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Sita's Sister
From the bestselling author of Karna's Wife, comes this book about Urmila, Sita's sister and the neglected wife of Lakshman, and one of the most overlooked characters in the Ramayana. As Sita prepares to go into exile, her younger sisters stay back at the doomed palace of Ayodhya, their smiles, hope and joy wiped away in a single stroke. And through the tears and the tragedy one woman of immense strength and conviction stands apart-Urmila, whose husband, Lakshman, has chosen to accompany his brother Ram to the forest rather than stay with his bride. She could have insisted on joining Lakshman, as did Sita with Ram. But she did not. Why did she agree to be left behind in the palace, waiting for her husband for fourteen painfully long years?
320 pages, Paperback
First published December 1, 2014
About the author
Kavita Kané
12 books681 followersA senior journalist with a career of over two decades, which includes working for Magna publication and DNA, she quit her job as Assistant Editor of Times of India to devote herself as a full time author. A self-styled aficionado of cinema and theatre and sufficiently armed with a post-graduate degree in English Literature and Mass Communication from the University of Pune, the only skill she knows, she candidly confesses, is writing.
Karna's Wife her debut novel, (2013)was a bestseller. Her second novel - Sita's Sister (2014) also deals with another enigmatic personality - Urmila, probably the most overlooked character in the Ramayan. Menaka's Choice(2015) ,another best-seller, is about the famous apsara and her infamous liaison with Vishwamitra the man she was sent to destroy. Lanka's Princess (2016) is her fourth book based on Ravan's sister, Surpanakha, the Princess of Lanka who was also its destroyer...
Born in Mumbai, a childhood spent largely in Patna and Delhi , Kavita currently lives in Pune with her mariner husband Prakash and two daughters Kimaya and Amiya with Chic the black cocker spaniel and Cotton the white, curious cat.
Karna's Wife her debut novel, (2013)was a bestseller. Her second novel - Sita's Sister (2014) also deals with another enigmatic personality - Urmila, probably the most overlooked character in the Ramayan. Menaka's Choice(2015) ,another best-seller, is about the famous apsara and her infamous liaison with Vishwamitra the man she was sent to destroy. Lanka's Princess (2016) is her fourth book based on Ravan's sister, Surpanakha, the Princess of Lanka who was also its destroyer...
Born in Mumbai, a childhood spent largely in Patna and Delhi , Kavita currently lives in Pune with her mariner husband Prakash and two daughters Kimaya and Amiya with Chic the black cocker spaniel and Cotton the white, curious cat.
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December 27, 2015
The best rendition to Ramayan from the worst-hit woman of Ramayan. Well narrated. Urmila has got all in her as shades, muted over canvas of time. She is portrayed as tempestuous princess in love, vivacious bride, insecure wife and ambitious woman who did not bother to impose herself on her husband to become his ultimate distraction.
We know what happened to Ram, Sita and Lakshman when they ventured to forest following Dasarath’s orders. But what happened in Ayothya when they were away ? Who managed the broken family and abandoned state affairs? How did they mend the irreparable loss ? How did the completely shattered family survive, after losing Dasarath to grief and after Bharat went away to Nandigram ? Here comes her entry, the most neglected and less lime-lighted character who exists for namesake in Ramayan.
Urmila.
The actual princess of Mithila. Legitimate daughter of King Janak. Lakshman’s neglected wife. The legend has completely ignored her saying she slept for 14 years when Lakshman was away. In Kavita Kane’s view, she is glorified as the woman of substance who fights the odds. And not to forget, Kavita doesn't ignore Kaikeyi all in her negative shades. Wonderful amendment softened my views on Kaikeyi !
There are quotes, which made me fall in love with Urmila, the enchantress.
You could always call her secretive, masking her feelings beautifully lest anyone intrude into her inmost realm of hidden thoughts. It was a defense Urmila had evolved since childhood.
Four sisters, married on same day, living in similar wretchedness but each accepting and acknowledging life differently – Mandavi bitter, Kriti wiser and she catatonic. And Urmila smiled at her self-description. She existed. The course of time and events plodded on, uninterrupted, pausing for none.
Let me hate you passionately as I loved you. Would hatred be strong than love ?
One of the greatest things about this book is, the outline of the story is unchanged. It just gives voice for Urmila, to see things from her view. Kavita Kane’s writing style is simple and beautiful. Captures the inner feelings of a woman perfectly. After finishing Menaka’s Choice, I wish to enjoy Urmila’s perspective one more time. In few years, Kavita will leave a mark in the literature field for this beautiful work.
We know what happened to Ram, Sita and Lakshman when they ventured to forest following Dasarath’s orders. But what happened in Ayothya when they were away ? Who managed the broken family and abandoned state affairs? How did they mend the irreparable loss ? How did the completely shattered family survive, after losing Dasarath to grief and after Bharat went away to Nandigram ? Here comes her entry, the most neglected and less lime-lighted character who exists for namesake in Ramayan.
Urmila.
The actual princess of Mithila. Legitimate daughter of King Janak. Lakshman’s neglected wife. The legend has completely ignored her saying she slept for 14 years when Lakshman was away. In Kavita Kane’s view, she is glorified as the woman of substance who fights the odds. And not to forget, Kavita doesn't ignore Kaikeyi all in her negative shades. Wonderful amendment softened my views on Kaikeyi !
There are quotes, which made me fall in love with Urmila, the enchantress.
You could always call her secretive, masking her feelings beautifully lest anyone intrude into her inmost realm of hidden thoughts. It was a defense Urmila had evolved since childhood.
Four sisters, married on same day, living in similar wretchedness but each accepting and acknowledging life differently – Mandavi bitter, Kriti wiser and she catatonic. And Urmila smiled at her self-description. She existed. The course of time and events plodded on, uninterrupted, pausing for none.
Let me hate you passionately as I loved you. Would hatred be strong than love ?
One of the greatest things about this book is, the outline of the story is unchanged. It just gives voice for Urmila, to see things from her view. Kavita Kane’s writing style is simple and beautiful. Captures the inner feelings of a woman perfectly. After finishing Menaka’s Choice, I wish to enjoy Urmila’s perspective one more time. In few years, Kavita will leave a mark in the literature field for this beautiful work.
August 31, 2019
I am a fan of Indian mythology, and believe there are a lot of lessons to be learnt for life from mythology in general. Reading Joseph Campbell’s writings helped me get a more organized understanding of the role mythology plays in our lives – helping transcend the literal and leading us to the gates of the more profound truths.
I read Kavita Kane’s “Karna’s Wife” and really liked it for its imaginative storytelling using the larger framework of the Mahabharata, and a strong character in Uruvi. Similarly, “Sita’s Sister” develops the character of Urmila, Lakshman’s wife exceptionally well.
The story starts with a brief background of the four sisters – Sita, Urmila and their cousins Mandavi and Kriti. The story moves on to the Swayamvar for Sita which Ram wins; and the subsequent marriages of the four sisters to the four brothers. The story largely follows the mainline version for most of the book with Kaikeyi stepping in and seeking two boons from King Dasharatha - her son Bharat to be crowned the King, and Ram being banished to exile in the forests for 14 years. As Sita, and Lakshman decide to accompany Ram, Urmila’s life comes apart. She is in deep turmoil as Lakshman advises against her following him. Sita, while in exile, is still at peace with herself unlike the other sisters. With Bharat also deciding to rule from a distance on behalf of Ram, Mandavi feels frustrated as well.
Since the storytelling is from Urmila’s perspective, there is only scant coverage of Sita’s abduction and the war with Raavan. The most important aspects are weaved into the story though. The inner thinking & motivations of all the central characters are explored very well. There is a fairly big twist towards the end as compared to the mainline versions and it fits in well and naturally.
This is a very well written story from Urmila’s perspective and strongly recommended if Indian mythology interests you.
My rating: 4.5 / 5.
I read Kavita Kane’s “Karna’s Wife” and really liked it for its imaginative storytelling using the larger framework of the Mahabharata, and a strong character in Uruvi. Similarly, “Sita’s Sister” develops the character of Urmila, Lakshman’s wife exceptionally well.
The story starts with a brief background of the four sisters – Sita, Urmila and their cousins Mandavi and Kriti. The story moves on to the Swayamvar for Sita which Ram wins; and the subsequent marriages of the four sisters to the four brothers. The story largely follows the mainline version for most of the book with Kaikeyi stepping in and seeking two boons from King Dasharatha - her son Bharat to be crowned the King, and Ram being banished to exile in the forests for 14 years. As Sita, and Lakshman decide to accompany Ram, Urmila’s life comes apart. She is in deep turmoil as Lakshman advises against her following him. Sita, while in exile, is still at peace with herself unlike the other sisters. With Bharat also deciding to rule from a distance on behalf of Ram, Mandavi feels frustrated as well.
