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NLP vadovas: susikurkite save tobulesnį
NLP (neurolingvistinis programavimas) padėjo milijonams žmonių įveikti savo baimes, labiau pasitikėti savimi, pagerinti santykius ir siekti tiek asmeninės, tiek profesinės sėkmės.
Šis lengvai skaitomas "NLP Vadovas: neurolingvistinis programavimas", kurį parašė trys patyrę NLP specialistai praktikai ir konsultantai, padės NLP taikyti kasdien. Susipažinę su realiomis autorių istorijomis, lengvai perprasite NLP strategijas, kurių reikia norint pasiekti konkrečių rezultatų versle ir gyvenime.
Skaitydami „NLP vadovą“ pastebėsite, kad imate mąstyti kitaip ir taikyti būdus, leidžiančius sėkmingai susidoroti su iššūkiais ir geriau išnaudoti galimybes.
Knygoje "NLP Vadovas: neurolingvistinis programavimas" taip pat mokoma bendravimo įgūdžių, supažindinama, kaip geriau suprasti kitus, įvertinus skirtingus modalumus (penkis jutimus) ir submodalumus (tam tikras jutiminio suvokimo savybes, pavyzdžiui, ryškumą esant vaizdiniam suvokimui). Apskritai, ji supažindina, kaip pagerinti savęs suvokimą.
Čia pateikti pagrindiniai NLP principai, suskaidyti į smulkius, lengvai pasiekiamus tikslus.
Autorių nuomone, mes galime pakeisti savo pasaulį ir dalykus, dėl kurių patiriame įtampą, tereikia pakeisti požiūrį į juos. Mes galime apgalvoti savo vidinius balsus ir įvertinti, kieno jie iš tikrųjų. Mums gali praversti net akių judesių integravimas, leidžiantis atsipalaiduoti, sušvelninti traumos pasekmes ir atsikratyti skausmingų prisiminimų.
"NLP – tai neišnaudotos galimybės, leidžiančios spręsti savo problemas... Tai tapo visapusio tobulinimosi programa ir technika. - Time
"NLP ko gero svarbiausia žinių apie bendravimą sintezė nuo 7-ojo dešimtmečio." - Science Digest
Tomas Hubjaras (Tom Hoobyar) – kvalifikuotas NLP specialistas, inžinierius ir aukštųjų technologijų įmonės vadovas. Pasitelkęs savo NLP įgūdžius ir gyvenimišką patirtį, jis padėjo augti žmonėms ir įmonėms. Taip pat jis įkūrė „NLP Cafe“ organizaciją ir tarptautinę NLP absolventų grupę, turinčią filialus visame pasaulyje.
Tomas Dotzas (Tom Dotz) 1990 m. įkūrė NLP institutą Kalifornijoje, kuris per ketverius metus tapo didžiausia šios srities organizacija JAV. Jis 1998 m. įsteigė „NLP Comprehensive“, taip pat inicijuoja programų kūrimą, kad NLP būtų galima taikyti atsižvelgus į aktualijas.
Suzana Sanders (Susan Sanders) yra sezoninių mokymų vadovė. NLP tyrimai leidžia Suzanai integruoti NLP sąvokas ir strategijas ir padėti organizacijoms lengviau tobulėti, paprasčiau, smagiau ir prasmingiau dirbti.
Šis lengvai skaitomas "NLP Vadovas: neurolingvistinis programavimas", kurį parašė trys patyrę NLP specialistai praktikai ir konsultantai, padės NLP taikyti kasdien. Susipažinę su realiomis autorių istorijomis, lengvai perprasite NLP strategijas, kurių reikia norint pasiekti konkrečių rezultatų versle ir gyvenime.
Skaitydami „NLP vadovą“ pastebėsite, kad imate mąstyti kitaip ir taikyti būdus, leidžiančius sėkmingai susidoroti su iššūkiais ir geriau išnaudoti galimybes.
Knygoje "NLP Vadovas: neurolingvistinis programavimas" taip pat mokoma bendravimo įgūdžių, supažindinama, kaip geriau suprasti kitus, įvertinus skirtingus modalumus (penkis jutimus) ir submodalumus (tam tikras jutiminio suvokimo savybes, pavyzdžiui, ryškumą esant vaizdiniam suvokimui). Apskritai, ji supažindina, kaip pagerinti savęs suvokimą.
Čia pateikti pagrindiniai NLP principai, suskaidyti į smulkius, lengvai pasiekiamus tikslus.
Autorių nuomone, mes galime pakeisti savo pasaulį ir dalykus, dėl kurių patiriame įtampą, tereikia pakeisti požiūrį į juos. Mes galime apgalvoti savo vidinius balsus ir įvertinti, kieno jie iš tikrųjų. Mums gali praversti net akių judesių integravimas, leidžiantis atsipalaiduoti, sušvelninti traumos pasekmes ir atsikratyti skausmingų prisiminimų.
