe even do their own things while sharing a space. This is exactly what romance is to me 99% of the time, and so I really loved seeing them find someone who shared that.
There's so much queer representation in this. Like, so much. I particularly love that Sidney's genderqueer and uses they/them. There's nothing hateful in this book either, aside from Sidney mentioning mean comments on her YouTube, but I don't think they even mention any sort of detail. The book very much feels like a happy, queer bubble. There's slight acknowledgement of the world outside of that, but mostly it's this queer friend group that is exceedingly extra but always there for each other, making a safe space and a home.
I very much enjoyed this novel. I wish it had been edited more heavily so that more readers could appreciate it like I have, but for the right readers (awkward turtles who love constant banter), this book is a delight. Many aspects reminded me of Boyfriend Material by Alexis Hall, so if you enjoyed that (it's also VERY bantery and a bit too long), then absolutely give The Love Study a try.
I received this book for free from Carina via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review. This does not affect my opinion of the book or the content of my review.
October 6, 2020
3.5🌟 Declan, who has been an office temp for years, has commitment issues. He left his ex boyfriend at the alter. His friends will not let it go. After 6 years they still talk about it! He is starting to feel the need to work on his issues, finally! He meets Sidney, a non-binary YouTuber with an advice show. As part of The Love Study, he goes on a series of dates and then reports back to Sidney on the next show. He just isn't feeling these people he's going on dates with. He doesn't know why, but could he possibly be having feelings for Sidney?!
This was a pretty good book, but it felt a bit more YA to me. For the age of the characters, I felt they acted alot younger. I do think it was cute, and entertaining though. There was alot of fun dialogue, wit, and humor. I enjoyed the relationship between Declan and Sidney. They really had a great connection from the start. I would recommend it if you enjoy romcoms!
Thank you to the publisher for the gifted review copy! All opinions are my own
This was a pretty good book, but it felt a bit more YA to me. For the age of the characters, I felt they acted alot younger. I do think it was cute, and entertaining though. There was alot of fun dialogue, wit, and humor. I enjoyed the relationship between Declan and Sidney. They really had a great connection from the start. I would recommend it if you enjoy romcoms!
Thank you to the publisher for the gifted review copy! All opinions are my own
October 19, 2020
This just made me so happy. Declan is the kind of messy hilarious queer that I live for, and Sidney is the first love interest who uses they/them pronouns that I’ve read in a romance other than my own? (Although they identify as genderqueer not non-binary.) (And I know, this probably says more about my own shameful reading history than anything else, but...more enby/GQ characters in romance please!) I also found the concept of the YouTube channel really charming. But overall, like Alexis Hall’s books, I loved how unreservedly queer this whole thing was. I loved the Marginalized Motherfuckers, and the little details of like, having their top three favorite tables at their favorite dive bar—so good and relatable. And the dynamics of being friends with your exes, even ones you’ve left at the altar: queer, queer, queer. And lastly, I absolutely loved the discussions of what relationships can be/how they can be defined, PARTICULARLY our community’s complicated relationship with marriage. Excited to read more from Ripper, and more from the Adores line.
July 30, 2020
Alas, the marriage contagion, once limited to heterosexuals, has now infected the queers as well.
This book was hella queer and i was 100% there for it.
I adored the friendship dynamic of the MF's and how unconditionally they loved each other. Sidney was definitely my favourite - i loved how thoughtful and insightful they were, it was a really nice contrast to how brash and impulsive some of the other (Declan) characters were.
Even though i definitely owe Declan a smack or two, it was a really cute story with some tangible chemistry.
ARC provided by NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
This book was hella queer and i was 100% there for it.
I adored the friendship dynamic of the MF's and how unconditionally they loved each other. Sidney was definitely my favourite - i loved how thoughtful and insightful they were, it was a really nice contrast to how brash and impulsive some of the other (Declan) characters were.
Even though i definitely owe Declan a smack or two, it was a really cute story with some tangible chemistry.
ARC provided by NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
December 22, 2020
This was so cute, queer AF, just a big hug.
Kris Ripper has such a unique voice so I was looking forward to this book and wasn’t disappointed at all. The Love Study is filled with awkwardness and I’m such a sucker for that in romance. This book explores so much about what does a romantic relationship *need* to look like to actually still be a romance?