Since the storytelling is from Urmila’s perspective, there is only scant coverage of Sita’s abduction and the war with Raavan. The most important aspects are weaved into the story though. The inner thinking & motivations of all the central characters are explored very well. There is a fairly big twist towards the end as compared to the mainline versions and it fits in well and naturally.
This is a very well written story from Urmila’s perspective and strongly recommended if Indian mythology interests you.
My rating: 4.5 / 5.
February 10, 2017
A Great Book!i cried and laughed with urmila...I actually lived as her while i was readind the book.
February 23, 2015
So many questions keep flooding a thinking individual's mind, more so after reading thought provoking books like Sita's Sister. What is just, what is dharma, which is bigger - a role or an individual, where does duty of one end and the personal space of another begin, who decides which role takes precedence over another, does love mean being someone's weakness or strength, should love surpass duty or the other way round, and many more.
Kavita Kane brings to fore one of those characters of the epic Ramayana who have grossly been ignored by the center stage lights. Urmila is often remembered as one of King Janak's daughters, Sita's younger sister and Lakshman's wife. Paeans have been written about the sacrifices of the prime characters of the mythology in whose shadow many characters have been eclipsed. Lord Ram smilingly renounced his right on the throne of Ayodhya to follow the promise that his father gave to one of his wives. His worldly consort Sita gave a glimpse of her fortitude by choosing the same path for herself as was destined for her husband. Lakshman chose to let his course get automatically sealed as he could not think of not being with his elder brother during the exile period of 14 years. Bharat decided to spend the 14 years of Ram's exile in complete abstinence of all royal pleasures as a way of his penance. These are the towering embodiments of ideals in the epic story, but often, the larger than life sagas end up neglecting the contributions of some, who silently bear the consequences of others' decisions and promises. Their greatness lies in invisibly supporting the main players.
In Sita's Sister, Kavita Kane has lent that missing voice to Urmila. The title itself is extremely well thought out, true to the life spent over-shadowed and outshone. Here Urmila is portrayed as a delicately beautiful, spirited young princess who knows her mind and has no qualms in voicing it too. She is not the one who wants to live in illusion or any make believe world. She comes across as an individual who acknowledges and accepts her situations gracefully - whether it is of being a second fiddle to the adopted elder sister Sita or submitting to the fact that her husband would remain committed to his brotherly duties over and above her. But this does not push her down rather she reciprocates the favour by being a source of strength for her loved ones.
She displays the mettle and the fortitude to provide the anchorage to her family whether it was her parental one or later her marital kinship. She tries her best to sew the relationships and while doing so, she poses some very pertinent questions from time to time. Her voiced displeasure on Bharat's decision of spending the next 14 years in Nandigram is clear example of her confident and intrepid nerve. She questions his dharma towards his wife Mandavi - 'we have talked about all sorts of dharma - of the father and the sons, of the king and the princes, of the Brahmin and the Kshatriya, even of the wife for the husband. But is there no dharma of the husband for his wife?'
There cannot be any surprise on the plot front yet the narrative from the perspective of a different character makes it appear so very uniquely distinct.
Some other characters that make their presence felt significantly in the story are that of mother Sunaina and Lakshman. Though a queen, Sunaina is a mother first and wants happiness of her daughters even if it means disregarding the political bindings. The part where she confesses her conduct in front of Urmila, would surely touch readers' inner chords. 'Probably I expected too much from you. Or, because I felt you were mine, the daughter of my flesh and blood, unlike Sita or the motherless Mandavi and Kirti. That's why I was over-protective for them but harsher to you.'
Lakshman has always given an impression of being a person who is devoutly committed to his brotherly duties all through his life and his personal relationships and bonds never surface in prominence. But in Sita's Sister, he comes across as a person who is equally vulnerable and emotional as is any other individual. He also needs someone from whom he could derive his treasure of strength. To deliver on his lofty ideals, he depends on two women in his life - his mother and his wife. Separation from his wife is no less torturous for him either but he wants his 'Mila' to make it easier for him because he acknowledges what she is, in his life 'you are my strength but also my weakness'.
This story very strongly brings back the memories of MaithiliSharan Gupt's Saket, another must read by the connoisseurs of mythology and appreciators of subtle human emotions.
Kavita Kane's language has contemporary feel to it which makes the narrative more relatable for the present-day readers. Also, some of the questions that are raised in the narrative seem equally relevant. Personally I see nothing wrong in re-defining and re-analysing the age old mythology. I firmly believe that the way any story (epic or otherwise) is understood, analysed and presented has a lot to do with a myriad of factors - the time, and the prevailing mindset, customs and culture of that time. So when we experience almost complete metamorphosis of our society with time, perhaps mythology also looks for re-definitions from time to time.
Cannot help quoting some pearls of wisdom from the book -
...when love surpasses duty, it is salvation.
Unhappiness makes us self-absorbed, it makes one think only of oneself- of the pain, and misery one is suffering.
Only with detachment one learns the value of love versus the range of emotions - exile from attachment.
Kavita Kane brings to fore one of those characters of the epic Ramayana who have grossly been ignored by the center stage lights. Urmila is often remembered as one of King Janak's daughters, Sita's younger sister and Lakshman's wife. Paeans have been written about the sacrifices of the prime characters of the mythology in whose shadow many characters have been eclipsed. Lord Ram smilingly renounced his right on the throne of Ayodhya to follow the promise that his father gave to one of his wives. His worldly consort Sita gave a glimpse of her fortitude by choosing the same path for herself as was destined for her husband. Lakshman chose to let his course get automatically sealed as he could not think of not being with his elder brother during the exile period of 14 years. Bharat decided to spend the 14 years of Ram's exile in complete abstinence of all royal pleasures as a way of his penance. These are the towering embodiments of ideals in the epic story, but often, the larger than life sagas end up neglecting the contributions of some, who silently bear the consequences of others' decisions and promises. Their greatness lies in invisibly supporting the main players.
In Sita's Sister, Kavita Kane has lent that missing voice to Urmila. The title itself is extremely well thought out, true to the life spent over-shadowed and outshone. Here Urmila is portrayed as a delicately beautiful, spirited young princess who knows her mind and has no qualms in voicing it too. She is not the one who wants to live in illusion or any make believe world. She comes across as an individual who acknowledges and accepts her situations gracefully - whether it is of being a second fiddle to the adopted elder sister Sita or submitting to the fact that her husband would remain committed to his brotherly duties over and above her. But this does not push her down rather she reciprocates the favour by being a source of strength for her loved ones.
She displays the mettle and the fortitude to provide the anchorage to her family whether it was her parental one or later her marital kinship. She tries her best to sew the relationships and while doing so, she poses some very pertinent questions from time to time. Her voiced displeasure on Bharat's decision of spending the next 14 years in Nandigram is clear example of her confident and intrepid nerve. She questions his dharma towards his wife Mandavi - 'we have talked about all sorts of dharma - of the father and the sons, of the king and the princes, of the Brahmin and the Kshatriya, even of the wife for the husband. But is there no dharma of the husband for his wife?'
There cannot be any surprise on the plot front yet the narrative from the perspective of a different character makes it appear so very uniquely distinct.
Some other characters that make their presence felt significantly in the story are that of mother Sunaina and Lakshman. Though a queen, Sunaina is a mother first and wants happiness of her daughters even if it means disregarding the political bindings. The part where she confesses her conduct in front of Urmila, would surely touch readers' inner chords. 'Probably I expected too much from you. Or, because I felt you were mine, the daughter of my flesh and blood, unlike Sita or the motherless Mandavi and Kirti. That's why I was over-protective for them but harsher to you.'
Lakshman has always given an impression of being a person who is devoutly committed to his brotherly duties all through his life and his personal relationships and bonds never surface in prominence. But in Sita's Sister, he comes across as a person who is equally vulnerable and emotional as is any other individual. He also needs someone from whom he could derive his treasure of strength. To deliver on his lofty ideals, he depends on two women in his life - his mother and his wife. Separation from his wife is no less torturous for him either but he wants his 'Mila' to make it easier for him because he acknowledges what she is, in his life 'you are my strength but also my weakness'.
This story very strongly brings back the memories of MaithiliSharan Gupt's Saket, another must read by the connoisseurs of mythology and appreciators of subtle human emotions.
Kavita Kane's language has contemporary feel to it which makes the narrative more relatable for the present-day readers. Also, some of the questions that are raised in the narrative seem equally relevant. Personally I see nothing wrong in re-defining and re-analysing the age old mythology. I firmly believe that the way any story (epic or otherwise) is understood, analysed and presented has a lot to do with a myriad of factors - the time, and the prevailing mindset, customs and culture of that time. So when we experience almost complete metamorphosis of our society with time, perhaps mythology also looks for re-definitions from time to time.
Cannot help quoting some pearls of wisdom from the book -
...when love surpasses duty, it is salvation.
Unhappiness makes us self-absorbed, it makes one think only of oneself- of the pain, and misery one is suffering.