"NLP – tai neišnaudotos galimybės, leidžiančios spręsti savo problemas... Tai tapo visapusio tobulinimosi programa ir technika. - Time
"NLP ko gero svarbiausia žinių apie bendravimą sintezė nuo 7-ojo dešimtmečio." - Science Digest
Tomas Hubjaras (Tom Hoobyar) – kvalifikuotas NLP specialistas, inžinierius ir aukštųjų technologijų įmonės vadovas. Pasitelkęs savo NLP įgūdžius ir gyvenimišką patirtį, jis padėjo augti žmonėms ir įmonėms. Taip pat jis įkūrė „NLP Cafe“ organizaciją ir tarptautinę NLP absolventų grupę, turinčią filialus visame pasaulyje.
Tomas Dotzas (Tom Dotz) 1990 m. įkūrė NLP institutą Kalifornijoje, kuris per ketverius metus tapo didžiausia šios srities organizacija JAV. Jis 1998 m. įsteigė „NLP Comprehensive“, taip pat inicijuoja programų kūrimą, kad NLP būtų galima taikyti atsižvelgus į aktualijas.
Suzana Sanders (Susan Sanders) yra sezoninių mokymų vadovė. NLP tyrimai leidžia Suzanai integruoti NLP sąvokas ir strategijas ir padėti organizacijoms lengviau tobulėti, paprasčiau, smagiau ir prasmingiau dirbti.
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First published February 12, 2013
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July 1, 2017
“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place”
– George Bernard Shaw
The first time that NLP became known to me is when it was discussed by Navy Seal Michael Jaco in an interview that was conducted with him. Jaco also mentions it briefly in his book The Intuitive Warrior where he details many of the experiences in his life.
That lead me to research Neuro-linguistic programming in a cursory manner, and figured the information provided might do me some good.
Of all books available, NLP – The Essential Guide To Neuro-Linguistic Programming by Tom Hoobyar and Tom Dotz, was the one that appealed to me more than the others.
In any case, although this is my first book on the subject [and will continue to look into it in future books and such], it is quite comprehensive.
At its foundation, it basically consists of explaining the process of human thought. Thereafter, it gives the reader countless angles from which to be able to address any in a myriad of issues when it comes to how the mind creates/addresses experiences in our daily lives and how we as individuals can take charge of this process for the betterment of ourselves and others.
This particular book brings clarity to many emotional circumstances that take place between individuals, or even groups, and helps one be able to key in to certain factors. The author’s tempo is quite consistent throughout, and it doesn’t really go too fast, or too slow for the reader. The subject of NLP is analyzed from quite a few different angles.
In the beginning it covers the importance to understanding how one thinks. Therein we can learn how others manage their thoughts, whether they know it or not. From there on the book addresses thought patterns and couples that with belief filters that dictate how we view reality.
Belief filters are quite intriguing, because although an individual might be getting information, the information that his mind is viewing is being processed through a particular filter, which might or might not be beneficial. For instance, some beliefs, if positive, allow you to have a more positive outlook, thus you’re more likely to make positive choices due to that. However, the converse is also true.
Another notable point that is discussed is what emotional anchors are, as well as how to use them is touched upon. This is fascinating in that it can help people build upon the positive aspects of their life, rather than just ‘roll with the punches’ so to speak.
Triggers of emotion are also focused, being that they are so imperative in the construction of our emotional sphere.
The book also covers the notion of “Modalities” as well as “Sub-Modalities”. These are important because this is a reflection of how we feel based on certain qualities/distinctions.
One particular bit of the book that’s noteworthy is the fact that it mentions that any particular emotion, is just one option of many one can partake in. This is vital, as many people seem to be able ‘not to control’ their emotions and allow them to be automatic. By allowing themselves to be controlled by their emotions, and not be other way around, these individuals often find themselves in emotive-charged circumstances that are quite dense in stress.
Time and time again, this book covers the importance of ‘living in the moment’. This is tackled quite extensively as its monumentally beneficial, rather than living life on autopilot which most people unfortunately do.
Another prominent tenet that’s addressed that has various component are the Navy Seal’s “Big 4”. These are particular tools/habits that help Navy SEALs tackle countless intense instances where they need to forge ahead, regardless of circumstances.
Other ideas discussed are Meta-programs, the importance of physical signals such as personal space, body position, posture, gestures, touch & even eye movement, as well as being able to put yourself in other people’s mind to find out how they might be feeling.
The power of belief, some being good and some bad, are also mentioned in a quite remarkable manner.
This NLP Essential Guide makes it possible to abdicate many of the bad habits that plague individuals.
It would be erroneous however to think that once one is finished reading the book, the job is done. Those kind of limiting thoughts would placate any change that might be possible if one is not willing to put in the work.
In hindsight, there are so many different topics and ideas discussed that, at minimum, even with highlights and notes taken, it will take another reread of the most notable aspects to full anchor down all of the information. That, or by regularly studying the concepts will one be able to fully gain the benefits of the information.
Even with everything mentioned, there is still a lot more ideas, and examples that are addressed that would be highly beneficial to many people. There is just too many to mention.
As previously said, this book really is quite comprehensive. Applying the ideas/concepts every day is where your life will begin to change.
