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It should be noted that some people (e.g., people with certain disabilities, or those on the [[Autism|autistic spectrum]]) use and understand body language differently, or not at all. Interpreting their gestures and facial expressions (or lack thereof) in the context of [[neurotypical|normal]] body language usually leads to misunderstandings and misinterpretations (especially if body language is given priority over spoken language). It should also be stated that people from different [[culture]]s can interpret body language in different ways. |
It should be noted that some people (e.g., people with certain disabilities, or those on the [[Autism|autistic spectrum]]) use and understand body language differently, or not at all. Interpreting their gestures and facial expressions (or lack thereof) in the context of [[neurotypical|normal]] body language usually leads to misunderstandings and misinterpretations (especially if body language is given priority over spoken language). It should also be stated that people from different [[culture]]s can interpret body language in different ways. |
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'''Personal Space and Body Language''' |
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If you are closer than arms reach, then you are in someone’s personal space zone. This is the first lesson you must learn. To create more space in crowded areas such as elevators and bars, people often tense-up and use their arms as protection. They will hold them close to their body (crossed), and they will also avoid eye contact. If a woman you know is doing this in your presence and you are not in an elevator then she is sending you a strong message of disinterest. You will not get very far with a person that holds closed by postures so you would be best advised to give them some space, back up a few paces and allow them to reduce their tension. If a woman steps back when you approach her, it does not necessarily mean that she does not like you, it just means that they she needs some more time to get comfortable. People guard their space passionately, wherever it is, and will not appreciate it if you invade it. Respecting people’s intimate space includes not invading it with objects or body parts unless they are welcomed. This includes any personal objects, your bag, jacket, or body. |
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'''Signals of Female Sexual Interest''' |
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Signals that women use to show interest to a man include: The room encompassing glance, the parade, echoing and mirroring, pointing, Legs crossed toward, the pointing knee, the leg twine, pigeon toes |
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head tilt, neck Touching, shoulder shrugs, rotation of the Pelvis, hair play, showing the wrist, grooming and preening, showing the wrists, skirt hike, laughing and smiling, eye contact, tapping her forearm, forehead bow, touching, childlike playfulness, showing skin sensitivity. |
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'''Signals of Female Sexual Disinterest''' |
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Signals that women use to show disinterest toward a man includes: crossing and blocking, showing the tongue through compressed lips, full body steeple, appearing bored, avoiding proximity. |
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== References == |
== References == |
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* http://BodyLanguageProject.com] - E-book on Sexual Body Language and Dating. 2007-08. |
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* [[Albert Mehrabian]] and his 7%-38%-55% Rule. |
* [[Albert Mehrabian]] and his 7%-38%-55% Rule. |
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* [[Allan Pease]] Body Language (over 30 years of research) |
* [[Allan Pease]] Body Language (over 30 years of research) |
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Body language is a term for communication using body movements or gestures instead of, or in addition to, sounds, verbal language or other communication. It forms part of the category of paralanguage, which describes all forms of human communication that are not verbal language. This includes the most subtle of movements that many people are not aware of, including winking and slight movement of the eyebrows. In addition body language can also incorporate the use of facial expressions.
Understanding body language
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Although they are generally not aware of it, many people send and receive non-verbal signals all the time. These signals may indicate what they are truly feeling. The technique of 'reading' people is used frequently. For example, the idea of mirroring body language to put people at ease is commonly used in interviews. It sets the person being interviewed at ease. Mirroring the body language of someone else indicates that they are understood.
Body language signals may have a goal other than communication. Both people would keep this in mind. Observers limit the weight they place on non-verbal cues. Signallers clarify their signals to indicate the biological origin of their actions.
- One of the most basic and powerful body-language signals is when a person crosses his or her arms across the chest. This can indicate that a person is putting up an unconscious barrier between themselves and others. It can also indicate that the person's arms are cold which would be clarified by rubbing the arms or huddling. When the overall situation is amicable, it can mean that a person is thinking deeply about what is being discussed. But in a serious or confrontational situation, it can mean that a person is expressing opposition. This is especially so if the person is leaning away from the speaker. A harsh or blank facial expression often indicates outright hostility. Such a person is not an ally, and may be considering contentious tactics.
- Consistent eye contact can indicate that a person is thinking positively of what the speaker is saying. It can also mean that the other person doesn't trust the speaker enough to "take his eyes off" the speaker. Lack of eye contact can indicate negativity. On the other hand, individuals with anxiety disorders are often unable to make eye contact without discomfort. Eye contact is often a secondary and misleading gesture because we are taught from an early age to make eye contact when speaking. If a person is looking at you but is making the arms-across-chest signal, the eye contact could be indicative that something is bothering the person, and that he wants to talk about it. Or if while making direct eye contact a person is fiddling with something, even while directly looking at you, it could indicate the attention is elsewhere.
- Disbelief is often indicated by averted gaze, or by touching the ear or scratching the chin. So is eyestrain, or itchiness. When a person is not being convinced by what someone is saying, the attention invariably wanders, and the eyes will stare away for an extended period.
- Boredom is indicated by the head tilting to one side, or by the eyes looking straight at the speaker but becoming slightly unfocused. A head tilt may also indicate a sore neck, and unfocused eyes may indicate ocular problems in the listener.
- Interest can be indicated through posture or extended eye contact.
It should be noted that some people (e.g., people with certain disabilities, or those on the autistic spectrum) use and understand body language differently, or not at all. Interpreting their gestures and facial expressions (or lack thereof) in the context of normal body language usually leads to misunderstandings and misinterpretations (especially if body language is given priority over spoken language). It should also be stated that people from different cultures can interpret body language in different ways.
References
- Albert Mehrabian and his 7%-38%-55% Rule.
- Allan Pease Body Language (over 30 years of research)
- Argyle, M. (1990). Bodily communication (2nd edition). New York: International Universities Press. ISBN 0823605515
- Livingston, Drs. Sharon and Glen (2004). How to Use Body language. Psy Tech Inc.
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