Only with detachment one learns the value of love versus the range of emotions - exile from attachment.
December 26, 2014
I was in Class 3 when my mother first told me the story of Ramayana. The sheer grandeur of an epic was intimidating at first, prompting me to stick to the rosy details alone. Rama was good, Sita was pure, Hanuman was a hero and Kaikeyi along with Ravana were the Devil (or rather Manthara). It was simple. It was safe. Over the years though, this simplicity faded and I read many other versions, so much more complex and unforgiving than my mother's tale. I found empathy for Urmila at the age of 15, when I first tried to break down her character. Her honesty, humanity and most of all, unflinching trust in her husband shook me to the core. This book reminded me why it did so.
A tweaked, twisted and romanticized version of Ramayana, if I may, Sita's Sister gives the due respect to a woman who stood tall at a time when giant characters fell. Her perseverance, passion and liberal mind make her great while her turmoil, suspicions and weariness make her human. The author lives the life of a practical and passionate woman through the character's voice. If the fierce sister protecting Mandavi makes you cheer for Urmila, the skepticism towards her mother's judgement makes you realize her insecurity. It is rose tinted, let me remind you, speaking in colours of pink and red the trials the marriage went through and not venturing into the time after Sita's banishment into the forest. That would have been destructive to the love birds, Lakshman and Urmila. That would have been gruesome reality. As much as I would have loved to know a little bit more on that frontier, I settle contently for what the author offers. Because she brought back my original heroine of Ramayana. She reminded me of the 15 year old girl who secretly disagreed when everyone explained that Ramayana was Sita's story. It was so much more.
A tweaked, twisted and romanticized version of Ramayana, if I may, Sita's Sister gives the due respect to a woman who stood tall at a time when giant characters fell. Her perseverance, passion and liberal mind make her great while her turmoil, suspicions and weariness make her human. The author lives the life of a practical and passionate woman through the character's voice. If the fierce sister protecting Mandavi makes you cheer for Urmila, the skepticism towards her mother's judgement makes you realize her insecurity. It is rose tinted, let me remind you, speaking in colours of pink and red the trials the marriage went through and not venturing into the time after Sita's banishment into the forest. That would have been destructive to the love birds, Lakshman and Urmila. That would have been gruesome reality. As much as I would have loved to know a little bit more on that frontier, I settle contently for what the author offers. Because she brought back my original heroine of Ramayana. She reminded me of the 15 year old girl who secretly disagreed when everyone explained that Ramayana was Sita's story. It was so much more.
April 21, 2024
A very interesting perspective of the Ramayana from a woman we hardly know anything about. The author gives great depth to all the four sisters married to the princes of Ayodhya, making them not just names mentioned in the epic. I also enjoyed the well done audiobook narration.
December 22, 2014
‘O Urmila, will the world ever know of your inner suffering, your divine sacrifice?’ Sita Sister is maybe Kavita Kane’s attempt to answer this very question. A rendition of the Ramayana written from the point of view of one of the lesser known characters is what this book intends to be, but in the midst of it all, it is a story of a beautiful, strong and intelligent woman, who was, mostly ignored throughout centuries of mythological studies and research on Ramayana.
Urmila the true-born daughter of King Janak of Mithila, sister of Sita and Lakshman’s wife. A woman who had suffered as much as anyone else during Ram’s exile. Even though Valmiki has described Urmila’s sacrifice of not going along with Ram, Sita and her husband Lakshman as an unparallel sacrifice in his book, he had spared only a few verses to Urmila’s story. Kane, on the other hand, gives dimensions to Urmila that has yet been unknown.
Of course, as Valmiki has described, her sacrifice was maybe the most interesting part of her life, but saying that sure robs Urmila of the multidimensionality that Kane has beautifully endowed her protagonist with. Saying that Urmila’s life was all about her sacrifice makes her look like a docile feeble woman who was asked to stay home when her husband had to go protect his brother while she stayed home, in the meantime using her time, fourteen long years, in studying or sleeping (there are two versions, one that says she studied and became a highly respected scholar of the scriptures, which Kane has adopted in her book, and the other where she asked Nindra the goddess of sleep to take away Lakshman’s sleep so that he can perform his duty to protect Ram and Sita while Urmila herself would sleep in the entire period of the exile).
Kane’s Urmila is learned and loving, sensitive yet strong, hot headed but mature. In a book based on mythology and religious scriptures Urmila is many times mentioned to be non-religious and practical. Kane’s Urmila dotes on Sita, knowing that Sita is adopted and yet more favoured by her parents. Without being a brat about it, Urmila is understanding and at some point even forgives her parents for the injustice. Being the trueborn princess of Mithila, she is preferred over Sita, who marries Ayodhya’s ‘king to be’, Ram. Urmila falls hopelessly in love with the brooding Lakshman knowing that she will always come second to him, his first priority being his brother.
Even when the fourteen years of exile is suggested she breaks down only for a moment in utter despair but brings herself together just as quickly understanding Lakshman’s priorities. But the beauty of this Urmila is that she argues, she fights and even if she does not win all the time she lets her voice be heard. She fights for Mandavi’s (her cousin and Bharat’s wife) sake at Chitrakoot. She lashes out at the sages and scholars and questions her husband and her brother’s duties towards the women in their family. She takes royal decisions while the princes are away, she tries to bring peace to a family.
While Ram, Sita and Lakshman are in exile Urmila becomes a respected scholar. What is interesting is that Kane’s book has its own brand of feminism, where Urmila’s break the barriers of being just a wife. Kane says that the self is not gendered. That the mind is the great leveller, the great egalitarian truth. Urmila is a painter and a scholar, she calls a spade a spade and not once has she cowered down because of circumstances. Lakshman loves her not because she is docile but because she isn’t. And here one can see the great difference that is between her and Sita.
While Sita is the perfect daughter, the perfect wife one cannot help but be impressed with Urmila and her hot heatedness. Urmila openly criticises Ram for letting Sita questioning her chastity after her rescue from Lanka. She fights with Lakshman, debates with the learned sages, and even stands up to Kaikeyi and Manthara.
Sita’s Sister also bring forth other facets of the characters of Mandavi and Kirti, Bharat’s and Shatrughna’s wives. The blacks, whites and greys in the characters of the royal queens Kausalya, Sumitra and Kaikeyi.
It is an interesting read and Kavita Kane has made sure that the hitherto unknown character of Urmila shines bright throughout the book. The book wavers a lot from the popular storyline of Ramayana and thus comparing them is meaningless. The book lags a little near the end, after Ram’s exile. And it leaves the readers with many questions to ponder upon. Had Urmila been a renowned scholar if Lakshman had stayed? Was it right for Urmila to accept being the second choice for not only her parents but also her husband? Is there virtue in loving selflessly without getting a similar kind of love in return? And most importantly as Lakshman’s mother Sumitra puts it, ‘Did he (Lakshman) deserve you? Did we deserve you?’
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Urmila the true-born daughter of King Janak of Mithila, sister of Sita and Lakshman’s wife. A woman who had suffered as much as anyone else during Ram’s exile. Even though Valmiki has described Urmila’s sacrifice of not going along with Ram, Sita and her husband Lakshman as an unparallel sacrifice in his book, he had spared only a few verses to Urmila’s story. Kane, on the other hand, gives dimensions to Urmila that has yet been unknown.
Of course, as Valmiki has described, her sacrifice was maybe the most interesting part of her life, but saying that sure robs Urmila of the multidimensionality that Kane has beautifully endowed her protagonist with. Saying that Urmila’s life was all about her sacrifice makes her look like a docile feeble woman who was asked to stay home when her husband had to go protect his brother while she stayed home, in the meantime using her time, fourteen long years, in studying or sleeping (there are two versions, one that says she studied and became a highly respected scholar of the scriptures, which Kane has adopted in her book, and the other where she asked Nindra the goddess of sleep to take away Lakshman’s sleep so that he can perform his duty to protect Ram and Sita while Urmila herself would sleep in the entire period of the exile).
Kane’s Urmila is learned and loving, sensitive yet strong, hot headed but mature. In a book based on mythology and religious scriptures Urmila is many times mentioned to be non-religious and practical. Kane’s Urmila dotes on Sita, knowing that Sita is adopted and yet more favoured by her parents. Without being a brat about it, Urmila is understanding and at some point even forgives her parents for the injustice. Being the trueborn princess of Mithila, she is preferred over Sita, who marries Ayodhya’s ‘king to be’, Ram. Urmila falls hopelessly in love with the brooding Lakshman knowing that she will always come second to him, his first priority being his brother.
Even when the fourteen years of exile is suggested she breaks down only for a moment in utter despair but brings herself together just as quickly understanding Lakshman’s priorities. But the beauty of this Urmila is that she argues, she fights and even if she does not win all the time she lets her voice be heard. She fights for Mandavi’s (her cousin and Bharat’s wife) sake at Chitrakoot. She lashes out at the sages and scholars and questions her husband and her brother’s duties towards the women in their family. She takes royal decisions while the princes are away, she tries to bring peace to a family.