In the end, the choice is yours.
“It’s never too late to be the person you might have been.”
– George Eiliot
– George Bernard Shaw
The first time that NLP became known to me is when it was discussed by Navy Seal Michael Jaco in an interview that was conducted with him. Jaco also mentions it briefly in his book The Intuitive Warrior where he details many of the experiences in his life.
That lead me to research Neuro-linguistic programming in a cursory manner, and figured the information provided might do me some good.
Of all books available, NLP – The Essential Guide To Neuro-Linguistic Programming by Tom Hoobyar and Tom Dotz, was the one that appealed to me more than the others.
In any case, although this is my first book on the subject [and will continue to look into it in future books and such], it is quite comprehensive.
At its foundation, it basically consists of explaining the process of human thought. Thereafter, it gives the reader countless angles from which to be able to address any in a myriad of issues when it comes to how the mind creates/addresses experiences in our daily lives and how we as individuals can take charge of this process for the betterment of ourselves and others.
This particular book brings clarity to many emotional circumstances that take place between individuals, or even groups, and helps one be able to key in to certain factors. The author’s tempo is quite consistent throughout, and it doesn’t really go too fast, or too slow for the reader. The subject of NLP is analyzed from quite a few different angles.
In the beginning it covers the importance to understanding how one thinks. Therein we can learn how others manage their thoughts, whether they know it or not. From there on the book addresses thought patterns and couples that with belief filters that dictate how we view reality.
Belief filters are quite intriguing, because although an individual might be getting information, the information that his mind is viewing is being processed through a particular filter, which might or might not be beneficial. For instance, some beliefs, if positive, allow you to have a more positive outlook, thus you’re more likely to make positive choices due to that. However, the converse is also true.
Another notable point that is discussed is what emotional anchors are, as well as how to use them is touched upon. This is fascinating in that it can help people build upon the positive aspects of their life, rather than just ‘roll with the punches’ so to speak.
Triggers of emotion are also focused, being that they are so imperative in the construction of our emotional sphere.
The book also covers the notion of “Modalities” as well as “Sub-Modalities”. These are important because this is a reflection of how we feel based on certain qualities/distinctions.
One particular bit of the book that’s noteworthy is the fact that it mentions that any particular emotion, is just one option of many one can partake in. This is vital, as many people seem to be able ‘not to control’ their emotions and allow them to be automatic. By allowing themselves to be controlled by their emotions, and not be other way around, these individuals often find themselves in emotive-charged circumstances that are quite dense in stress.
Time and time again, this book covers the importance of ‘living in the moment’. This is tackled quite extensively as its monumentally beneficial, rather than living life on autopilot which most people unfortunately do.
Another prominent tenet that’s addressed that has various component are the Navy Seal’s “Big 4”. These are particular tools/habits that help Navy SEALs tackle countless intense instances where they need to forge ahead, regardless of circumstances.
Other ideas discussed are Meta-programs, the importance of physical signals such as personal space, body position, posture, gestures, touch & even eye movement, as well as being able to put yourself in other people’s mind to find out how they might be feeling.
The power of belief, some being good and some bad, are also mentioned in a quite remarkable manner.
This NLP Essential Guide makes it possible to abdicate many of the bad habits that plague individuals.
It would be erroneous however to think that once one is finished reading the book, the job is done. Those kind of limiting thoughts would placate any change that might be possible if one is not willing to put in the work.
In hindsight, there are so many different topics and ideas discussed that, at minimum, even with highlights and notes taken, it will take another reread of the most notable aspects to full anchor down all of the information. That, or by regularly studying the concepts will one be able to fully gain the benefits of the information.
Even with everything mentioned, there is still a lot more ideas, and examples that are addressed that would be highly beneficial to many people. There is just too many to mention.
As previously said, this book really is quite comprehensive. Applying the ideas/concepts every day is where your life will begin to change.
In the end, the choice is yours.
“It’s never too late to be the person you might have been.”
– George Eiliot
July 8, 2013
This was my very first book that dealt exclusively and entirely with NLP. It covered self-improvement in its first section and social interaction in its second, both of which contained some very interesting thought experiments. In my ignorance of the subject, this seems like a readable and informative introduction to it.
August 27, 2022
This wasn’t quite the comprehensive guide to NLP I expected it to be. It’s more of a lifestyle coaching book with elements of NLP thrown in. It has enough useful stuff to make it worth reading, but strays off topic too often for it to be any more than that.
The first half of the book focuses on knowing yourself better and the second half is more about how you interact with others.
On the plus side, it’s a fairly easy read. The writing style’s conversational. The intent behind the book feels positive. It’s got some useful mental models and exercises which are easy to do, particularly in the first half. I learned some things I didn’t know before, so that’s all good.
However, it feels repetitive and a bit padded out. There’s an old sales / presentation mantra about telling people what you’re going to tell them, then tell them, then tell them again. A lot of the book feels like that. Most of the points are clear first time. So repeating it, and repeating it again gets a bit tiring as you work your way through the book.