I loved so much how Declan and Sidney begin the story trying to find someone for Dec to date and have this journey of figuring out what each of them actually needs in a relationship. I highly rec this to anyone looking for an untraditional romance that’s still a romance.
Kris Ripper has such a unique voice so I was looking forward to this book and wasn’t disappointed at all. The Love Study is filled with awkwardness and I’m such a sucker for that in romance. This book explores so much about what does a romantic relationship *need* to look like to actually still be a romance?
I loved so much how Declan and Sidney begin the story trying to find someone for Dec to date and have this journey of figuring out what each of them actually needs in a relationship. I highly rec this to anyone looking for an untraditional romance that’s still a romance.
September 24, 2021
3.5 stars
September 29, 2020
Here’s how my friends describe me to new people: “This is Declan. He left his last boyfriend at the altar, so watch out.”
Bro I'm super glad I got the chance to read this fantastically queer, quirky, rom-com love story with a genderqueer love interest. Not everything about it worked for me, but mostly I liked the ways in which it was different, the ways it broke the mould. Declan, a grade-A commitment-phobe, finds himself as a guest on a YouTube show, being set up on blind dates. It's not exactly the plan for him to fall for the charming host, but that's what happens.
I love all the on-page character interaction we get, the way the author doesn't skimp on showing us little moments that bring the characters close together, mundane conversations that give a great sense of their personalities and character. There's a lot of great dialogue and communication in this book, and it's one of the rare cases where I'm not frustrated when lack of communication becomes an issue. Declan is kinda going through it, and his anxiety manifests in believable ways. That was one of my favourite things about this; how realistically and pragmatically anxiety is portrayed. I really loved Sidney, my new favourite spinster uncle, and how they were gentle and practical and sort of like a guiding force for Declan, while also prioritising themselves? This isn't quite friends to lovers, but we definitely get a deep sense of Declan and Sidney's friendship, which I loved. Maybe more so than their attraction? But I hesitate to list that as a detracting factor, because it worked for this love story imo.
I really liked the core group of friends; that's something I always like seeing in romances. They had a lot of banter and chemistry, and I look forward to seeing them in future books! The characters are in their late twenties, but this definitely had a kinda new adult feel to it sometimes? At least in the writing style/dialogue. It sometimes felt TOO quirky and a bit young and didn't totally work for me (as well as like, the strikethroughs). But it might for someone else. There WERE a couple fun references that I really enjoyed (those are my fave Zen/Mercy voice lines too!!) that might be lost on other people.
3.5 stars. This was a lot of fun; a quick read that made me smile in a lot of different places.
☆ Review copy provided via NetGalley.
Bro I'm super glad I got the chance to read this fantastically queer, quirky, rom-com love story with a genderqueer love interest. Not everything about it worked for me, but mostly I liked the ways in which it was different, the ways it broke the mould. Declan, a grade-A commitment-phobe, finds himself as a guest on a YouTube show, being set up on blind dates. It's not exactly the plan for him to fall for the charming host, but that's what happens.
I love all the on-page character interaction we get, the way the author doesn't skimp on showing us little moments that bring the characters close together, mundane conversations that give a great sense of their personalities and character. There's a lot of great dialogue and communication in this book, and it's one of the rare cases where I'm not frustrated when lack of communication becomes an issue. Declan is kinda going through it, and his anxiety manifests in believable ways. That was one of my favourite things about this; how realistically and pragmatically anxiety is portrayed. I really loved Sidney, my new favourite spinster uncle, and how they were gentle and practical and sort of like a guiding force for Declan, while also prioritising themselves? This isn't quite friends to lovers, but we definitely get a deep sense of Declan and Sidney's friendship, which I loved. Maybe more so than their attraction? But I hesitate to list that as a detracting factor, because it worked for this love story imo.
I really liked the core group of friends; that's something I always like seeing in romances. They had a lot of banter and chemistry, and I look forward to seeing them in future books! The characters are in their late twenties, but this definitely had a kinda new adult feel to it sometimes? At least in the writing style/dialogue. It sometimes felt TOO quirky and a bit young and didn't totally work for me (as well as like, the strikethroughs). But it might for someone else. There WERE a couple fun references that I really enjoyed (those are my fave Zen/Mercy voice lines too!!) that might be lost on other people.
3.5 stars. This was a lot of fun; a quick read that made me smile in a lot of different places.
☆ Review copy provided via NetGalley.
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