While Ram, Sita and Lakshman are in exile Urmila becomes a respected scholar. What is interesting is that Kane’s book has its own brand of feminism, where Urmila’s break the barriers of being just a wife. Kane says that the self is not gendered. That the mind is the great leveller, the great egalitarian truth. Urmila is a painter and a scholar, she calls a spade a spade and not once has she cowered down because of circumstances. Lakshman loves her not because she is docile but because she isn’t. And here one can see the great difference that is between her and Sita.
While Sita is the perfect daughter, the perfect wife one cannot help but be impressed with Urmila and her hot heatedness. Urmila openly criticises Ram for letting Sita questioning her chastity after her rescue from Lanka. She fights with Lakshman, debates with the learned sages, and even stands up to Kaikeyi and Manthara.
Sita’s Sister also bring forth other facets of the characters of Mandavi and Kirti, Bharat’s and Shatrughna’s wives. The blacks, whites and greys in the characters of the royal queens Kausalya, Sumitra and Kaikeyi.
It is an interesting read and Kavita Kane has made sure that the hitherto unknown character of Urmila shines bright throughout the book. The book wavers a lot from the popular storyline of Ramayana and thus comparing them is meaningless. The book lags a little near the end, after Ram’s exile. And it leaves the readers with many questions to ponder upon. Had Urmila been a renowned scholar if Lakshman had stayed? Was it right for Urmila to accept being the second choice for not only her parents but also her husband? Is there virtue in loving selflessly without getting a similar kind of love in return? And most importantly as Lakshman’s mother Sumitra puts it, ‘Did he (Lakshman) deserve you? Did we deserve you?’
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March 31, 2015
Though a bit delayed here is my review of Sita’s Sister as promised to Kavita!
“‘Oh daughter of king Janak, Janaki and princess of Mithila, Maithili…’
‘I am neither,’ Urmila corrected emphatically”
The rightful daughter of Janak and princess of Mithila, Urmila has been deprived not just her birthright but her fair share in the epic too.
She is a muted character of Ramayana. Our society has been patriarchal for ages. The epic talks about the sacrifices of Ram, Lakshman and Bharat, however little is spoken about the women. Their sacrifices are not exalted or even recorded.
I was interested in reading Sita’s Sister as very little is known about Urmila.
Kavita has done a wonderful job and the book is great work of imagination. It takes a great deal to write about a character which we know exist but do not know much about. Urmila has been portrayed as a strong personality, brains and beauty, passionate yet practical. The story is woven wonderfully around her and depicts the emotions of Urmila as a sister, new bride, responsible wife, sensible caretaker and a critical critic. Every character makes their presence felt and the bond shared between each of them is heartwarming.
Kavita’s language is simple, easy to follow due to the continuity of the story. Kavita used Urmila as a medium to ask questions that still relates to current day scenario. Also I liked the way how the author brings striking contrast between Urmila and Mandavi approach while handling the separation and pressure. From the cover art to the finish the book is too good.
This is a masterpiece by itself and voice of Urmila after so many centuries.
“‘Oh daughter of king Janak, Janaki and princess of Mithila, Maithili…’
‘I am neither,’ Urmila corrected emphatically”
The rightful daughter of Janak and princess of Mithila, Urmila has been deprived not just her birthright but her fair share in the epic too.
She is a muted character of Ramayana. Our society has been patriarchal for ages. The epic talks about the sacrifices of Ram, Lakshman and Bharat, however little is spoken about the women. Their sacrifices are not exalted or even recorded.
I was interested in reading Sita’s Sister as very little is known about Urmila.
Kavita has done a wonderful job and the book is great work of imagination. It takes a great deal to write about a character which we know exist but do not know much about. Urmila has been portrayed as a strong personality, brains and beauty, passionate yet practical. The story is woven wonderfully around her and depicts the emotions of Urmila as a sister, new bride, responsible wife, sensible caretaker and a critical critic. Every character makes their presence felt and the bond shared between each of them is heartwarming.
Kavita’s language is simple, easy to follow due to the continuity of the story. Kavita used Urmila as a medium to ask questions that still relates to current day scenario. Also I liked the way how the author brings striking contrast between Urmila and Mandavi approach while handling the separation and pressure. From the cover art to the finish the book is too good.
This is a masterpiece by itself and voice of Urmila after so many centuries.
December 30, 2014
‘Sita’s Sister’ is a courageous re-creation of mythology, which presents us with a subaltern viewpoint. It seems to be written in response to Lakshman’s burning question – ‘O Urmila! Will the world ever know of your inner suffering, your divine sacrifice?’ yet it is not just her version. Every character is given space and voice, even if the author does not let them break free from the fabric they were originally created in, or turn the events of the story accordingly. None is ‘indicted’ by the author just like none is favoured unduly. Perhaps, Kavita Kané intended to erase the black and white idealism that epics are wont to have. So, while Kavita subtly shows us ‘ugly cracks in the façade (of the palace of Ayodhaya) … hiding a lot more than they showed’ she also works us ‘a reminder … of the little evil residing in all of us.’
While each reader receives and appropriates this into their contemporary lives, the book will make us rethink even if it won’t make us question what we have lived believing. It will raise the dust, make us examine ourselves – in the man-made scheme of things and also in the larger pattern. Isn’t this what all epics the world over asked of us – Know Thyself?
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While each reader receives and appropriates this into their contemporary lives, the book will make us rethink even if it won’t make us question what we have lived believing. It will raise the dust, make us examine ourselves – in the man-made scheme of things and also in the larger pattern. Isn’t this what all epics the world over asked of us – Know Thyself?
To read the full review, click here - http://www.sakshinanda.com/2014/12/bo...
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March 30, 2018
just like her last book that I read and so much loved (Karna's Wife), this one is no different but what an amazing retelling of epic, it works only if you could ignore its misleading title and that it is from the point of view of Urmila (Sita's Sister and Lakshman's wife). Palace of Illusions still remains my favorite mytho fiction even now and Karna's wife comes a super second but this one even after my wishes couldn't come any closer to the third spot nonetheless remains a superb one time read no doubts on that.
The biggest challenge I guess the new generation of Authors face must be how to re-tell a story which is already beaten to death by so many in the past. We the readers, keep expecting magic in all the upcoming books with a keen eye and when we see the same story is told in almost the same way but just a little different point of view, it just fails. In my personal opinion that is exactly what happened (with me) with this book. I just couldn't identify with Urmila at all as she was always the second lead and even the treatment offered by Author here is the same, so much limelight is taken away by the happenings more than how she was taking it all and what was her reaction to it. Barring one outburst that she had while the entire clan visits Ram, Lakshman and Sita after the death of King Dashrath is the high point of the book after that it totally derails and never comes up to the mark and my expectations. The only good thing this book did was that it made me love Lakshman big time, you just can't help but fall in love with the man who is totally devoted to his brother. Ram and Lakshman are like one soul in two bodies, his dedication to Ram and Sita is just unparalleled. Also the character of Bharat gets some due which was over due, his reaction to his mother's decision and the way that scene unfolds in Chitrakoot is the high point of the story as I said and simply mind-blowing. But the unfortunate thing is that the book just doesn't do justice to the title and the main protagonist which it should have done. Ironically to the half point of the book the lead pair isnt even separated to take the story any forward.
Coming back to retelling of the epic of Ramayan and Mahabharat in our part of the world, we have a barrage of books and Authors doing the duty of churning out books non stop at a break neck pace in today's time. What I expected from this one and what it turns out in the end was like totally poles apart. After reading a lot of books in last couple of years and fortunately interacting with some superb writers myself, I have learned that what they want, rather try to do with their books is to "Show and don't tell" here Ms. Kane to my shock, surprise and heartbreak has totally depended on telling rather than showing the reader anything of the era from a different point of view and that is where it failed for me. I kept expecting so much from it but that was not to be. The limelight keeps going away from Urmila to Lakshman to other important characters of epic and keeps going out of her hands. I wish the narrator of the story was actually Urmila against how Kavita decided to tell the story through a third person narration. One another thing which actually made me cringe throughout the book, again to my shock was everyone calling each other by their first names. Which unfortunately even in Fictionalized account of these much loved epic(s) is totally unacceptable to me. Think of Lakshman calling Ram as "Ram" and not "Ram Bhaiya" even Sita calling Ram as Ram or Lakshman calling Kaikeyi by her first name and not "Maa Kaikeyi", C'mon, it was little too much. Also, Sita's own younger sister Urmila full time calls her by her first name and even their other two cousins keep calling Urmila and Sita by their first name. I just couldn't digest it and that one thing kept spoiling it big time for me throughout the story. And please, do not tell me that the book is written for an International audience and they wont know the titles, they can very well Google them if they want to as we do all the time when it comes to throwing Latin, French and German phrases by so many foreign Authors. On top of that she has used so many Hindi words without any issues.