It also rambles off topic quite frequently. There’s lots of self serving and slightly smug personal stories and opinions about how the world should work. These weren’t necessarily bad, but didn’t always seem relevant or add much value to the points the author was trying to make. Some may find these hard to relate to.
For example, you’ll learn the author’s tall, used to be CEO of a Silicon Valley manufacturing business and runs a highly successful consulting firm. You’ll learn this because he mentions these facts in just about every chapter.
When it focuses on the NLP ideas and exercises, it’s more interesting. However, would have liked to have seen more of the evidence behind NLP. It mentions neuroscience quite a lot without really giving you much actual science or references. Appreciate he was trying to make the subject more accessible, but it makes the book feel a bit more lightweight.
Overall, OK as far as it goes and did enough to satisfy my curiosity about NLP. But too padded out to make it any better than an OK read.
The first half of the book focuses on knowing yourself better and the second half is more about how you interact with others.
On the plus side, it’s a fairly easy read. The writing style’s conversational. The intent behind the book feels positive. It’s got some useful mental models and exercises which are easy to do, particularly in the first half. I learned some things I didn’t know before, so that’s all good.
However, it feels repetitive and a bit padded out. There’s an old sales / presentation mantra about telling people what you’re going to tell them, then tell them, then tell them again. A lot of the book feels like that. Most of the points are clear first time. So repeating it, and repeating it again gets a bit tiring as you work your way through the book.
It also rambles off topic quite frequently. There’s lots of self serving and slightly smug personal stories and opinions about how the world should work. These weren’t necessarily bad, but didn’t always seem relevant or add much value to the points the author was trying to make. Some may find these hard to relate to.
For example, you’ll learn the author’s tall, used to be CEO of a Silicon Valley manufacturing business and runs a highly successful consulting firm. You’ll learn this because he mentions these facts in just about every chapter.
When it focuses on the NLP ideas and exercises, it’s more interesting. However, would have liked to have seen more of the evidence behind NLP. It mentions neuroscience quite a lot without really giving you much actual science or references. Appreciate he was trying to make the subject more accessible, but it makes the book feel a bit more lightweight.
Overall, OK as far as it goes and did enough to satisfy my curiosity about NLP. But too padded out to make it any better than an OK read.
June 30, 2020
Good but work oriented
The first half of the book was great and the techniques can be used for any sort of problem. However, most of the issue examples were work related. While work is a big chunk of adult life, it is not the only chunk. I would have appreciated more variation in the examples. Also, it just briefly touched on toxic people. Most of these techniques work with your average person with logic or reason, who it is possible to build a relationship with, but not with narcissists or other toxic people.
The first half of the book was great and the techniques can be used for any sort of problem. However, most of the issue examples were work related. While work is a big chunk of adult life, it is not the only chunk. I would have appreciated more variation in the examples. Also, it just briefly touched on toxic people. Most of these techniques work with your average person with logic or reason, who it is possible to build a relationship with, but not with narcissists or other toxic people.
March 14, 2019
Personally I like NLP, though some people see it as pseudoscience. This is not my favourite NLP book. I have seen some reasonable review of this book, but I did not like this book at all. might just be me.
March 25, 2022
Great educational material on NLP, Great exercises are included. Its funny that the author used to be a high-tech CEO. He has wonderful info on personal communication. I will listen to this many more times. It's that good.
November 3, 2022
Its really just a precis of NLP techniques, but without the depth necessary to reap much fruit from any one technique.
September 12, 2018
Straight to the point, simple and practical NLP book for beginners
April 28, 2018
Great book on communication and understanding people's needs and wants. Great addition to Nonviolent Communication by Rosenberg.
March 13, 2019
Great intro
January 22, 2020
I love how easy to understand this book is! Practical and useful!
August 15, 2020
So good I'm buying a hard copy to keep on my desk so that I can refer to it when I need to!
October 20, 2020
Amazing book. Cannot recommend it enough. Very useful and practical :)
November 2, 2018
another really exceptional book on nlp. this one had a lot less jargon than the first one and still there is a lot of visualization exercises.
one of my main takeaways was the "conflict resolution process", which is pretty simple. Just figuring out what "meta-outcomes" (jargon for benefits or the goal of the goal) each person is looking for (or each part of yourself if you're having internal conflict), and then from that high vantage point, finding ways to get those higher goals. I tried that with a personal internal conflict and it worked very well!
the "well formed outcome" process of setting goals is also really helpful!
- what do you want?
- what would it do for you if you got it? (benefits/meta-outcomes/goal of the goal)
- how will you know when you've achieved it? (in some cases, what measurables are involved in it?)
- when, where, and with whom do you want to have this result? (and how will it affect the rest of your life, the company, etc? so you can test the ecology of the goal. answering this question will probably surprise you on some things you want but may not have yet)
- what's stopping you from having the goal now? (identifies limiting beliefs and helps start the to do/action list)
- what resources do you need to achieve the goal? (include ones you already have and ones you need)
- how are you going to get the goal? what do you need to do? What actions do you need to take?
some other "gems" from the book
- sensory info -> meaning is assigned to it -> have an emotional response -> behavior results -> leads to more/different (hopefully better) sensory info
- really interesting beliefs to explore by finishing these sentences
- - I am...