Yes, originally the epic of Ramayan is an amazing story which we all are told by our own parents and grand parents to no count. This is no different yet it gave me some new pointers like "Shanta", I didn't know much about (Ram's elder sister). And I am not even going to do any research on the Historical accuracy of the story as that is totally futile. But yes, the way she has written or shall I say re-written is totally amazing, it did grip me to an extent and making me go forward plus it did made me emotional at so many points, even after knowing what is going to come next, I had tears in my eyes specially the way she explained the scene. Total credit to her writing prowess where due but this was a over-stretch from imagination point of view. The book becomes quite challenging once you cross the 200 page mark (309 total) as she actually ran out of data on Urmila and had to actually stoop to the level of Urmila trying to pacify the cat fights her two mother-in-laws were having in the palace as Ram struggled to free Sita from the clutches of dreaded Ravan. Or the regular story of Ramayan will go on but every three or four pages later she will mention Urmila just like that. Unnecessarily everyone turning to Urmila and dragging her in conversation became so boring that for once I thought of abandoning it and moving to the next book in waiting. But somehow, as I never do that to a book, I kept going forward and finished it. This is the shortest of the book that I have taken the longest to finish (almost 7 days). Such a heart-break and let down for me.
At the most it just works like an average love story of Lakshman and Urmila, nothing special.
If you have read "Sita's Sister", do let me know if you like it.
The biggest challenge I guess the new generation of Authors face must be how to re-tell a story which is already beaten to death by so many in the past. We the readers, keep expecting magic in all the upcoming books with a keen eye and when we see the same story is told in almost the same way but just a little different point of view, it just fails. In my personal opinion that is exactly what happened (with me) with this book. I just couldn't identify with Urmila at all as she was always the second lead and even the treatment offered by Author here is the same, so much limelight is taken away by the happenings more than how she was taking it all and what was her reaction to it. Barring one outburst that she had while the entire clan visits Ram, Lakshman and Sita after the death of King Dashrath is the high point of the book after that it totally derails and never comes up to the mark and my expectations. The only good thing this book did was that it made me love Lakshman big time, you just can't help but fall in love with the man who is totally devoted to his brother. Ram and Lakshman are like one soul in two bodies, his dedication to Ram and Sita is just unparalleled. Also the character of Bharat gets some due which was over due, his reaction to his mother's decision and the way that scene unfolds in Chitrakoot is the high point of the story as I said and simply mind-blowing. But the unfortunate thing is that the book just doesn't do justice to the title and the main protagonist which it should have done. Ironically to the half point of the book the lead pair isnt even separated to take the story any forward.
Coming back to retelling of the epic of Ramayan and Mahabharat in our part of the world, we have a barrage of books and Authors doing the duty of churning out books non stop at a break neck pace in today's time. What I expected from this one and what it turns out in the end was like totally poles apart. After reading a lot of books in last couple of years and fortunately interacting with some superb writers myself, I have learned that what they want, rather try to do with their books is to "Show and don't tell" here Ms. Kane to my shock, surprise and heartbreak has totally depended on telling rather than showing the reader anything of the era from a different point of view and that is where it failed for me. I kept expecting so much from it but that was not to be. The limelight keeps going away from Urmila to Lakshman to other important characters of epic and keeps going out of her hands. I wish the narrator of the story was actually Urmila against how Kavita decided to tell the story through a third person narration. One another thing which actually made me cringe throughout the book, again to my shock was everyone calling each other by their first names. Which unfortunately even in Fictionalized account of these much loved epic(s) is totally unacceptable to me. Think of Lakshman calling Ram as "Ram" and not "Ram Bhaiya" even Sita calling Ram as Ram or Lakshman calling Kaikeyi by her first name and not "Maa Kaikeyi", C'mon, it was little too much. Also, Sita's own younger sister Urmila full time calls her by her first name and even their other two cousins keep calling Urmila and Sita by their first name. I just couldn't digest it and that one thing kept spoiling it big time for me throughout the story. And please, do not tell me that the book is written for an International audience and they wont know the titles, they can very well Google them if they want to as we do all the time when it comes to throwing Latin, French and German phrases by so many foreign Authors. On top of that she has used so many Hindi words without any issues.
Yes, originally the epic of Ramayan is an amazing story which we all are told by our own parents and grand parents to no count. This is no different yet it gave me some new pointers like "Shanta", I didn't know much about (Ram's elder sister). And I am not even going to do any research on the Historical accuracy of the story as that is totally futile. But yes, the way she has written or shall I say re-written is totally amazing, it did grip me to an extent and making me go forward plus it did made me emotional at so many points, even after knowing what is going to come next, I had tears in my eyes specially the way she explained the scene. Total credit to her writing prowess where due but this was a over-stretch from imagination point of view. The book becomes quite challenging once you cross the 200 page mark (309 total) as she actually ran out of data on Urmila and had to actually stoop to the level of Urmila trying to pacify the cat fights her two mother-in-laws were having in the palace as Ram struggled to free Sita from the clutches of dreaded Ravan. Or the regular story of Ramayan will go on but every three or four pages later she will mention Urmila just like that. Unnecessarily everyone turning to Urmila and dragging her in conversation became so boring that for once I thought of abandoning it and moving to the next book in waiting. But somehow, as I never do that to a book, I kept going forward and finished it. This is the shortest of the book that I have taken the longest to finish (almost 7 days). Such a heart-break and let down for me.
At the most it just works like an average love story of Lakshman and Urmila, nothing special.
If you have read "Sita's Sister", do let me know if you like it.
January 16, 2015
A wonderfully written novel imagining the plight of who is probably the most overlooked character from the Ramayana, Urmila, Sita's sister and Lakshmana's wife. While Sita followed her husband Rama into exile from a sense of duty and Lakshmana due to the unflinching love and devotion he had for his elder brother, this left Urmila without the two biggest pillars of her life so far, her sister and her husband. How she deals with this situation, whether she breaks down or emerges stronger after this ordeal is what this book is about.
March 21, 2017
Urmila is the silent knight in not so shiny an armor. While Ram and Sita decided to go on exile and find their destiny, Urmila chose to stay back, away from the love of her life just so she could be the glue to the broken family that was left behind in the palace. Kavita portrays Urmila as a practical, witty and most of all, a strong independent women who in her own light is the hero of the story.
If I had to use a Jim Gordon reference from Batman, The Dark Knight, “Urmila is the hero Ramayan deserved, but not the one it needed at the time. So they let her endure. Because she could take it. Because she wasn’t their hero. She was a silent guardian, a watchful protector. A dark knight.”
Sita’s sister is a fresh take on Urmila’s life. Urmila comes across as a free willed, spirited individual who valued knowledge and saw life in its right light. This version of the story appealed to me far better than the popular one where it is said that Urmila had gone into a deep slumber for 14 long years so her husband and young prince Lakshmana could fulfill his purpose of serving his righteous elder brother, Ram.
In Ramayana, “Duty” plays the biggest part. Duty towards you’re your parents, your teacher, and your society. Fierce and ever protective of her sister Sita, Urmila goes that extra mile and questions Ram about his duty towards Sita. This for some reason satisfied me simply because I had the same questions when the age old myth was told a million times through a variety of perspectives and no one ever bothered asking the simple question, “If it was worth it all?”
I had often wondered what had happened on the other side of the story, in the palace once Sita, Ram and Lakshmana had gone off into exile. What did the other two brothers go through? How did the mothers of the four princes manage anything at all with their King long dead and their sons gone? This book has showed me the other side of the story and for that, I’m grateful.
What worked for me in the book was Kavita’s way of keeping things simple and not going the long way glorifying the legends. She treats each of her characters as simple humans that had to deal with human struggles and emotions.
I absolutely loved how Urmila or Mila as Lakshmana called her had the courage to deal with her situation with so much grace. Sita may be the ideal wife and the ideal daughter but Urmila is shown as the lioness who is ever so protective of her family. One cannot overlook the way in which the author has managed to let her readers get a deeper glimpse into the various emotions of Lakshmana which are often overlooked. Kavita portrays Lakshman as not just the dutiful brother but also a simple human who is vulnerable.
Another aspect that truly appealed was how Kavita had managed to give us a meaningful glimpse into the lives of the characters like Kaikeyi, Sumitra, Kousalya, Sunaina and Mandavi. These characters like that of Urmila are often neglected and very little is known of the kind of people they were. Kavita has shown how each of these women had constantly tried to stay dutiful and stood by their dharma in spite of their circumstances.
The book could have done with a more attractive cover and maybe some structuring. The time frames in the book revolve extremely fast for a few important events. I understand that this is a work of fiction and not much is said in the traditional works of Ramayana about Urmila which makes it difficult to portray, but then again, this is a work of fiction and I was hoping for more. I was left wanting for more in a few parts of the book especially in the parts where the epic war between Ram and Ravan was happening. Very little has been spoken of the kind of turmoil that the family or Urmila in particular must have been subject to at the time. Also, the ending could have been better and when I say this, I wasn’t expecting a happily ever after. Maybe, I just wanted an ending that genuinely satisfied me, good or bad. The ending was too abrupt for me to realize I was done with the book.
Ramayana is one of those stories that is re told in numerous ways and from innumerable perspectives. You cannot expect a different narrative or any major twist from the traditional tale. This book however, gives you a convincing new perspective. It is a good read and will not disappoint you.
Final Verdict: I have 3 words for the book and the lead character “Bold and Beautiful”
Other Details:
The book is available in Paperback and Kindle editions online.
If I had to use a Jim Gordon reference from Batman, The Dark Knight, “Urmila is the hero Ramayan deserved, but not the one it needed at the time. So they let her endure. Because she could take it. Because she wasn’t their hero. She was a silent guardian, a watchful protector. A dark knight.”
Sita’s sister is a fresh take on Urmila’s life. Urmila comes across as a free willed, spirited individual who valued knowledge and saw life in its right light. This version of the story appealed to me far better than the popular one where it is said that Urmila had gone into a deep slumber for 14 long years so her husband and young prince Lakshmana could fulfill his purpose of serving his righteous elder brother, Ram.
In Ramayana, “Duty” plays the biggest part. Duty towards you’re your parents, your teacher, and your society. Fierce and ever protective of her sister Sita, Urmila goes that extra mile and questions Ram about his duty towards Sita. This for some reason satisfied me simply because I had the same questions when the age old myth was told a million times through a variety of perspectives and no one ever bothered asking the simple question, “If it was worth it all?”
I had often wondered what had happened on the other side of the story, in the palace once Sita, Ram and Lakshmana had gone off into exile. What did the other two brothers go through? How did the mothers of the four princes manage anything at all with their King long dead and their sons gone? This book has showed me the other side of the story and for that, I’m grateful.
What worked for me in the book was Kavita’s way of keeping things simple and not going the long way glorifying the legends. She treats each of her characters as simple humans that had to deal with human struggles and emotions.
I absolutely loved how Urmila or Mila as Lakshmana called her had the courage to deal with her situation with so much grace. Sita may be the ideal wife and the ideal daughter but Urmila is shown as the lioness who is ever so protective of her family. One cannot overlook the way in which the author has managed to let her readers get a deeper glimpse into the various emotions of Lakshmana which are often overlooked. Kavita portrays Lakshman as not just the dutiful brother but also a simple human who is vulnerable.
Another aspect that truly appealed was how Kavita had managed to give us a meaningful glimpse into the lives of the characters like Kaikeyi, Sumitra, Kousalya, Sunaina and Mandavi. These characters like that of Urmila are often neglected and very little is known of the kind of people they were. Kavita has shown how each of these women had constantly tried to stay dutiful and stood by their dharma in spite of their circumstances.
The book could have done with a more attractive cover and maybe some structuring. The time frames in the book revolve extremely fast for a few important events. I understand that this is a work of fiction and not much is said in the traditional works of Ramayana about Urmila which makes it difficult to portray, but then again, this is a work of fiction and I was hoping for more. I was left wanting for more in a few parts of the book especially in the parts where the epic war between Ram and Ravan was happening. Very little has been spoken of the kind of turmoil that the family or Urmila in particular must have been subject to at the time. Also, the ending could have been better and when I say this, I wasn’t expecting a happily ever after. Maybe, I just wanted an ending that genuinely satisfied me, good or bad. The ending was too abrupt for me to realize I was done with the book.
Ramayana is one of those stories that is re told in numerous ways and from innumerable perspectives. You cannot expect a different narrative or any major twist from the traditional tale. This book however, gives you a convincing new perspective. It is a good read and will not disappoint you.
Final Verdict: I have 3 words for the book and the lead character “Bold and Beautiful”
Other Details:
The book is available in Paperback and Kindle editions online.
August 3, 2016
Being a fan of Valmiki's Ramayana, I dove into this book with a lot of excitement. This was my first Kavita Kane book and I absolutely loved it. Ms Kane didn't detour from the actual storyline. She simply enhanced it with the power of her imagination. Lakshmana has always intrigued me, and to see him through Urmila's eyes (made up or not) was indeed a joy.
"We could never hate each other. And hate certainly would not have been able to sustain us for the separation of the next fourteen years. It’s our love which will, Mila,’ he continued in a whisper, barely audible to her ears. "And it’s the memory of our full, sustained love which will never make us feel alone or lonely. You’ll be with me always as I shall be with you, my Mila, my Urmila, my eternal enchantress, my woman of passion and strength."
I had always wondered what happened to the other 3 princesses, and to read about Urmila (finally) was like a dream come true. The saddest thing about Urmila was that she was not allowed to follow her husband into exile, unlike Sita. Though exiled for 14 years, Sita got to be with Rama. But Urmila had to go on without Lakshmana for that same duration. How unfair is that? Lakshmana was more obligated towards Rama. He loved Rama above everything else - including his own wife. So it was a little torturous to read about him loving her and abandoning her at the same time.
I definitely felt more for Urmila in this book. Ms Kane's simple writing style made the words float effortlessly. It made me wonder even more about the rightful Janaki of Mithila. Of course, I knew what was to be expected in the end, but I still wasn't prepared for it. What happened to Urmila after Lakshmana died? Did she die before or after him? After closing the book, I was left with more burning questions. I wish Ms Kane had continued the romance between Urmila and Lakshmana a bit more upon his return instead of ending it so soon. Nevertheless, this was a wonderful read and one that I would definitely recommend to Ramayana lovers!
"We could never hate each other. And hate certainly would not have been able to sustain us for the separation of the next fourteen years. It’s our love which will, Mila,’ he continued in a whisper, barely audible to her ears. "And it’s the memory of our full, sustained love which will never make us feel alone or lonely. You’ll be with me always as I shall be with you, my Mila, my Urmila, my eternal enchantress, my woman of passion and strength."
I had always wondered what happened to the other 3 princesses, and to read about Urmila (finally) was like a dream come true. The saddest thing about Urmila was that she was not allowed to follow her husband into exile, unlike Sita. Though exiled for 14 years, Sita got to be with Rama. But Urmila had to go on without Lakshmana for that same duration. How unfair is that? Lakshmana was more obligated towards Rama. He loved Rama above everything else - including his own wife. So it was a little torturous to read about him loving her and abandoning her at the same time.
I definitely felt more for Urmila in this book. Ms Kane's simple writing style made the words float effortlessly. It made me wonder even more about the rightful Janaki of Mithila. Of course, I knew what was to be expected in the end, but I still wasn't prepared for it. What happened to Urmila after Lakshmana died? Did she die before or after him? After closing the book, I was left with more burning questions. I wish Ms Kane had continued the romance between Urmila and Lakshmana a bit more upon his return instead of ending it so soon. Nevertheless, this was a wonderful read and one that I would definitely recommend to Ramayana lovers!
October 15, 2017
I actually picked up a copy of this book on my trip to India (I got it from a small bookstore in Jaipur). I decided to get it because it seemed to be of a similar genre as my favorite book - The Palace of Illusions. I didn't start reading it until I came back to Canada though.
First of all, I'm a sucker for books that narrate an important event from a woman's perspective becaue it is rarely even considered. Being a hindu, Ramayan has always been a part of my life and I've heard the story several times. Urmila was the woman who got left behind - she lived a life of luxury in the palace while her husband went on exile to serve his brother. What we tend to do is that we focus so much on what Ram, Laxman, and Sita that we tend to forget that the so called "background characters" (especially the women) sill lead lives and still face consequences. Such are the premises upon which Sita's Sister is based.
The story starts off by showing the 4 sisters as kids where Urmila is shown as the motherly figure for her sister Sita and her two cousis Mandavi and Surkirti. It then progresses onto the swayamvar scene and life after marriage in Ayodhya. Things get complicated after that and I won't spoil how.
The reason I gave this book 5 starts is because it actually transported me to another world. I was actually living life as Urmila. I felt her pain as she got rejected by Laxman at first, as her sister Mandavi came under the clutches of Manthara, etc. And I also felt the excitement she felt whenever Laxman set her wild hair free by taking off the hairpin. All in all, it takes you on a rollercoaster of emotions and leaves you feeling empty after you are done.
I also bought a copy of Karna's Wife by the same author and will soon be reading that as well. I hope it's just as good as this one!
First of all, I'm a sucker for books that narrate an important event from a woman's perspective becaue it is rarely even considered. Being a hindu, Ramayan has always been a part of my life and I've heard the story several times. Urmila was the woman who got left behind - she lived a life of luxury in the palace while her husband went on exile to serve his brother. What we tend to do is that we focus so much on what Ram, Laxman, and Sita that we tend to forget that the so called "background characters" (especially the women) sill lead lives and still face consequences. Such are the premises upon which Sita's Sister is based.