- - people are...
- - life is...
- most problems in life can be resolved by connecting with your values (what's important to you in the context and why it's important, the "meta-outcomes" of the value)
- one of the things I love (and at the same time "hate!" lol) about NLP is how everything is broken down and referred back to sensory data, a part of one of the 5 senses). it really gets you in touch with your own mind, but at the same time it is very challenging because you must have control over your mind's speed and be able to slow down to really observe what's going on in your mind to figure out what sensory data is going on, what meaning you're assigning to it, what emotions you're feeling and how all that creates your behavior and your results in life
- "if everyone is moving forward together in the same direction, success takes care of itself." ~ Henry Ford
- "in NLP, we try not to lose things, we transform them." like the quote from Einstein "energy is neither created nor destroyed, only transformed"
- in the 21 day implementation guide at the end of the book it recommended taking rest days and on those rest days focus on: 1) things you want and have (aka things you're grateful for) and other ways you get more things you're grateful for, 2) people you love and why you love them, 3) people who love you and why you think they love you (or at least appreciate you!), 4) your values, what's most important to you and why, and what it would do for you, all the way to the top, if you had what you most value so you can align yourself with your innate purpose in life
- a cool exercise I have yet to try out but will: find a negative memory that troubles you, dissociate from it and see yourself in the 3rd person, but make that 3rd person someone who loves you, and listen to what kind of guidance or wisdom they'd give you regarding that situation
I'd definitely recommend this book to anyone who wants to improve their self and their positive impact in the world because it helps you get control of your mind, your emotions, and thus your behavior and results.
one of my main takeaways was the "conflict resolution process", which is pretty simple. Just figuring out what "meta-outcomes" (jargon for benefits or the goal of the goal) each person is looking for (or each part of yourself if you're having internal conflict), and then from that high vantage point, finding ways to get those higher goals. I tried that with a personal internal conflict and it worked very well!
the "well formed outcome" process of setting goals is also really helpful!
- what do you want?
- what would it do for you if you got it? (benefits/meta-outcomes/goal of the goal)
- how will you know when you've achieved it? (in some cases, what measurables are involved in it?)
- when, where, and with whom do you want to have this result? (and how will it affect the rest of your life, the company, etc? so you can test the ecology of the goal. answering this question will probably surprise you on some things you want but may not have yet)
- what's stopping you from having the goal now? (identifies limiting beliefs and helps start the to do/action list)
- what resources do you need to achieve the goal? (include ones you already have and ones you need)
- how are you going to get the goal? what do you need to do? What actions do you need to take?
some other "gems" from the book
- sensory info -> meaning is assigned to it -> have an emotional response -> behavior results -> leads to more/different (hopefully better) sensory info
- really interesting beliefs to explore by finishing these sentences
- - I am...
- - people are...
- - life is...
- most problems in life can be resolved by connecting with your values (what's important to you in the context and why it's important, the "meta-outcomes" of the value)
- one of the things I love (and at the same time "hate!" lol) about NLP is how everything is broken down and referred back to sensory data, a part of one of the 5 senses). it really gets you in touch with your own mind, but at the same time it is very challenging because you must have control over your mind's speed and be able to slow down to really observe what's going on in your mind to figure out what sensory data is going on, what meaning you're assigning to it, what emotions you're feeling and how all that creates your behavior and your results in life
- "if everyone is moving forward together in the same direction, success takes care of itself." ~ Henry Ford
- "in NLP, we try not to lose things, we transform them." like the quote from Einstein "energy is neither created nor destroyed, only transformed"
- in the 21 day implementation guide at the end of the book it recommended taking rest days and on those rest days focus on: 1) things you want and have (aka things you're grateful for) and other ways you get more things you're grateful for, 2) people you love and why you love them, 3) people who love you and why you think they love you (or at least appreciate you!), 4) your values, what's most important to you and why, and what it would do for you, all the way to the top, if you had what you most value so you can align yourself with your innate purpose in life
- a cool exercise I have yet to try out but will: find a negative memory that troubles you, dissociate from it and see yourself in the 3rd person, but make that 3rd person someone who loves you, and listen to what kind of guidance or wisdom they'd give you regarding that situation
I'd definitely recommend this book to anyone who wants to improve their self and their positive impact in the world because it helps you get control of your mind, your emotions, and thus your behavior and results.
December 6, 2018
Many people around me mention NLP frequently, so I was curious to understand better what it means and got this audiobook. It was rather streightforward and missing much of the evengalist sales stuff you most likely find in other books. I still don't really get what NLP is at its core, it seems like a mixture of general wisdom and principles as well as a bunch of tools and habits built around simplified insights and narratives from neuroscience and biology and packed under a new umbrella in order to make it easier to sell it. It might be a good starting point for anyone who wants to learn something about communication, self-reflection and the human nature of thought and emotion and for whatever reason looks for the save garden of an overarching "theory". Then, this book is probably a good starting point compared to some of the others I've flipped through at the book store. However, I'd rather go with some 'real' books that don't position themselves under the umbrella of a pseudo-theory.