The story starts off by showing the 4 sisters as kids where Urmila is shown as the motherly figure for her sister Sita and her two cousis Mandavi and Surkirti. It then progresses onto the swayamvar scene and life after marriage in Ayodhya. Things get complicated after that and I won't spoil how.
The reason I gave this book 5 starts is because it actually transported me to another world. I was actually living life as Urmila. I felt her pain as she got rejected by Laxman at first, as her sister Mandavi came under the clutches of Manthara, etc. And I also felt the excitement she felt whenever Laxman set her wild hair free by taking off the hairpin. All in all, it takes you on a rollercoaster of emotions and leaves you feeling empty after you are done.
I also bought a copy of Karna's Wife by the same author and will soon be reading that as well. I hope it's just as good as this one!
December 30, 2015
Sita's sister is the heart-wrenching tale of the bold, strong, confident and beautiful Urmila, written exquisitely to win the reader's heart. At first, I was a bit sceptical about reading the book as I thought a new, untouched perspective on the Ramayana could be misleading. However, as I picked up the book for a casual read, I got totally absorbed in it. Sita's sister, the book, gathers the reader's attention.
As it flowed about briefly describing the childhood of Urmila and her sisters, elaborating upon their youthful fantasies and their struggle to uphold their dharma in the times of trouble; everything was so smooth and real as well as truly enchanting.
This book has opened up new perceptions, questions, doorways for the readers. I don't know how much was the truth in this side of the tale but I could truly feel Urmila's emotions as the story took various turns and with each step created a very strong and deep respect for Urmila in my heart.
As it flowed about briefly describing the childhood of Urmila and her sisters, elaborating upon their youthful fantasies and their struggle to uphold their dharma in the times of trouble; everything was so smooth and real as well as truly enchanting.
This book has opened up new perceptions, questions, doorways for the readers. I don't know how much was the truth in this side of the tale but I could truly feel Urmila's emotions as the story took various turns and with each step created a very strong and deep respect for Urmila in my heart.
December 1, 2017
Urmila and Lakshman!
I expected a different kind of story, the one where Urmila would weep and abandon her family for being unfair; where she would rant about her loss, etc.
But this book was much above my expectations. It opened my doors to a different Ramayan, where Urmila was not a sufferer. She stood strong and held the entire family together. She was a true lover; sacrificed and yet loved more. Beautifully written by Kavita Kane.
The transition of the entire story was beautiful. Every character showcased a strong, deep meaning to commitment and family; which was otherwise difficult to understand.
I expected a different kind of story, the one where Urmila would weep and abandon her family for being unfair; where she would rant about her loss, etc.
But this book was much above my expectations. It opened my doors to a different Ramayan, where Urmila was not a sufferer. She stood strong and held the entire family together. She was a true lover; sacrificed and yet loved more. Beautifully written by Kavita Kane.
The transition of the entire story was beautiful. Every character showcased a strong, deep meaning to commitment and family; which was otherwise difficult to understand.
August 19, 2015
Not as good as "Karna's Wife" but still explores such aspects of the epic that are not so well known. The character of Urmila forms the central theme of the book but one gets to know a lot more about the four sisters that got married to the four brothers. Some of the conversations are poignant. Another book "Scions of Ishkvaku" is also based around the same period of Ramyan but appears more credible and convincing. The narration too is much better.
May 24, 2018
The author has a way of taking the least known characters of mythology and making us see a different perspective.
In this book she brings the emotion of solitude, of yearning for her husband who forsaked her for his brother. The bitter truth of the vanavas and the harsh realities of the Ramayana. Kavitha is a true artist in herself to write such a emotional roller coaster ride which is gripping and saddening. Can't wait to start her next book.
In this book she brings the emotion of solitude, of yearning for her husband who forsaked her for his brother. The bitter truth of the vanavas and the harsh realities of the Ramayana. Kavitha is a true artist in herself to write such a emotional roller coaster ride which is gripping and saddening. Can't wait to start her next book.
May 31, 2016
though it is fantastic it is little bit boring in some areas...when it is compared to karnas wife...it deserves 4 stars only....As always it deserves 5 stars for my favourite author....
August 11, 2016
Sorry, but I really didn't like the way the sisters looked down upon Sita.
June 22, 2021
I have read Ramayana & few other books related to Ramayana. But never learnt or thought about the character " Urmila". None of those books actually could shade any light on her sufferings & struggles. She had to be separated from her husband because Laxman chose Ram over Urmila.
To become a dutiful brother he left his wife Urmila for 14 long years.
And what happened inside the palace after Ram, Sita & Laxman left for forest? Who held the family together when all queens were shattered with demise of their husband & separation from their sons?
So this the story about "Urmila" - most underrated but one of the strongest character of mythology Ramayana.
I am astonished & amazed with Urmila's selflessness, strength & wits.
Urmila was the real daughter of King Janak & Queen Sunaina of Mithila yet it was adopted daughter Sita who got the name Janki & maithili.
Urmila loved her sister Sita whole heartedly. She didn't indulge in any self pity from the start.
She was the tigress. An opinionated voice which couldn't be suppressed or ignored.
One must have read many powerful female characters but still Urmila will stand out.
There is so much there to learn from her.
Things I loved about Urmila, she never blamed others for her fate. She did not forget the pain of others even at the times when her own world was shattered.
She believed in love & didn't give up hope. And she conquered.
What an amazing read it was by Kavita Kane.
I strongly recommend Sita's sister to everyone especially those who love some feminist content. 😘😘
To become a dutiful brother he left his wife Urmila for 14 long years.
And what happened inside the palace after Ram, Sita & Laxman left for forest? Who held the family together when all queens were shattered with demise of their husband & separation from their sons?
So this the story about "Urmila" - most underrated but one of the strongest character of mythology Ramayana.
I am astonished & amazed with Urmila's selflessness, strength & wits.
Urmila was the real daughter of King Janak & Queen Sunaina of Mithila yet it was adopted daughter Sita who got the name Janki & maithili.
Urmila loved her sister Sita whole heartedly. She didn't indulge in any self pity from the start.
She was the tigress. An opinionated voice which couldn't be suppressed or ignored.
One must have read many powerful female characters but still Urmila will stand out.
There is so much there to learn from her.
Things I loved about Urmila, she never blamed others for her fate. She did not forget the pain of others even at the times when her own world was shattered.
She believed in love & didn't give up hope. And she conquered.
What an amazing read it was by Kavita Kane.
I strongly recommend Sita's sister to everyone especially those who love some feminist content. 😘😘
February 9, 2023
I've always liked reading books from the perspective of different characters. And one such book is the Ramayana where stories are told from the point of view of different characters.
This book is the story from Urmila's perspective. The book is wonderful and sad. Sita's bravery, sacrifice and difficulties are known to all of us. But reading the book from Urmila's perspective gave it a new light. A lot of unknown facts about her life are told and it is extremely well written. Her love for Lakshman, their separation, her beautiful paintings and her interest in gaining knowledge and of course her unique anger.
There is a secret of Kaikai revealed here that I had not heard or read in any version of Ramayana so far and it was fascinating. Also, this version of the story does not talk about Urmila accepting the sleep of Lakshman because he wanted to stay awake always to protect his brother and sister-in-law.
Overall, it's a fabulous book, really sad story and is recommended to all mythology lovers and those who like reading the story from various characters perspective.
This book is the story from Urmila's perspective. The book is wonderful and sad. Sita's bravery, sacrifice and difficulties are known to all of us. But reading the book from Urmila's perspective gave it a new light. A lot of unknown facts about her life are told and it is extremely well written. Her love for Lakshman, their separation, her beautiful paintings and her interest in gaining knowledge and of course her unique anger.
There is a secret of Kaikai revealed here that I had not heard or read in any version of Ramayana so far and it was fascinating. Also, this version of the story does not talk about Urmila accepting the sleep of Lakshman because he wanted to stay awake always to protect his brother and sister-in-law.
Overall, it's a fabulous book, really sad story and is recommended to all mythology lovers and those who like reading the story from various characters perspective.
September 27, 2024
I NEED A SPECIAL HARDCOVER EDITION GLITTERING IN ALL ITS GLORY.
July 21, 2016
The ramayana has been retold by many from the collected views of Ram, Sita, Hanuman, Ravana. It told the tales of the dutiful wife, Sita who followed her husband, Ram into exile; the brother, Lakshman who devoted his life to the service of his brother; the duties of a kind; the sense of brotherhood among the four sons of Dasharatha and the heroic war where Ram killed Ravan. What was never told of was the happenings at Ayodhya during the exile.