March 31, 2021
This is probably my 5th NLP book, so I can into it with some experience and expectations. All in all, it was very good, and a refreshing "refresher" on NLP. Some of my technique take-aways were:
1. Well Formed Outcome Frame
2. Circle of Excellence
3. Meta Models
4. The 4 Navy Seal Success Habits
5. Internal Systems
6. Reframing
7. The Disney Method/Strategy
8. Conflict Integration
I still have a lot to learn in NLP, and more importantly, reinforce some of the concepts I am starting to internalize. I also like how NLP forces you to take responsibility for your thoughts. Thinking, not remembering, is basically us asking and answering questions to ourselves.
Why not take charge of the questions, and start asking yourself empowering questions? NLP does this, and this book will help a person interested in NLP to take their efforts to the next level.
1. Well Formed Outcome Frame
2. Circle of Excellence
3. Meta Models
4. The 4 Navy Seal Success Habits
5. Internal Systems
6. Reframing
7. The Disney Method/Strategy
8. Conflict Integration
I still have a lot to learn in NLP, and more importantly, reinforce some of the concepts I am starting to internalize. I also like how NLP forces you to take responsibility for your thoughts. Thinking, not remembering, is basically us asking and answering questions to ourselves.
Why not take charge of the questions, and start asking yourself empowering questions? NLP does this, and this book will help a person interested in NLP to take their efforts to the next level.
July 14, 2020
Picked this up because of all the positive reviews and there is something so agonizingly dry about it. I'm not going to force myself to finish it.
I suppose if you're having the realization for the first time that your thoughts create your feelings and that creates your experience/results/actions, it's good to be handheld and walked through the concepts.
Viktor Frankl summed it up best, "Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space lies our freedom and our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our happiness." I'm about 60 pages in and he's still explaining that simple premise.
Not for me.
I suppose if you're having the realization for the first time that your thoughts create your feelings and that creates your experience/results/actions, it's good to be handheld and walked through the concepts.
Viktor Frankl summed it up best, "Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space lies our freedom and our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our happiness." I'm about 60 pages in and he's still explaining that simple premise.
Not for me.
July 26, 2016
This is good from the get go.
Other books on this topic are either too technical and dry or so basic that you won't feel like you are getting an accurate insight into what NLP is.
This book is written from the notes and exercises of a 35 year practitioner of NLP.
If you are looking for a good book on NLP, this is it.
Other books on this topic are either too technical and dry or so basic that you won't feel like you are getting an accurate insight into what NLP is.
This book is written from the notes and exercises of a 35 year practitioner of NLP.
If you are looking for a good book on NLP, this is it.
February 10, 2018
Not much of a worthy read.
Imagine "exercises" where you will need to remember tiny details of every memory in your life you want to think differently about, combined with advice like "Communication is key to any relationship."
Sitting the same way someone else does is supposed to be some sort of hypnotic way to get on their side?
Established pseudo-science. Pretty much hokum.
Imagine "exercises" where you will need to remember tiny details of every memory in your life you want to think differently about, combined with advice like "Communication is key to any relationship."
Sitting the same way someone else does is supposed to be some sort of hypnotic way to get on their side?
Established pseudo-science. Pretty much hokum.
March 14, 2021
I was really curious what is NLP all about. So I chose this book to become familiar with the topic. And I loved the book in general because it was not boring. The author shares a whole bunch of wonderful ideas, cites multitude of popular psychology authors. But in the end it was a bit disappointing as it all cleared up to be a wonderfully written fairy story.
June 18, 2021
Author covers a lot of interesting topics. But all them are described very shalowly. Looks like author thinks, that more words means more information. So most of this book is just empty talks. Some stories from his life not realy related to particular topics. It would be easy to remove at least 50% of text without losing information.
March 16, 2022
This book was amazing, I discovered for some reason that NLP has been labelled a "Pseudo-Science" which is strange to me for a number of reasons
#1. I've practiced it and it actually works both on myself and every other person I've tried it on
#2. It has principles and techniques I've seen in other forms of Psychotherapy and have read about like IFS and EMDR (Eye Movement Therapy) as well as positive forward thinking yet it gets labelled as a Pseudo-Science?
Weird, strange, totally worth you checking out before you dismiss it though, it seems that scientists have a lot of Ideologues and it takes time for stuff like this to get through, IFS was discovered in the 80's and it took until like 2015 before it was officially recognised as a therapeutic treatment, and this book opens up with a story about how the authors relative had anorexia, an eating disorder, and found no help through traditional psycho-therapy but was cured with NLP. Which I know would have helped because the same methods they used on the girl is used in IFS, a scientifically recognised psycho-therapy with similar methods!
Absolutely whack.
NLP is also used in Navy Seal training to this day and when it was introduced candidate success rates went up significantly, it's since been adopted by other special forces units around the world.