One of the unsung heroes - Sita's Sister - Urmila, Urmi, Mila, the enchantress as her name suggests,the overlooked blood daughter of King Janak, the rightful Janaki, Maithili, the one who played the second fiddle to her sister, the dutiful but neglected wife of Lakshman, who had to wait for fourteen painfully long years, the outspoken, the fierce, the scholar no one acknowledged, the peacemaker, the doting but not-so-demure daughter-in-law of Ayodhya, the one who questioned the duties of a man to his wife and mothers -
narrates the same in a beautiful way though life has been unfair to her.Never did she let herself be filled with self-pity or remorse by the turn of events. Let down by her sister and husband, she managed the affairs of Ayodhya exceptionally well, fought for her nieces' rights, and held the family together through the testing times.
The other versions of Ramayana which dismissed her to have spent a long slumber for the fourteen years seem unjust. And another appreciable fact is the portrayal of Kaikeyi. It does change the way ones view of her.
It is a great book for all lovers of Indian Mythology. And Kavita Kane's use of language is fluid and easy. I did have expectations on this book after having read Karna's Wife and it was definitely held. She has for sure set her mark as one of the best authors of this time.
One of the unsung heroes - Sita's Sister - Urmila, Urmi, Mila, the enchantress as her name suggests,the overlooked blood daughter of King Janak, the rightful Janaki, Maithili, the one who played the second fiddle to her sister, the dutiful but neglected wife of Lakshman, who had to wait for fourteen painfully long years, the outspoken, the fierce, the scholar no one acknowledged, the peacemaker, the doting but not-so-demure daughter-in-law of Ayodhya, the one who questioned the duties of a man to his wife and mothers -
narrates the same in a beautiful way though life has been unfair to her.Never did she let herself be filled with self-pity or remorse by the turn of events. Let down by her sister and husband, she managed the affairs of Ayodhya exceptionally well, fought for her nieces' rights, and held the family together through the testing times.
The other versions of Ramayana which dismissed her to have spent a long slumber for the fourteen years seem unjust. And another appreciable fact is the portrayal of Kaikeyi. It does change the way ones view of her.
It is a great book for all lovers of Indian Mythology. And Kavita Kane's use of language is fluid and easy. I did have expectations on this book after having read Karna's Wife and it was definitely held. She has for sure set her mark as one of the best authors of this time.
November 7, 2017
"Marriage did not hold much interest for Urmila but it was a social discipline she would have to conform to. She would rather seek knowledge instead of a suitor."
I love mythological genre especially when it comes to exploring Ramayana in every possible way. Honestly I purchased this book since I wanted to know Sita's Sister, Urmila's side of the Ramayana. It is a wonderfully narrated tale that fills in the gap in the Ramayana that completely ignores these ladies, after their mention at their wedding. This was my first Kavita Kane book and I absolutely loved it.
This book recites the great mythological Ramayana from Urmila's perspective, who is the most overlooked character. She is being portrayed as the central character here rather than being Sita's Sister. This book explores the pain and hardships endured by Urmila during the 14 year exile of Ram, Laxman and Sita.
Urmila was a well-learned scholar, out-spoken, head-strong woman who stood elegantly brave even in despair and desolation. She was the bravest among her four sisters and well versed in Upanishads and Vedas.
" I assure you that I shall never come between your loyalty to your brothers and your family."
Her love for Laxman was so deep and eternal that even after knowing that his first priority is his brother Ram , she married him. After being separated from his beloved sister and husband, Urmila kept her family together , performed her dharma as a wife, daughter, daughter-in-law and above all a sister. The maturity and the understanding she showed for 14 long years was commendable.
She was a dutiful daughter-in-law, a warrior wife, binding spirit for her sisters as well as her family.
I was always fascinated by Urmila's sacrifice and her part of the story and Kavita Kane absolutely managed to narrate her story in a simple and an amazing way. She captures the inner feelings of a woman perfectly. For me this book is a must read. I really enjoyed it a lot.
My Rating : 3.5/5
I love mythological genre especially when it comes to exploring Ramayana in every possible way. Honestly I purchased this book since I wanted to know Sita's Sister, Urmila's side of the Ramayana. It is a wonderfully narrated tale that fills in the gap in the Ramayana that completely ignores these ladies, after their mention at their wedding. This was my first Kavita Kane book and I absolutely loved it.
This book recites the great mythological Ramayana from Urmila's perspective, who is the most overlooked character. She is being portrayed as the central character here rather than being Sita's Sister. This book explores the pain and hardships endured by Urmila during the 14 year exile of Ram, Laxman and Sita.
Urmila was a well-learned scholar, out-spoken, head-strong woman who stood elegantly brave even in despair and desolation. She was the bravest among her four sisters and well versed in Upanishads and Vedas.
" I assure you that I shall never come between your loyalty to your brothers and your family."
Her love for Laxman was so deep and eternal that even after knowing that his first priority is his brother Ram , she married him. After being separated from his beloved sister and husband, Urmila kept her family together , performed her dharma as a wife, daughter, daughter-in-law and above all a sister. The maturity and the understanding she showed for 14 long years was commendable.
She was a dutiful daughter-in-law, a warrior wife, binding spirit for her sisters as well as her family.
I was always fascinated by Urmila's sacrifice and her part of the story and Kavita Kane absolutely managed to narrate her story in a simple and an amazing way. She captures the inner feelings of a woman perfectly. For me this book is a must read. I really enjoyed it a lot.
My Rating : 3.5/5
July 19, 2015
"Sita's Sister"- The best thing that could ever happen to this avid reader.
After a long time I read a book having finished which I felt a deep void. Being a devotee of lord Ram I had always been intrigued by the tale of his life "Ramayan". I always knew there was more to this epic than Lord Ram slaying the demon Ravan and the "victory of good over evil." I was always on the lookout for on-line articles that gave more details about the lesser known characters and their role in this renowned epic.
In such a scenario "Sita's Sister" was the best thing that could ever happen to me. Sita's Sister details the life of Urmila with some fictional figments which make the tale all the more beautiful and intriguing. The language is beautiful almost lyrical. At times I could actually feel all that she must have been growing through. I had always cherished and admired Urmila's character and reading this book makes me feel proud of my admiration.
Kavita mam gave a voice to Urmila and a very strong one. Thank you mam for writing this book and please keep writing more such mythological masterpieces.
A must read !!!
After a long time I read a book having finished which I felt a deep void. Being a devotee of lord Ram I had always been intrigued by the tale of his life "Ramayan". I always knew there was more to this epic than Lord Ram slaying the demon Ravan and the "victory of good over evil." I was always on the lookout for on-line articles that gave more details about the lesser known characters and their role in this renowned epic.
In such a scenario "Sita's Sister" was the best thing that could ever happen to me. Sita's Sister details the life of Urmila with some fictional figments which make the tale all the more beautiful and intriguing. The language is beautiful almost lyrical. At times I could actually feel all that she must have been growing through. I had always cherished and admired Urmila's character and reading this book makes me feel proud of my admiration.
Kavita mam gave a voice to Urmila and a very strong one. Thank you mam for writing this book and please keep writing more such mythological masterpieces.
A must read !!!
July 17, 2017
I know many have appreciated this book but I couldn't get over the one-dimensional approach used to describe most characters, with Rama, Lakshmana, Sita and Urmila depicted as nothing short of perfect. Their only supposed failing was that they put duty above everything else. Urmila is described as someone who has a fierce temperament, but uses it only to talk of injustice, and eventually obeys the will of the society. Even Kaikeyi had very good reasons for having committed those transgressions.
Quite frankly the book reminded me of all those interviews were candidates claim that their only shortcoming is that they are "workaholics". I'm aware that my frustration stems from a lifetime of hearing about the sanctity of the character of Rama. Hence, I expected something contrary in this book, which after all was the author's take on Urmila and didn't have to be completely limited to the popular narrative.I think I would have really preferred hearing Urmila's point of view once Rama exiles Sita.
Quite frankly the book reminded me of all those interviews were candidates claim that their only shortcoming is that they are "workaholics". I'm aware that my frustration stems from a lifetime of hearing about the sanctity of the character of Rama. Hence, I expected something contrary in this book, which after all was the author's take on Urmila and didn't have to be completely limited to the popular narrative.I think I would have really preferred hearing Urmila's point of view once Rama exiles Sita.
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February 12, 2019
A compelling look at one of the more overlooked heroes of Ramayan. Smooth reading. It is interesting to see Urmila in all her complex roles. It's also fun to see Lakshman as a husband and a lover, not just as a brother and a son. There are some spelling and grammar mistakes, so an edit would be good. There are also some inconsistencies which should be worked out. What happened to Urmila's "long sleep?" Are we to assume that everything that happens after "the meeting" and until "the return" is a dream? If so, how does she find out about the ongoing events? Speaking of "the meeting," Urmila asks common, and important, questions. It seems far-fetched that the great rishis present there would be unable or unwilling to answer her, and just as far-fetched that they would admonish her for daring to question them. This part seems to be based more on the author's own biases and it leaves an unnecessary gap in the story. Overall, this is a pleasant read though. I look forward to reading more of Kane's work.
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