NLP teaches you how your mind operates and how you think, how to manage your own emotions and feelings, how other people think and how to interact with people better to gain better outcomes with them in a non-manipulative fashion, well practiced NLP practitioners can actually use this to read what people are thinking and it's quite effective though you're not literally reading someone's mind.
The guy who wrote this book was an engineer and CEO of high-tech CEO (a famous tech company). NLP has many applications to business, personal and romantic relationships
#1. I've practiced it and it actually works both on myself and every other person I've tried it on
#2. It has principles and techniques I've seen in other forms of Psychotherapy and have read about like IFS and EMDR (Eye Movement Therapy) as well as positive forward thinking yet it gets labelled as a Pseudo-Science?
Weird, strange, totally worth you checking out before you dismiss it though, it seems that scientists have a lot of Ideologues and it takes time for stuff like this to get through, IFS was discovered in the 80's and it took until like 2015 before it was officially recognised as a therapeutic treatment, and this book opens up with a story about how the authors relative had anorexia, an eating disorder, and found no help through traditional psycho-therapy but was cured with NLP. Which I know would have helped because the same methods they used on the girl is used in IFS, a scientifically recognised psycho-therapy with similar methods!
Absolutely whack.
NLP is also used in Navy Seal training to this day and when it was introduced candidate success rates went up significantly, it's since been adopted by other special forces units around the world.
NLP teaches you how your mind operates and how you think, how to manage your own emotions and feelings, how other people think and how to interact with people better to gain better outcomes with them in a non-manipulative fashion, well practiced NLP practitioners can actually use this to read what people are thinking and it's quite effective though you're not literally reading someone's mind.
The guy who wrote this book was an engineer and CEO of high-tech CEO (a famous tech company). NLP has many applications to business, personal and romantic relationships
November 3, 2021
Anchors are powerful.
There is no such thing as failure, only feedback.
The quality of our life is determined by the quality of our communication with ourselves.
Create your victory list with your successes in life and read it when you feel down.
Watch out when you tell yourself, "I really should do this"
See your future self doing things. Beliefs impact how you see the world.
If you could change one thing on how I interact with you, what would it be?
Always keep in mind that a comment may not have been intended the way you heard it.
Be sincerely interested in the other person.
A story about someone else can be more powerful than sharing your own story
To make creative decisions use three different rooms: dreamers, realists, critics
Exercise:
What do you have that you don't want in your life?
Identify things in these categories: want & have, want & don't have, don't want & have, don't want & don't have
Visualize you haveing a result and decide the actions you need to make in the present to get there.
Identify what is the common theme of your goals.
To have a breakthrough you need to overcome your mental limitations and believe your goal is possible.
There is no such thing as failure, only feedback.
The quality of our life is determined by the quality of our communication with ourselves.
Create your victory list with your successes in life and read it when you feel down.
Watch out when you tell yourself, "I really should do this"
See your future self doing things. Beliefs impact how you see the world.
If you could change one thing on how I interact with you, what would it be?
Always keep in mind that a comment may not have been intended the way you heard it.
Be sincerely interested in the other person.
A story about someone else can be more powerful than sharing your own story
To make creative decisions use three different rooms: dreamers, realists, critics
Exercise:
What do you have that you don't want in your life?
Identify things in these categories: want & have, want & don't have, don't want & have, don't want & don't have
Visualize you haveing a result and decide the actions you need to make in the present to get there.
Identify what is the common theme of your goals.
To have a breakthrough you need to overcome your mental limitations and believe your goal is possible.
October 27, 2023
This reads as a very surface level introduction to mental and emotional states and how self-awareness of one’s own inner self can lead to the possibility of important behavioral modifications. The “technology” presented is thin, but anyone who is just starting to learn more about themselves or how theirs and others’ minds work might find the activities useful or illuminating. There is utility in the chapters discussing nonverbal behaviors and encouraging empathy towards others to make them feel comfortable which can serve to unlock more information. At the same time, most successful leaders in 2023 are already probably inclined towards these approaches and likely exhibit these levels of awareness while also embracing continuous improvement.
There is a stronger, more firm path towards inner consistency and peace and that is through the widely accessible stoics - Aurelius, Seneca, Epictetus and some of Cicero’s philosophical essays. This approach takes more time and effort but is, in my opinion, ultimately more comprehensive and long lasting than a modern self-help approach.
There is a stronger, more firm path towards inner consistency and peace and that is through the widely accessible stoics - Aurelius, Seneca, Epictetus and some of Cicero’s philosophical essays. This approach takes more time and effort but is, in my opinion, ultimately more comprehensive and long lasting than a modern self-help approach.
April 30, 2019
This book literally changed me in ways I never thought possible.
I'm a self help nut,read plenty of books and approaches to self empowerment...
I was initially introduced to NLP through the fantastic Tony Robbins' materials... this book was the deep dive I needed to snap myself out of the rut I was in life and really,truly,just reset my mind on everything.
Before this book ,I really was in a bad place,which I was not admitting to myself out loud.
I can honestly admit now just how amazingly different I see life now on every aspect.
My mind has never been clearer, I can analyze my thoughts,actions and emotions in a split second and choose how I feel,how to think and how to react.
More importantly - I can now filter out all the negativity that was slowly eating me alive and act and see my life in a positive and efficient proactive manner.
Thank you Tom and Tracy Hoobyar for this magnificent book,I am eternally grateful!!
Oren
I'm a self help nut,read plenty of books and approaches to self empowerment...
I was initially introduced to NLP through the fantastic Tony Robbins' materials... this book was the deep dive I needed to snap myself out of the rut I was in life and really,truly,just reset my mind on everything.
Before this book ,I really was in a bad place,which I was not admitting to myself out loud.
I can honestly admit now just how amazingly different I see life now on every aspect.
My mind has never been clearer, I can analyze my thoughts,actions and emotions in a split second and choose how I feel,how to think and how to react.
More importantly - I can now filter out all the negativity that was slowly eating me alive and act and see my life in a positive and efficient proactive manner.
Thank you Tom and Tracy Hoobyar for this magnificent book,I am eternally grateful!!
Oren
September 18, 2022
Brilliant book, highly recommended.
I was looking for a comprehensive introduction to NLP, having heard so many people swearing by it, and found it in this book. Took me three tries to acquire the book, but I'm so glad I persevered (the first seller didn't have the book and cancelled the order; the second one was lost in the mail).
It is a book to work through: there are a great number of practices scattered throughout the book for you to stop and do. It is not just a sit-back-and-read book. As such, make sure you read it at a time when you are alone and can stop and practice the exercises. It would also likely be advantageous to set aside time for journalling as you go along, helping to work through some of the thoughts that come up.
It took me a long time to work through this book, so the 21-day guide at the end is very welcome, as a sort of recap to what I've just learned. It, too, requires time to work through. I'm sure it'll be well worth every minute.
I was looking for a comprehensive introduction to NLP, having heard so many people swearing by it, and found it in this book. Took me three tries to acquire the book, but I'm so glad I persevered (the first seller didn't have the book and cancelled the order; the second one was lost in the mail).
It is a book to work through: there are a great number of practices scattered throughout the book for you to stop and do. It is not just a sit-back-and-read book. As such, make sure you read it at a time when you are alone and can stop and practice the exercises. It would also likely be advantageous to set aside time for journalling as you go along, helping to work through some of the thoughts that come up.
It took me a long time to work through this book, so the 21-day guide at the end is very welcome, as a sort of recap to what I've just learned. It, too, requires time to work through. I'm sure it'll be well worth every minute.
April 28, 2021
Highly recommended reading for all. The ability to change the way we perceive the world is one of our brain's greatest strengths and yet the majority of us never learn due to being busy busy busy with important things like what that random person over there in the cafe thinks of the way I'm eating my muffin.
Filled with effective exercises to gamify the human experience, The Essential Guide to NLP is the kind of book to savour and dip into regularly. Buy a copy, have it on your bedside table, dog-ear your favourite chapters and re-read as often as you feel comfortable.
Looking forward to continuing the journey of processing stimuli, considering and acknowledging the different triggers in the stimuli and how those senses turn into emotions, which turn into self-talk, which turn into actions. The goal: to persistently improve. How? Read the book!
Filled with effective exercises to gamify the human experience, The Essential Guide to NLP is the kind of book to savour and dip into regularly. Buy a copy, have it on your bedside table, dog-ear your favourite chapters and re-read as often as you feel comfortable.
Looking forward to continuing the journey of processing stimuli, considering and acknowledging the different triggers in the stimuli and how those senses turn into emotions, which turn into self-talk, which turn into actions. The goal: to persistently improve. How? Read the book!
July 1, 2023
DNF about a little over half way through. Hoobyar is a good writer, but, I don't know, I can't put my finger on it. I've read over half of this but I feel like I got practically almost nothing out of it. It also felt kind of bloated. He would introduce a concept, explain it, and then conclude it with something like two paragraphs. His anecdotes were only somewhat entertaining. But still, I didn't really get anything out it. The only thing that I got was a thing to say in a particular circumstance, but otherwise the advice just seems strange or specific or forgettable. Here and there there would be something of note, but it's only quite minute.
Two stars because it does seem to hold some good, practical advice, and I do believe NLP to be a real science, it's just not for me. There are other psychological self-improvement techniques and practices that are better IMO.
Two stars because it does seem to hold some good, practical advice, and I do believe NLP to be a real science, it's just not for me. There are other psychological self-improvement techniques and practices that are better IMO.
December 28, 2021
I can assure you that if you are interested in the topic of self-improvement, you won’t be falling asleep reading this book. It provides everything that such book should contain: method, plan and testing yourself. I can’t tell whether the theory disclosed in this book works, having not tested the guide at the end of the book yet myself, but it does make sense considering brain is one big neural network that continuously transforms according to inputs from the outside world. Substituting some of those with stories which fulfil your goals and reprogramming your brain or changing your thinking patterns. Enjoy the journey to achieving what you want and becoming what you want to be. The only thing that remains to you to find out is knowing what that is.
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